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What is COVID like for Kids?

If are new here you may not have seen my post about what it is like for Covid in adults, however have no fear I have linked it here and you can read all about it here. This post in particular would be what I will be writing in regards to my kids having Covid.

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So, my kids had Covid when I did. My son’s were aged 2 years old and my youngest was 8 months old. My youngest had gotten it first and then my oldest a few days later. Here is what it was like for them.

A fever was the first thing that happened. Both my oldest and youngest started with fevers. Nothing super high and they were manageable with medicine. The best thing we did was tried to space the Tylenol out in order to make sure they both got a dose before bedtime. Overall nights were not that bad I would say. There was one night that my youngest had a rougher night where my partner would spend time staying up with him and I was trying to get some sleep to pass my own sickness. That was really hard. The fever did break with one dose. I have seen people piggy backing Advil or Motrin with Tylenol to bring down fevers however we were lucky and only needed Tylenol though. We never needed to piggy back beds at all. Which was a relief. We also gave a warm back to my oldest one evening as well and this seemed to help also in terms of fevers. Obviously when you try to cool a temperature in children do not use extremely cold water as it can make them go into shock so this was just for cooling down a bit.

The second was runny nose and stuffed up. Mind you they never really had boogies dripping from their faces all day but they were far more stuffed up than I was. We just made sure it never ran down their mouths and their faces never got crusted with them and that seemed to help a lot.

Their appetites also were like mine however they did eat more that is for sure. With our youngest we tried to just increase his bottles of formula and did more of sweet fruit meals instead since we knew he would eat it. My oldest we did get some Pedialyte for him, Freezies which he didn’t care too much for and we pushed fluids a bit more. We also gave him different snacks and things to help make up for the meals he really wasn’t fond of finishing. This was great for them. Also lots of sleep. We let them sleep a bit more however we did still make sure they woke at a normal time in terms of day time naps. This was because even being sick, and how important sleep was, we did not want to make them have a totally changed schedule. This helped a lot also too.

As far as behavior goes, they both were as you would predict, more fussy. They were both very cuddly and thankfully my partner never really got Covid (Very faint line one day but the next was negative). He was able to also help with cuddles and things and when I needed to have a nap I was able to. I dont even want to imagine if we both had it how the house would have ran then! After a few days my oldest was back to running up and down the hall way and all around the house too.

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Sleeping I would say overall was alright too. I think because they had relatively mild symptoms they did well. As I mentioned in the covid post here my youngest had a harder time sleeping for the first night he had it, he was up unable to settle, and then my oldest was okay waking a few times but overall okay though. I know there are some stories where kids did not sleep for a lot longer however we got lucky.

Another minor thing was that we all have a cough. Mind you it is hard to tell in my boys because they both seem to cough and if you are watching them cough sometimes they tend to make themselves cough more or something as well too. Which is incredibly funny but also annoying a touch too. Even later by a few weeks do we still have a cough, I talk about that more in the long Covid post and surprise symptoms that people can get in the blog post here. Some of them were not fun at all and it was actually nutty how it still lingered so long!

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I will say though, I have heard stories where kids get sick, throw up, or have it far worse however our boys did really well for the circumstances. Kids are super resilient and are able to bounce back from things. Was Covid what I thought it would be in them? Sure. Though to be completely honest I never really sat here and though what if we got Covid. I wanted to sit here and think about everything we can do to prevent it however here we are when we still had gotten it. I just am thankful this stupid chapter is behind us and hopefully we wont be having this unexpected visitor in our home again. I am also super thankful that it ended in the house and we never needed to find any outside interventions in terms of needing actual medical attention. You always hope when your child or children come down with any sickness, that it can pass fast, and you do not need to bring them to a hospital.

Though, I am certainly not complaining about all of the extra cuddles that we did in fact get I don’t want them to be sick to get them again in order to get them!

Diaper Bag Essentials

When having a baby a solid staple that you want to have is a diaper bag. You want it to fit everything you could potentially need when it comes to your little one. I know. Crazy during a pandemic considering we never really go far from the house but still a must have accessory. For us, being in a province that has had a curfew for 5 months and no private gatherings for another 7 months, we use our diaper bag in our living room to hold all the essentials also because it saves time from having to run up and down the stairs whenever there was an accident. With vaccinations ramping up we are hopeful that we will be using this bag for what it’s original purpose is, that would be going out!  Here is what we must have in it!

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First, it is a Diaper Bag after all! Diapers are wipes are a huge essential. Especially if you are like us and you buy the bulk box of wipes. Instead of replacing the plastic containers with wipes we throw a whole bag in there. Since we use it more than our change table now that our son is growing it saves by just putting it in the bag as well as diapers are important too. For obvious reasons!

