Prepping for the Month Ahead

Prepping for the month ahead can seem like a major chore for some people. For me, I LOVE IT! I love doing so many things and setting myself up for success not to mention it really is helpful for me to see the month ahead. Being pregnant again it helps me stay on track for appointments, blood work, meetings, goals, and whatever else I needs to have done also too.

The things that I schedule may seem pretty trivial however when I don’t leave the home due to covid and a stay at home mom it really does help to schedule everything even if I don’t always follow it too. For me it helps me feel a sort of normalcy because when I used to work and live back home I would schedule so much. Being at home you can get lost in the moment (which is not always a bad thing) and fall behind on things. For me it helps me to keep track of things such as my streaming schedule, or things related to streaming such as clips, scheduling tweets, blogging as well. I also have certain days I schedule writing whether that be for blogging or the books or poetry that I am working on. I also schedule in days that I do absolutely nothing because even those are important to have too. Right now in the prep for moving we are also going through certain things so that we can make sure that we are gutting out the basement and throwing things away to make things easier. I also have doctors appointments and blood work to plan and take care of due to moving and being pregnant and trying to make it as seamless as possible between changing doctors too. And of course it can change month to month on what is scheduled and planned.

The first thing I normally would do is I would write in my planner, This is the easiest way for me to see the month in advance with the days laid out. I can write it in pen or pencil whatever I choose to do and It is a clear way for me to see what is happening. I find this best to start with as I can sit in front of the TV and chip away at it. Normally I start about a week before the end of the month so I can change around dates that are possible to be changed.

After I have everything pretty well sorted I will then transfer the dates on to my calendar. I like to do this after my planner as I use permanent markers and well, if i make a mistake it low key gives me anxiety because I then have to either scratch it out or make it work because white out doesn’t typically work on that. And if that happens it legit gives me low key anxiety that the whole month is thrown off. It also hangs above my computer as a quick glace for me to see what is up and coming for the month. I feel like if I don’t do this before the end of the month I look up more often than not and get completely thrown off on what is going on for the month.

Lastly I use post it notes a lot. If it is something important or something I am keeping track of like an appointment or something I will write it there and put it on that and stick it to the bottom of my monitor. I find this to be easy since I see it all the time when I am sitting there working on whatever or gaming as well too. I keep so many post it’s around and stick them to scribblers and lists and things that it does help for sure I think.

The only thing that I Have never done before even when I was working shift work is put things in my phone. I don’t think I will ever use my phone in that way and truth be told I have seen more people miss appointments and things because they put it in the wrong date or the wrong time that I simply do not trust myself to not mess it up. I will sometimes text my boyfriend if I am on the fly for an appointment date or he does the same to me, but only because I typically do not bring my planner around everywhere with me and I don’t carry a post it either. As far as using my phone goes, I just don’t trust technology to not screw it up or even user error. Being 30 something years old I have never used my phone for scheduling and I don’t plan on starting it now.

Overall I would say to anyone who doesn’t schedule to not sleep on this. When you schedule things even if it means really relax scheduling it makes you feel like you do have your life together. I know some things I schedule probably don’t need to be scheduled and most times things re flexible, but in the long run it really can help with organizing your life. Knowing what to expect and what is up and coming can help to prepare for it, whichever it might be. I know being stuck inside during quarantine, not working and being a stay at home mom, prepping for a move across provinces, and whatever else, it really does help to have things laid out and feel like I am living a “normal” life where I can get grocery’s regularly or I can go to appointments for my son instead of having one parent go on them.

Are you a scheduler?
Or do you just wing it in hopes that everything works out and nothing clashes?
Do you use your phone to plan things or are you a pen to paper person like me?


Let me know in the comments below!

