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How We Picked Our Second Son’s Name

If you have been following this blog you will probably remember my post regarding how we named our first son. If you are new you are more than welcome to read that blog here.

Choosing a name for another human being is probably one of the hardest things that my partner and I have ever done in our entire lives. There is so many possibilities that you can choose from and scenarios that you also need to think of. You have to think about nick names, you have to think about bullies and school. Maybe the name is totally different and there is different names that can come from their name. There is also the possibility of spelling. Some names spellings can be changes or altered but how far are you willing to take it though? Will it be unrecognizable if you change to many of the letters? Will it be easy to pronounce? There is so much that you need to be aware of when naming a child that you really cannot rush how it happens.

Then there is the other possibilities, will there be multiple names? Will you choose to use a family name or one that is older. Will you use a new name or retro one? Then if you are like us, we think if we ever knew someone who had the names we liked and if we knew someone with the same name regardless if it was a good or awkward person we refuse to use the name because it is essentially “tainted” in the sense that we don’t want to reuse a name that we already know someone with.

When we named our first son Vincent, again you can read the story here, it was kind of a moment that clicked. We both agreed and it was a name that we really liked as soon as we heard it. With our newest son, it was a little more challenging.

I may or may not have mentioned it in the previous blog but for the longest time I liked the name Felix. Why? No idea. This was a name that was brought up for our 1st son and my spouse was not having it. He did not like the name. We then found out we were having yet another little boy and I kept revisiting the name. My theory was maybe the name was lucky for success. Look at Pewdiepie, one of the most successful YouTubers in the world. His name is Felix. Then you have the streamer xQc who is actually from Quebec and also arguably one of the most successful streamers in the world. His name is Felix. So I thought maybe there is something to do with the name and maybe it has luck to it. My boyfriend STILL hated this idea.

I began to half drop the idea of this name being used because he was so adamant on not using the name. So off I go searching for a name that seemed to be way harder the second time around to find another little boys name that would meet our needs. The few criteria that we had was that it be a name we knew no one who had (Personally I guess) and that it was a name that could easily be said in both french and English since my family is English and his is French.

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I start looking and looking and looking and looking. Anyone who has had to name a baby can tell you that eventually no matter how many different lists or sites you look on you seem to find the exact same names popping up. This was happening to me. I legit was seeing the same names, some that I liked most I did not. Eventually I had told my boyfriend that I need him to look up some names and lists because I was becoming short sighted and only seeing the same names over and over again and it was getting harder to pick the ones out. Well, He started also looking at the lists. Suddenly Felix kept popping up as a name. As he continued to keep going through the lists he was becoming more and more into the name. It was still a name we never knew anyone with, and it was a name that was not at all weird or strange and was very easy to pronounce in both languages. Suddenly he decided that yes, we would keep the name Felix.

As for the middle name, we decided to give him the same middle name as his father. Our first Vincent, has the same middle name as my dad and my brother. This only seemed fitting to use the same name as him to pass along a little bit. We do have a few possible middle names if by chance the 3rd one is also a boy, which we do hope it is a girl (Obviously healthy is best but still nice to day dream). However if the last child we would like to have is a girl they would have my middle name though.

As you can obviously see, regardless if you are having your 1st child or your 6th one. Naming a baby is tough work. Not to mention, we did have names from previously that we made when we named our 1st however as time passes you don’t love the names anymore or you are not feeling them. You still keep them on the list in case maybe your mind comes back around to them but you aren’t going to use them for this particular child. Maybe the 3rd one when the time comes, will be like it was with our first, or maybe with this current fella now!

Did you find it hard to choose the name of your child?
Do you have any specific little rules that you also try to follow when narrowing down the list of names?

Let me know in the comments below, I would LOVE to hear all of your tips and tricks as well!

How We Picked My Son’s Name

First of all, I would like to start by saying picking the name of a human is probably one of the hardest things you will ever have to do when it comes to raising a child and deciding on having a family. You have to remember that this kid is STUCK essentially with this name until they are able to have the funds to rename themselves to something they would like. Which you hope doesn’t happen or it probably would feel like a huge slap in the face.