Baby Clothes, one at the very least. Whether you change your baby in their room or you have a basket or bag in the comment area. Nothing is more of a bummer or mini panic attack then you go to change your child, and you see that brownish smear up their leg or worse. This will save time for you because whenever you had had a major blow out accident you know there is no putting clothes on in order to contain the mess til you have the proper things to clear up! Having a space set of clothes or two is also great when you are out and about. As it goes, the one time you think you wont need it, chances are you will need it. Having a few sets of clothes is huge for making outings enjoyable for not just your baby but you also!

Next, I have not used however they still have a place in my son and future babies diaper bag. This is shampoo and body wash. When we did our registry we did so at Babies ‘R’ Us. They give you this mini complementary bag with some items such as this. We snuck them in the diaper bag and they have been there since. You could always use travel sizes of these and add them in also. This goes back to the previous point. You never know when you might have a big mess that wipes just will not cut. As well as a face clothe is also useful in case you do need to get a little soapy.

Next you have the little essentials. These would be the soothers, baby toys, or any miscellaneous items. We always made sure that we had an extra soothers because you never know when baby might spit it out, throw it, lose it, or it gets dropped. There is plenty of reasons why you should have a spare soother and whatever your might be it is better safe than sorry! Spare toys also is great if you are heading to an appointment that may have you waiting longer than you wanted to, or even a longer than normal car ride. You do not need to bring every single toy in the house but having a few toys in the diaper bag may just come in handy when you least expect it. A rattle or shaker toy works wonders, or something low jey and soft. If your baby is teething bringing an extra teether toy or two can also have huge benefits to helping baby have a fussy free outing.

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Also something you can keep in if your child is old enough is food or snacks. This could be as simple as one or two of the fruit pouches that you can simple squeeze on a spoon or directly into their mouth. Or a few cups of apple sauce either! Just make sire you remember or check the beat before date. You dont want to be stuck with a crying baby who is hungry with no food to give!

And lastly, this might come as a surprise to some, buy a FUNCTIONAL diaper bag. You do not need the best looking, most zippers, whatever else fashion trend you think you need. Picture yourself in a park, a mall, where ever and carrying this around. Is it going to be functional? Comfortable? Annoying? I have an over the shoulder bag, its grey, and fairly good with space. I figure that I can use it for multiple babies as we have them also. I think I spent maybe 45 dollars. But they did have bags that are nearly 100+ dollars. Which to be is incredibly insane.

The biggest reminder I can give though, whether or not you go out a lot or not, frequently check the bag and replace the clothes or items in it. Babies grow so fast that you do not want to be out and about when an accident happens whether it be a diaper exploding or even a huge mess while eating or drinking, to find out the clothes you have in the bag will not even fit over their head! Even once a month would be better than never! And if that doesn’t work try putting an outfit the next size up just in case!

What you decide to put in your child’s diaper bag is up to you. Remember this is not something you need to pack full with items. Keep it simple, light, practical and you will notice that your outings will be much more pleasant!

Frowned Upon Parenting: Part 4

The following post has been made thanks to the app Peanut (Not sponsored) where you can ask and interact with communities and groups of fellow Mom’s. One day I had asked one of the groups that I was in something that they would be doing that they know as a fact other mom’s or parents would be frowning upon. These were some of the things they said. For me, I will be also giving my opinion on each of the situations and hopefully you get a chuckle out of them. Some of them I know that I do or will do in my parenting journey, others I completely disagree with.

If you want to see the previous part’s as they are released they will be added here:
Frown Upon Parenting 1
Frown Upon Parenting 2
Frown Upon Parenting 3

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One parent said they would be frowned upon for having a 2 hour screen time daily rule. Now I see absolutely wrong with this personally. I would honestly see more of an issue with 0 screen time. As much as I think limiting the use of technology with children is important, I also think it is important to remember that we live in a world that is very different than when we grew up. We live in a world there there is so many things that can be done virtually that we need to bring up children differently that we were raised. Does that mean kids should be sat in front of a television and their favorite shows turned on for the entire day? No. I think limiting screen time is highly important. I also believe that having some screen time is important as well and would do far more good than absolutely no screen time at all.

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One thing that a parent had said that I have absolutely no idea what they were thinking was that they do not vaccinate their children. I could not disagree with this any less even if you paid me to agree with this. There is a reason why there are some childhood illnesses that have basically been eradicated. Vaccinations are a huge part of this. If you are not vaccinating your children based on your own beliefs than I am a firm believer that this should be considered child abuse as you are not providing them medical treatment to prevent further illness. I am also of the belief that if you choose not to vaccinate your children for whatever reason, if they were to get the illness that is preventable by vaccinations than you should be charged with child endangerment for not providing the proper care to prevent them from getting sick. Now I will state if a child has an allergy or a legitimate medical reason to NOT get vaccinations than so be it. Obviously I am not saying to get that done if they are unable to.

