If there is one thing I am guilty of, it is not putting myself ahead for the week. To the point that when Wednesday comes around I feel horrible about not accomplishing a single thing that I had HOPED to have had done. Partly because I never set myself up for success. I simply hoped that my brain would work the way I wanted it to without any help which is wrong. I do need a lot of help!
One thing I am starting to do seemingly this year would be that I want to plan my weeks out. Similar to work. When I was actually working and before I had kids I would plan out my week. I would know my shifts, when I would meet people, when I would have free time. Obviously it goes without saying that you really can’t plan every single detail but if you have specific things like an appointment or something then you certainly can plan that out also too. Like meals can also be planned too, even specifics like if you have to make phone calls. Why make phone calls every day when you can plan it out to be one day where you get all of that done. Sometimes planning fun things is also important too because we forget that planning does not have to be all business and it can also be things that we enjoy. Maybe you want to binge a show, or maybe start a painting idea that you have had for weeks. Planning your week can help you keep track and maybe even get ahead of your list too.
Doing something for you as I mention above is SUPER IMPORTANT. I am guilty of this but I am starting to do this more. Whether it be sewing, watching something, writing these blogs or planning them, scheduling my socials or making videos and being able to do specific things. There is many things that I do for myself. Even if that means taking a drive to pick up a coffee from Tim Horton’s or something in the process. Scheduling a video chat with a friend even. So much so that scheduling things does not have to be all about business and seriousness. However if you are like me trying to make poetry collections and published books, or even your art and sewing as part of a business then it is important to plan that stuff out. Especially if you don’t want to be waiting till the last minute (which I am guilty of). My whole mindset is that I want to set myself up for success and to spend as little time as possible on the computer. I want to make sure that things are going as planned and helping myself take steps forward and not steps back.
Relax! Have a bath is one thing that I need to do more of especially in the new year. I mean I can obviously start it now too which I should and will but I want to be more mindful. What is more relaxing than starting your week by having a nice warm bath before you head to bed and start the dreaded day of the week Monday. Especially in the winter if there is a chill in the air or something when you want to bring a book in the tub, or maybe watch a tablet show, or even just sit in there floating and relaxing as your muscles loosen up and you have a warm drink beside you (Or maybe even a cold one too!) and just letting the worries float away. I have so many bath bombs as I write this that it really is a disservice to myself for not wanting to have more baths!
Going to bed early is something that I need to do and is so much easier to say than it is is to do. Are you like me where you tend to go to bed early and then sit there on your phone and are still awake just as long as you would be sitting on the couch watching tv? Yeah that is me too. One thing I want to do to be mindful is I want to start reading in bed. I want to set a hard bedtime where I turn off all the lights. I also want to disconnect. I want to start reading a book and tiring my eyes that way instead of trying to use the screen to do that. As you may know, using the screen does not tire your eyes at all in fact it can make you even more awake and have an even worse sleep due to your eyes and the glare the screen has.
Overall, there are many things you go to to set yourself up for success for the week. These are just the ways that I am going to do in order to have a great week. I can say that when I do end up doing this, It actually is some of the most productive weeks I ever have because I have these goals and I don’t let anything get in my way of completing them! Though with holidays and things with life coming up, it can be challenge to do this I am going to do my best to develop these habits now in order to keep them going for many many weeks to come, if not for years and years.
Don’t forget too, There are going to be weeks that you are just super busy and maybe even don’t feel like planning things out, maybe you are sick or on vacation. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Nobody in this world is perfect or even close to it. If you miss a little bit there is always time to come back and set yourself up for another week too. I know we beat ourselves up but there is never a too late when it comes to success or planning anything out!
Self care is hard. Regardless of the season. I know, I am just as guilty of it too! I never want to do anything for myself and when I do I feel guilty about it. Not this year! This year was one of the first times since becoming a Mom that I try to do more things for me WITHOUT the guilt. I am so excited to share a few thing with you and hopefully also hearing things from you that you may do that I have never thought of before! Regardless if you are a parent or not we need to spend time on doing things for ourselves, if not the burnout will be fast and swift in letting us know we have spread ourselves too thin.
One me thing I am doing more is binging my own shows. Sometimes I put every show on hold that I want to watch because I think my spouse will enjoy it. Spoiler alert: there are a lot of shows that I watch that he has literally no interest in at all. I need to take the time to watch some mindless show whether on Netflix or prime. My list of shows to watch is not getting any smaller by me not watching things or waiting for my partner to watch them! Even just re-watching some good comfort shows that I already know and love is a small thing that I want to do for myself. After all, they may even disappear before I have time to watch them! And then I would be the one losing out by waiting so long.
Bubble baths are something I always talk about doing and that is true, I do have baths maybe more often than some. But in the summer time, I don’t typically have a lot of baths. I associate baths with feeling cold. When I feel cold I want to warm up and having a bath is a go to way to do that. I really don’t take a lot of baths except maybe an occasional one in the summer but that is only due tot he fact that I love to shower with the window open (Yes we have a window in the shower) and looking outside. Plus in the heat who wants to put your sweaty body in to the tub and just chill in there. Winter I can say I don’t sweat that much and enjoy a nice bath, sometimes even the same day I have had a shower too! Nothing beats just laying around with special salts or bubbles or maybe even a nice favorite drink and a good book to just lay around and totally relax your body!
Hike somewhere new or visit a park is something that I too want to do. I won’t lie I do not like the heat. But having children I feel like we need to be outside more in nature and what better way than to take advantage of the cooling temperatures that are happening. Plus how beautiful is it to be out in the world, maybe away from technology, and admiring the changing season with fall leaves and colors changing all around you. Just breathing in the crisp air and really trying live in the moment. One thing that we are planning on doing ourselves is going to a local park i Halifax called Point Pleasant Park. We have waited though until the older kids are in school because again, not huge fans of crowds and if we have older kids I school it may just be less busier.
Getting a new book can be for any time of year but why not make it about fall. Did I mention that I too have 2 poetry collections out, one called The Darkness and the other called The Light. What better way to spend some me time with yourself reading and exploring a brand new world of whatever topic you want to read about. This is something that I need to do more of. There are so many great authors that I am learning about while writing my own books that I want to dive into reading a few that I have had on my wishlist for a while. Not only that, but I feel like as an author I should be doing even more reading to try to really hone in on my own skills in poetry writing as well as prepare for my writing of short horror stories (Half the reason why I got this new laptop that I am typing on now!).
Changing appearance in some way shape of form is one easy way to spruce up yourself. Personally I am one to change the color of my hair often so it makes the change easy however you don’t have to do it with hair. You could get a tattoo or piercing, maybe even up upgrade your wardrobe as well too. You really don’t need to spend a lot of money on this, painting your nails a new and wild color that you maybe have never done before is one way to o that for next to nothing cost wise. Even if you want to update your wardrobe and don’t want to spend a fortune there is plenty of thief stores around I am sure that you could take an adventure to with a friend or two and try on totally different styles to help to create your own, new, reinvented one.
Regardless of what you are planning on doing this fall, there is never anything wrong with doing something for yourself. I know, With everything in the world it can be hard to be a little bit selfish, but at the end of the day when you do take that time to be a little bit about you and not everyone or everything around, you will be wondering why you never did it sooner! Everyone deserves a little bit of me time, whatever that may be, and regardless of background. You deserve it!