Since my boyfriend is French Canadian and I am English Canadian we had wanted one non-negotiable rule, That was whether we had a boy or a girl the name be bilingual. We wanted it to be a name that spelled in English and in French it was the exact same. How you pronounce it would be different, sure, but the spelling would basically be the same. So for example, David can be said both English and French, Just add an accent, But spelling is the same. Pierre would be another name but we both were not fans and Ill come to a reason why in a bit!

When naming a kid I have a very strict rule, well, many strict rules when you think about it! My boyfriend also follows this however I don’t think he does so quite as much as I do. One of the major rules I try to follow is that if I EVER knew someone by that name in my life I did not want to name my son that name. I will obviously follow that for another child however that is a big no-no. It is almost like the name is now tainted for me. If I knew someone names Shane in Elementary who did something completely dumb in school I do not want to name my kid that. All I will think of is that dumb thing that Shane did back in school whenever I see my own kid! And this goes with basically anyone I ever remembered, From crushes I liked, To ex’s, to kids in my school, or I played sports with. I really don’t care the reasoning I just know that I will never name my kid someone I knew or heard of growing up.

Another would be spelling, so many people out in the world try to spell their child’s name different. They take a popular name or something that people know and they change the spelling of it. Most time my stupidity cannot understand how to even pronounce the new name even though it looks completely different and said the exact same. We knew picking our child’s name that we did not want to mess with the spelling and then see how that goes for the rest of their lives. We wanted something simple. Easy to spell also. Something like Khai-Leigh, but pronounced Kylie, Or something like Airecka, but pronounced like Erica. We did not want our child to have to tell someone how to pronounce their name the entire time they are alive because it is spelled so wonky that the person trying to read it won’t get it.

Popular names are for sure off of the list. I know you know what I mean by popular names. That would be the names you had in your class growing up that they had to be referred to by their last initial. They were the Ashley’s, Melissa’s, and Sarah’s, the Ryan’s, Adam’s, and Matthew’s. We did not want our child to have a name that just about everyone on the planet had. Okay maybe that is an exaggeration but you know what I mean. Remember Son’s of Anarchy and when that came out on TV. How many people had children and named them Jaxon. I bet you I can name 3 at least right now. Whether it be from the show or not. Still. Since we wanted to have a name that was bilingual this would mean the Pierre, Olivier, Andre, and Sophie, and many more that we already knew people whit those names also. We wanted an original name not one that everyone could say “Oh Yeah, I know someone named that also”.

How we decided our son’s name was quite interesting. One night we were watching Netflix. Since I am big into subtitles now after being a changed woman, We were watching a french documentary on the mass shooting in France. I feel like it was called 13, Because it happened on the 13th of November but honestly I could be wrong. However they had people on their talking and discussing the events that took place. One of the survivors name’s was Vincent. We kind of looked at one another and had said together, What do you think about Vincent? And then in complete disbelief we couldn’t believe that we had actually agreed on a name that we both liked since we were having challenges finding a boy’s name that we both enjoyed. It was such a pleasant surprise that we had both found a name we liked and completely unexpected especially after browsing lists and lists with names we both didn’t agree on.

As for middle name (s), we chose one that was related to my father. Maybe with another boy we would choose one closer to my boyfriend’s family or a girl would probably share the same middle name as me. We don’t want them to have a lot of middle names, just one will do. However there are many reasons why people chose middle names as well. For us, It was more or less just family related.

As you can see that there is more to it than just choosing a name you like when deciding to have children. Not only that, But considering my bf and I would like to expand our family a 2nd and 3rd time in the near future I am sure we will be in the same boat again with names. Sometimes a name you will both like will show up where you least expect it! I would assume that we might revisit some of the names we previously liked but who knows, maybe we wont like them anymore! Or many Vincent will be old enough to help us decide too. Time will tell really. All I know is that regardless of how many kids we have, these are pretty strong rules that we both will probably follow.

If you have children, How did you decide on their name?
Comment below, I would love to hear your stories too!

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