This one kind of blew my mind, someone had stated that they actually spoil their children by serving them in their room. The only situation I can remotely see this as being OK would be if maybe they are sick and they need something and you wanted to bring it to them. I will never in my life be found serving my children in their rooms. If they want something, as my mo always said “They have 2 feet and a heartbeat” they can get up and do it themselves. I can only assume these are older kids due to the fact that my son currently enjoys opening and closing his door and has no desire to actually hang out in there so to speak.

Stay up late is kind of one of those things I think it depends on the age of the child. I wouldn’t let my 2 year old stay up til 9 or 10pm because I know he would be hateful and angry and sassy and by that point way too over tired. However I think that yes there are times when they are up a bit later than normal. It happens for sure but regularly no. There is bed times for a reason and just like adults I am sure that we don’t just stay up for the sake of staying up either.

Swearing around them is a tricky subject. As a mom of a late bloomer when it comes to words my now 2 year old at the time of writing has been repeating EVERYTHING to the point where it surprises me what he does repeat. is that to say I don’t swear at all around him? No. There are times that I do swear around him. Sometimes things slip and it happens. I do however make a conscious decision to try NOT to swear in front of him because I know some time down the road he will probably repeat the word and it may not be in a favorable place either!

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Judgemental moms against you is something that I can relate to as well as being a guilty part on that. Though I do believe there should be things that MUST be judged. If you are giving your baby random breast milk from strangers you bet your bottom dollar I will be judging that aspect of your parenting. The fact is that there is so many things parents can judge others on that if we really focused on that we would never get anything done and we would be feeling like a big ol pile of poop. Just like anything in life it is important for us to just focus on ourselves and not focus on what others see.

As you can see there really is a lot of things that parents frown upon others which is why I asked the question and figured that I would be make a mini series of what things parents know to be maybe not the normal lifestyle choices for raising kids! And why not put my own opinions within this too, because you never know how people may feel about these specific circumstances! Was there anything in the list above that you do or know you will have others frown upon your parenting style? Let me know in the comments below, maybe your point will be featured in the next set of Frowned Upon Parenting blogs!

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9 New Baby Essentials

Having a new baby can get overwhelming at times to say the least. You have everyone and their dog trying to recommend the latest or best things to help you out. Being a new mom and one that started to have children at 30 most of my friends already had children. So they did the easy work! Some of these things are my must haves and some of the folks on  my Facebook also recommended also too.

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Baby Frida Nose Sucker is honestly near the top of my list of things you must buy for your new baby. And before you say this is gross know, yes, it is gross but it really is not as gross as you may think. When my son was born we started him on similar because it was a popular formula brand. It made my son constipated some looked to switch. When we did it helped tremendously however before he would staring to poop and have milk come up through his nose. I know it sounds gross and it was. But this saved us by being able to suck the boogies and milk sting from his nose. Not to mention when they are sick it helps a lot too. Just know that when your child ages it will be challenging to use and you may need two people but this was a huge life saver.

Recieving Blankets may be overrated but we loved ours. My mom had made a few and we were given a few from our neighbor. We used these to swaddle him when he was very tiny and they are great for keeping over your shoulder in case there is spit up and for burping too they have a lot of coverage. Not to mention you will want a few spares because you can easily go through a few a day just from burping alone. Let alone if they have an over spill of pee or poop and leak through their clothes to their swaddle too.

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Baby Monitor is for sure a must have. It is 2021 and this is especially great if you live on a multi level home. It is huge in helping to shed some relief as your little one sleeps. We loved ours because the bedrooms were upstairs. Mind you we did use a bassinets with my son and we will be using it with our next baby but when they start sleeping in their own crib this is for sure a security thing. The only downside I would say is that after a few months the battery life and charge is nearly non existent. On average it lasts about 2 hours and will start to beep at us to plug it in. Which is great but that beeping lasts nearly an hour. Yes we timed it one night and was curious. And you are unable to turn off the beeping also. Which is a bummer too because unless you plug it in the beeping will continue.

Haakaa for breast feeding moms was recommended to me by someone on Facebook as a life saver since it caught breast milk from being wasted when your baby is going to be drinking from the other side. This is something that is manual and uses suction around your nipple to catch any left overs. With my son I stopped pretty early and with this baby we are going to try breast feeding a bit further as well as trying to pump so we have a stock pile also. I am really nervous about this however this is something I will be buying to use and test out as well.

Yellow Plastic Toothbrush is something that a friend of mine enjoyed but I found my son was not super fond of it, this is a finger tooth brush and it had brushes on opposite sites that were rubber. Maybe it was more challenging for us because my son had teeth later however it was still worth it for the price to really give it a go at brushing his teeth. And where it is rubber it is super easy to clean and you can really feel where it goes in his teeth and that it actually is brushing. Another friend also recommended this too.

Car Seat Cover for winter newborns was something that a friend recommended. When my son was born in March it was not super chilly out and we had enough blankets that we could out them around him so that he was nice and cozy warm. A friend of mine had her son towards the end of December and said that this was a life saver for them when traveling because it blocked so much of the chill from the Canadian Winters. We are due with our new baby at the end of November and for sure will be getting one to help with traveling.

Sleep Sacks have been a life saver, especially when swaddling has stopped due to them moving too much. We have had so many sleep sack throughout the birth to growth of our son that we will continue to use them with all our kids. We tried a few diff kinds. One of them which I won’t link had the zipper break. The only thing I would suggest is buy a few sizes at once as they can be deceiving and you want to see how they fit your little one. Another would be to have a second one. That way if they have a wet diaper that has over flowed you have a spare to change them into, especially in the middle of the night!

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Face Clotheshave been over rated and we have used them every single day. Especially having a boy when they are very very little it helps to cover their little downstairs quickly so they do not pee everywhere and end up peeing on the face cloth. They aren’t just for baths either we use them for wiping his face after meals. Cleaning before bed. Baths. If you had to dry a bum after using a wet wipe to apply diaper rash cream. There really is many types of uses and you cannot go wrong with them!

As you  can tell there is a lot of things I would recommend for new parents. And aside from the few I was suggested I have used everyone and plan on using one as well.

Is there anything you would recommend for a new parent?

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Frowned Upon Parenting: Part 3

The following post has been made thanks to the app Peanut (Not sponsored) where you can ask and interact with communities and groups of fellow Mom’s. One day I had asked one of the groups that I was in something that they would be doing that they know as a fact other mom’s or parents would be frowning upon. These were some of the things they said. For me, I will be also giving my opinion on each of the situations and hopefully you get a chuckle out of them. Some of them I know that I do or will do in my parenting journey, others I completely disagree with.

If you want to see the previous part’s as they are released they will be added here:
Frown Upon Parenting 1
Frown Upon Parenting 2
Frown Upon Parenting 4

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Cry it out is one of those things that either works or doesnt work for people. Some parents seem to think that it is considered abuse however those same parents it seems tend to complain when their children don’t sleep through the night. For me I see nothing wrong with crying it out as a method to teaching healthy sleep habits, that being said as long as the baby is of a correct age! When my oldest son was 6 months old we decided to do a modified cry it out method. This was because we had moved him to his own crib and wanted him to learn how to put himself to sleep. Was it hard? Incredibly. But in the long run I think it did more good than not doing anything at all. We also plan on doing this the same as we did with our second son once he turns 6 months old. However he has been in his crib for a lot longer due to the fact he is so much larger than my first was and out grew his bassinette in record time!

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Another some what controversial subject is consequences for when a child misbehaves. Some parents believe that there should be no consequences. That kids will be kids and let them live and learn. I would like to say that I kind of fall on the spectrum that there should be consequences to some extent. There is of course natural consequences that will happen when a child does something that you really don’t need to intervene about. There is also some after asking a few times to stop doing something that yes, they should have consequences. Life is about learning and if say my oldest hits my youngest there will be some sort of consequence.

Allowed sugar junk food moderation is one that can be seen as horrible. We are of the believe that kids will be kids and obviously I’m not pumping them with 4 chocolate bars in the morning for the entire day but sometimes a treat is needed. As an adult do you not get treats too? Believe it or not there is some families where they do not give any single treats what so ever and well, that is kind of mind blowing for me to think about but that is the case!

One parent had commented that they know they would be frowned upon for giving their kids chores. I see absolutely nothing wrong with this. In fact, I think the society we live in now, half the problems is that parents do every single thing for their children and don’t instill a sense of responsibility in their children. Growing up when we were able to understand and have some responsibilities we did have chores too. We would get a dollar a day if we completed it and every two weeks my mom would pay us the money. Obviously if you have teens they are fully able to get jobs than allowance would not be given however this was a great way for us to learn how to take care of the house as well as being able to save out money for things that we did like to have. You can fully bet once my son’s are old enough that I will be trying to do the same things with them in hopes to instill the same values!

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Pats on the bum is and will forever be one of the most heated discussions when it comes to raising kids. Especially now a days where it is seen as abuse and chances are when we were growing up we in fact had pats on the bum. I know for myself, I certainly did. I however am hoping to never get to that point with my own kids because I know how it felt to have your bum tanned from doing something bad. Will I say something if another person chooses to do that? No. If someone wants to do old fashioned discipline to their children that is their choice. However there is a fine line between abuse and discipline when it comes to spanking a little ones behind. I just know for myself it is not something that I would want to add to how I teach my children what is write and what is wrong.

As you can see there really is a lot of things that parents frown upon others which is why I asked the question and figured that I would be make a mini series of what things parents know to be maybe not the normal lifestyle choices for raising kids! And why not put my own opinions within this too, because you never know how people may feel about these specific circumstances! Was there anything in the list above that you do or know you will have others frown upon your parenting style? Let me know in the comments below, maybe your point will be featured in the next set of Frowned Upon Parenting blogs!

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Frowned Upon Parenting: Part 2

The following post has been made thanks to the app Peanut (Not sponsored) where you can ask and interact with communities and groups of fellow Mom’s. One day I had asked one of the groups that I was in something that they would be doing that they know as a fact other mom’s or parents would be frowning upon. These were some of the things they said. For me, I will be also giving my opinion on each of the situations and hopefully you get a chuckle out of them. Some of them I know that I do or will do in my parenting journey, others I completely disagree with.

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If you want to see the previous part’s as they are released they will be added here:
Frown Upon Parenting 1
Frown Upon Parenting 3
Frown Upon Parenting 4


One user said that they send their kids to bed early for more couple time. Now, I totally understand where they are coming from with this. I really do. However I think there is only so early you can put your child to bed. WE still at the time of writing put my oldest for a 2 hour or so nap in the afternoon. He also goes to bed between 630-7pm and is up anywhere from 6am-7am. I can’t picture us trying to put him to bed earlier than that. He would be yelling and hating on everything because he is just not ready. Sometimes he goes closer to 630pm and he does yell for a moment however he very quickly settles and falls asleep though. Putting him to bed any earlier would completely throw off his day though. Even sometimes when he is up a bit later maybe 730pm or closer to 8pm occasionally he is tired and ready for bed with his cues that he demonstrates.

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Ipad games is something I can understand by letting their kids plan them. My son’s are very small and I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t trying to prolong their use of it. However I do understand that there can be a lot of nice educational games to be able to use and play on it though. Currently my oldest son only recognizes that the tablet we do have is used for video chats and things. He doesn’t see it as a game right now either. I do know that in today’s age of children that there is an importance to knowing their way around technology though and that eventually we will be getting to that part.

Swaddling is something that I think is really debatable in terms of how long you are supposed to do it. I did swaddle my first son for longer than the 8 weeks. They say whenever showing the signs of rolling or whether they hit 8 weeks. WE did stop however when he was moving his hands and arms to get out of the swaddle we totally stopped. That being said, with our second son we stopped after a week because the swaddles that we did have were too small and we refused to buy different ones due to him being a bigger baby! I do think there is some value in swaddling especially a very small baby because it makes them comfortable. Though there are some that really don’t like swaddling and that is okay too!


One user had said that they fine unless gentle parenting is the approach being used they think that people see it as abuse. I would have to agree with this statement. I would also like to say I don’t agree with yelling at your kids all of the time. Though I think there is a big difference between raising your voice as apposed to yelling. I know my approach may be a mix of a few things but after explaining something for the first 15 times at some point I will be raising my voice to kind of signify that I mean business. This is in no means a yell but just to let the little ones know that I am serious in asking them not to do something. I think also to some extent that if someone claims to be a “gentle parent” if they were to say they NEVER yell or raise their voice I would almost be questioning them whether or not that is completely true.

Picking up a child for crying right away is something that one user said they have received backlash for also. This was because people believe in letting children cry it out. I think this type of parenting is not necessarily a bad thing however it really depends on the situation. If my son’s trip from running and maybe they only fall to their knees, I know by me reacting and “babying” them it may cause them to believe they are more “hurt” than they actually are. That is not the type of thing that I want to be doing. However if they genuinely have something happening where they may be a bit sore or hurt themselves from a tumble than yes I will be scooping them up and trying to kiss anywhere it hurts to make them feel better! I want them to also learn to soothe themselves and that anytime they may have a little trip they aren’t necessarily hurt by it either!

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As you can see there really is a lot of things that parents frown upon others which is why I asked the question and figured that I would be make a mini series of what things parents know to be maybe not the normal lifestyle choices for raising kids! And why not put my own opinions within this too, because you never know how people may feel about these specific circumstances! Was there anything in the list above that you do or know you will have others frown upon your parenting style? Let me know in the comments below, maybe your point will be featured in the next set of Frowned Upon Parenting blogs!

Stop Saying NO to Your Kids

I know, sounds simple right? But what about when they do something you don’t want them too? I am just as guilty of saying no to my kids just like any other person. But I know saying it repeatedly will cause problems as they get older. Let’s talk about all the ways to not say No to your kids, oh yeah, and I wont take no for an answer!

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One of the major reasons why you should not be saying no to your kids is because they are parrots. As you know, when they start to learn and grow they will begin to repeat everything and anything. Currently my oldest is repeating things like “Oh shoot” or “Oh No”. And that only keeps growing and growing and growing. There are times he will repeat something that I have said and it surprises me to no end because I did not expect to hear it AT ALL! If you are a parent, or even care giver or family member or friend, and you always just say “No” to your child, pretty soon they will start saying it to you! Pick up your cup please. NO. Come over here. NO. You get my point. I wont leave you hanging though. These are some of the things and examples that I say to my now 2 year old but have been saying for a while! Is there situations where I do flat out say No? Yes. Mainly when I have tried every other way and he continues to do something that is maybe unsafe or he should not be doing like picking at the cat or the dog or annoying his little brother who is trying to sleep!

“We need to be safe okay, be careful”. This is something I say when my son is adventurous. Since he has been growing in height he has been more and more interested in looking out the front window. By doing this he stands on the rad and peeks out. Now has he slipped and fell? A little. But if I kept saying no he would want to do it more. And would do it carelessly without being safe. If he is exploring I dont want to stop him but also want him to be cautious! I also will say something along the lines of “I dont want to see you get hurt, Okay?” that way he knows that I am saying this because I do not want to see him be hurt by accidentally slipping. Hes a child, he isnt making himself get hurt for a reason, but just like in life, accidents DO happen!

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Redirection IS YOUR FRIEND. This is another key way for me to get my son to stop doing something he is, that I dont want him to do. Maybe he is throwing the toys around which obviously is never encouraged. But it was pretty easy to see whenever he was told to stop and no to throwing he did it even more! Redirection doesn’t always work and sometimes you may need to change it up. If my son is having a meltdown one of the first things that we do is we try to ignore the behavior. After this goes on for so long we then try to redirect him. Maybe he is into his light up cars and ask him to bring them. Maybe we ask him to help us pick up a few toys. Something to redirect his attention. Does this work every time? No. But it can be a good fix instead of waiting and seeing what happens. There are some moments that the best thing to do is just wait and see though. And there will even be some moments that just breathing or talking to him will make him even more mad for whatever reason. We just roll with the punches.

And finally. Yes. There are moments when I do say no to my kids. Is it all the time? No. But when I do say No finally I like to think that it is when there has been multiple times that I try redirection or be careful or safe and when I say No it is normally the end of the line and the end of being all nice. If I end up saying No it means I am serious and that whatever behavior needs to stop. Whether it is throwing toys or a tantrum. I say this and if it makes him cry or have a tantrum more, I ignore the behavior. I let it run the course and typically after there is no more engaging the behavior stops.

I think regardless of method, Or how you choose to stop saying No to your kids, there is so many solutions. Something I also say is Enough. This is one of the last things I always say and my son knows when I get to this point I am serious and the behavior stops now. Sometimes I even pick him up and put him on the couch where he will scream for another few moments because I removed him from the situation (Think, picking at books and ripping the pages) and he understands that this is the end of the line I have reached the point where we are not trying to play games at this moment. Because after all, most kids think when you tell them no it is some sort of game they need to keep defying you about!

You will find your own way of doing things, even if it takes a bit to get used to or to do it regularly!

Circumcision Should Be Banned

We are on fire with these hot topics lately right? Well buckle up because this is something that I couldn’t agree with more strongly either but here we are. If this blog post makes you uncomfortable, to be blunt, it should. Nothing about this should be comfortable. This is a subject that I think shouldn’t even be a practice, however it is still being done even in Nova Scotia let alone I am sure better parts of the world.

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Circumcision of little boys should be banned across the globe because unless it is performed due to a medical reason, it is genital mutilation for a boy. Plain and simple. I dont care what the reason is unless it is medically suggested for a child to be circumcised so that they are able to lead a normal lifestyle for whatever reason it should never be done. This also includes the ever popular religious reasons as well as the “cleanliness” one also.

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There are many reasons (not legitimate) that parents choose this for their little boy. One of those reasons being religion. Now, I know what you are thinking, “But Stacey, is that not a legitimate reason”. My short answer is No. Using religion in 2022 to base a reason to permanently mutilate your child’s penis is not a reason to do it. Again, if medically necessary sure. This is something I believe to be the only acceptable reason to have the procedure completed. Religion is fine for folks, I understand that people need it in their lives, what I dont think is it needs to be used as a reason to cut the excess skin from a babies penis so that it is permanently removed. This includes all religions also, not just specific ones. If a religion has something where they can do this regardless of which, it should not be allowed.



Another reason that you see often is cosmetic. They want it done because it “looks” better. Does it though? Does it really? This is such a poor, sad, excuse. Did you know that there are so many tiny nerve endings in a foreskin. When it is removed those endings are also removed, they are not moved or replaced they are gone. Thus a little boy loses sensation to some extent on how it feels when they are pleasured in that area. Is this something that should be allowed in today’s day and age? And before someone says “But they can have a surgery to try and replace it as adults blah blah blah”. Sure they do have one, but it will never replace the original skin that was there.

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Another reason is people are lead to believe that removing it makes a penis cleaner. I can say will full confidence, my two son’s are not circumcised because I obviously am against permanently mutilating my son’s for the rest of their lives. If they choose as adults to want to get it done sure, they can do what they please, but for me as a mother I will not be making that decision unless it was medically suggested to me by a medical professional. I also can say with full confidence that there is no extra added measures that I have ever had to do to keep my son’s penis cleaned. There is no added work to be done, books to read, or help hotlines to call (Maybe the last isn’t really a thing but you get it). Using this reason is a pathetic excuse to do a barbaric and outdated practice for your little one.

Another thing I have seen online and I am looking at you spouses, “I let my husband/spouse make the decision because he has the penis and I dont” WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?? You both have this child and your opinion is just as important as your partner’s regardless of who has the body parts or not. Don’t ever think that you dont have a reason to have a say in this because you both made this baby and you both have the right to make a decision that is life changing even if choosing to go forward with it is wrong in my opinion.

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I think it also speaks volumes to the double standard. When little girls in some cultures would have their labia or whatever have you down there trimmed for cosmetic reasons, it was banned in Canada (not sure of the status in the world) and is considered a criminal offense. Again unless medically suggested it is mutilating a baby for no reason what so ever. So why is it that unless medically needed is it not criminal to get a boy circumcised? So often you see this going the other way but why is the same type of procedure accepted in one and not the other?

Another point to be known, in Nova Scotia (I live here!) it can be extremely hard to even find a doctor who is willing to do this surgery. You can have it done at the IWK children’s hospital if it is deemed medically necessary, however going to outside doctors for this can be hard. Not to mention there is a specific time frame that you must have it done before it has to be done at a later age. If this was still as common like it was in the 90’s why is it so hard to actually find a doctor that is willing to perform this procedure?

And lastly, there was a post about it in one of the mommy groups I am in (Another toxic blog coming up about that in the future, look out for that!) someone had stated that they wanted to have their child done because their husband/baby daddy had his done. The perfect response came from another man and it said this “Basically you want to mutilate your son’s genitals without his consent because your spouse had his genitals mutilated without his consent”. I dont think that could have been a more perfect answer to the blunt reason’s why people choose to do this to their little fellas.

How to Deal with Mom Guilt

This is something that I am sure happens to both men and women who are parents however I can only speak for the moms out there. I welcome any men who may stumble upon this to write in the comments if they too feel this “Parenting Guilt”. I assume there must be this to some extent however I have no idea what that extent may be though! After all, as parents one of the most challenging things we can do is feel guilty for something or another even if the moment doesn’t warrant feeling guilty at all!

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Mom or Parenting guilt is just that. It is something that you do as a parent that you may be guilty about doing. Maybe it is disciplining your child, or maybe even you miss an early diaper rash sign and you now have a full blown rash on your baby and feel guilty it got that far too. Honestly you can have guilt for just about anything and everything when it comes to kids. There can even be times when maybe you wouldn’t have guilt for something and suddenly that changes and now you feel super guilty over some thing!

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Breast feeding is one if the biggest things I think Mom’s in particular can have this guilt for. In fact, I even wrote about how we need to normalize formula feeding in a blog post here. As a society we put such a heavy weight on women to be able to breast feed our babies that it can be a huge guilt trap when you decide to stop or if you decide to jump right into formula. So much so that women who do end up stopping before they maybe planned to stop will see out donations of breast milk from random strangers on the internet. That is a whole other story that I cant even describe how alarming or dangerous it is. As a society we make it sound like breast feeding is the only way to feed a baby and if you don’t do it you are somehow taking away things from your little one. Which is completely wrong as there are many different reasons why a parent may choose not to breastfeed including for their own mental health which is also important too. It stressed me out. Especially with having my first son have jaundice and I was not sure if he was drinking an adequate amount to get rid of the jaundice too. And with my second I just went to formula and felt great!

Being sick can be tough sometimes. As parents sometimes we forget that we are not super human and that we also can get sick. Which in turn can result in our little humans missing out on something perhaps. Maybe we have a TV day because we have the flu so bad we are unable to do a whole lot. Maybe we have a cheat day with meals and make things that are incredibly fast or easy to give ourselves a break. We do not need go be feeling guilty for prioritizing our health. Which I know is a lot easier said than done. Funny enough, I am also guilty of feeling guilty!

Society constraints or how they think people should parent, I am sure is a huge source of parental guilt for parents. These are the expectations that as a society we put on parents for literally no good reason but to drive them crazy. This would be the breastfeeding part. It may also be the proper meals every single meal time of the day. Let’s not forget either the maybe having to go many many places or even the no television or ANY screen time before a child is 2 years old. As a mother to a 2 year old at the time of writing and a 4 month old I can say with confidence we limit our sons screen time but we do not eliminate it completely either. And I certainly am not going to never give my older son TV time for fear my younger one will see something.


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At the end of the day you could feel guilty about anything in your life. However when it comes to parenting there is something about it that your guilt is almost amplified and you feel even more guilty for something super small than you may not feel when it comes to something outside of parenting too. I know for me I think about things that make me guilty for far too long even though I know there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It can be as silly as something like making eggs for supper one night instead of doing a long and thought out supper. Maybe my oldest is having a meltdown and to break that I put on a TV show earlier than I typically would put on a TV show. It really just depends on the situations but for some reason us parents are our own hardest judges.

And lastly, we have a fear that what we are doing may never be enough. Something like maybe your house is never clean enough, maybe your meals not exotic enough, maybe you put extra hour of TV on, or you never spent the money on that new expensive place for kids in the city that everyone and their dog is paying for. Maybe you don’t have your kids in the hardest or most expensive sport either.

It is so important to remember that as a parent each and every one of us learns and teaches differently. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that either. Just do what you are comfortable with and I am sure you will be raising a little genies!

Wish People Said About Birth/Pregnancy – Part 1

Before I begin, I want to say this is something that I had asked the people on the app “Peanut”. This is an app where mothers sign up and can meet other moms around their towns and essentially become friends and hang out (Not a sponsor). However for me I felt it was far too overwhelming and in typical fashion I stopped using the app. I did however ask a question to the community, that question was “What is something you wish people told you about pregnancy or birth”. These are some responses and once the other parts become active I will be posting them below with links. And you are more than welcome to check them out yourself too!

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What do you wish people told you about pregnancy and birth Part 2
What do you wish people told you about pregnancy and birth Part 3

Breast feeding hurts is something that popped up a few times. You guys may know my stance on breast feeding in terms that I formula feed my son and did the same for my first. I breastfed for 3 days with my first child and it was not for me. When you look at movies and things you always assumed that breastfeeding was this easy thing and any parent loves to do it. This couldn’t be further from the truth. It is something that you have to literally teach yourself. And before anyone says, “maybe it hurts because of latch problems blah blah blah” it does not have to be physical hurt. I wrote a blog about normalizing formula feeding that you can read here before we often forget the mental strain of stopping the breastfeeding journey due to guilt society and other mom’s put on others.

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Another mention someone had said was postpartum anxiety. Anyone hear the phantom crying? I know for us, my spouse and myself felt this with our first. I will also mention that the second child we had these anxieties seems to feel a bit more relaxed, maybe because we know that we have the skills needed to raise human however it doesn’t change how it felt for our first. These would be the anxiety’s that you have with your children, often times they are irrational and don’t even really make sense however they are important to note that there is a lot of anxiety after the birth of your baby. Feeling these are completely normal and if you feel like it may be something that is excessive you should reach out to a health care provider to validate those feelings and work through them as they can be hard to work through.



The physical recovery, not during child birth. I know for me I am completely guilty of this. I totally slipped my mind the use of pads and things after giving birth and only did it click when I was having my first son and a friend had given birth a few months prior had given me their heavy duty pads they used and no longer needed. I know sounds completely dumb to forget that but I never even thought about bleeding even though it made sense. That being said there is multiple types of recover. I have had the no medication birth with my first and a vaginal delivery which you can read about here. I also have had a c-section birth that I talk about here with my second child too that you can read about here. But no one prepares you for how challenging it can be to have either birth. If I had to pick I would say the c-section was the harder birth due to the fact you legit had a major surgery. I am really hoping that our last and third child when the time comes is a vaginal birth and NOT a c-section however it it happens the only thing saving me mentally is that it will be the last c-section that I ever have. The physical pain you go through, even a vaginal birth with no tearing having to walk up stairs after arriving home was so challenging holy smokes. I never even thought of that either!

Breastfeeding is not birth control. I know a few people who learned this the hard way. And based on the people commenting on this answer there was a lot of others who found that out also. Though breast feeding may delay your period and what not, it still can not be used as a contraceptive. Unless you are on birth control or using controls, if a man ejaculates inside of you there is a strong change that you could be pregnant from this. This also goes for the “having sex before 6 weeks” and you may not get pregnant. False. There is a reason why you are told to wait 6 weeks and that is due to your body healing. Saying breastfeeding is a way to prevent pregnancy is not a solid one and you may find yourself playing with fire and having a little surprise bundle in 9 months time too.

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Milestone obsessions is something that is very real and I again feel like having multiple kids does ease this up. When you have one child you become obsessed with milestones. Are they crawling on time? Rolling? Walking or standing? The fact is the spectrum is so broad that your child may be doing one or all things at once and there is no really right or wrong way. Use the milestones as a guideline but there is no need to panic if they aren’t hitting everything that they need to be at the time. It is also important to note that if a few milestones are missing at one age they may catch up and have multiple milestones happening at other ages though. Sometimes milestones are grouped up and they aren’t as spread out for people.

As you can see there is multiple things that may seem pretty obvious to others however this is not the case. This is something that maybe by writing these out a new parent may know before the situation arises! And if you are pumped to read this I can’t wait for you to read the other ones when they come out too!