– Stacey

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We Are Moving Home!! February Update 2021

WE ARE MOVING HOME!!
Okay, Nothing is official until we get an official letter near the end of April but as it stands right now we are at like a 99% chance we will be moving back home this year towards the beginning of the summer. I couldn’t be more excited. It really is going to be amazing to finally be back home and able to drive to my parents house again. Not that I really went there a lot before because I am lazy and enjoy my own space a lot of the time but the possibility is there! They can finally meet my son! And if everything goes according to plans then maybe we will be announcing that we will be having another little one too! This is such a huge relief for me to know that I will be in our own house again. We will be in our own space. I can paint my kitchen whatever color I want. I can have a new couch since ours is basically falling apart. I cannot wait til everything is set in motion and we can actively look at homes. We browse now but obviously if we aren’t told it is official we wont be buying anything. Just the fact that we will be moving back and have a fenced in yard again FINALLY will be huge even for the dog. I keep thinking and brainstorming ideas that I would like to do this summer. Obviously with moving in this summer we aren’t going to get everything we want right away but there is a few things like a fenced in yard would be great, the same with a fire pit since they are simple and can make the yard feel more like home. Especially on a hard day unpacking or organizing or even decorating our new home we can sit outside and relax.

Weight loss is going too. I have decided that I will not be smoking weed for the month of February. I want to really hammer down and hopefully lose 10lbs before March. I am excited for my weight loss update tomorrow since I am down weight but I would like to go a bit further and really push myself this month for weight loss. And to do so weed needs to be gone for a bit. I feel like there is added pressure with the weight loss blogs that I am totally okay with. It is a good pressure of course. In the back of my mind I just think how silly I would be if never lost weight in like 6 weeks also. That would be insane and I would look super bad in front of all of you guys! Which is not what I want though. Ill talk more about weight loss tomorrow though in the update!

I NEARLY AM FINISHED WRITING A BOOK ALSO! I am really working hard on completing a book that the idea popped into my head last week. I believe it will be mostly an eBook but the idea is amazing!! I am in the finishing process right now where I am just reading it for a 3rd time. I will send it to a few friends who will read it and let me know if they have any questions or comments too that I can tweek it and add to it. It will be hopefully approx 12,000 words by the end of it. A respectable amount for my first book. I also have some facebook pages to read in order to gain more knowledge on the whole self publishing and writing process. My mom’s friend gave me these when I mentioned I was writing. I have so many ideas that I have to write down so I don’t forget. This first one I feel like could be a real winner though I know nothing about publishing I just hope that I can really make this work. I think writing and being an author could be my way to make an income by being a stay at home mom! It really did pop in my head and I think pursuing writing will be a great thing for me to gain some financial independence again while maintaining a household and being a stay at home mom too!

streaming I think has been going fantastic also. I feel like I have a schedule that is actually achievable for me. It may only be 3 days a week but those 3 days make me feel great. The fact they are spread out works even better especially if the baby doesn’t sleep well or is up one night even if I stream that day I know that I have a break day so to speak where I am able to go to bed as early as I want. I find this has been extremely helpful when it comes to trying to get enough sleep at night not to mention I think it can also be sustainable when we have another baby as well, up until the birth anyways!

Overall I couldn’t be more happier with how January is going not to mention the good news that we will be moving and getting to buy our own house again! I probably will mention this multiple times because this has been what we have been waiting for! I think that with time passing as fast as it is hopefully the no weed in February will also help the time pass. I look forward to having a clear mind and looking forward to being that much closer to being able to head back home. Not to mention also, my son is nearing his 1st birthday! I have been a mom for an entire year! That is actually insane for me to think about as well too. And to think we will soon be looking at having another child in this crazy world we live in right now too! 2021 is already looking like a great year even if Covid is still around!

How was your January?

Any goals for February?

Let me know in the comments below!

-StaySeeJ

Streamers and “Pity Parties”

If you haven’t been keeping tabs, that is totally okay! I am a streamer though I am so bad with a schedule that it is incredibly hard for me to even keep it going half the time. Juggling two kids, being a wife, and pregnant with our 3rd child, and trying to keep a household kind of clean while cooking, cleaning, playing, sewing, writing, the things that are being done are endless.

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Though there is one thing that has never changed since I first started streaming. I don’t really care about a lot of things streamers do, but one thing I do mind is streamer pity parties. I know, does this make me sound bad? Sure, maybe to some people who consider this as a tactic to make money. But for the vast majority of streamers I think we can all agree that sometimes it is PRETTY OBVIOUS when a streamer does this.

So what is a pity party? And what is it in regards to streaming? Streamer pity parties is when a streamer will play on the emotions of their viewers by trying to get some sort of compensation from them. Sometimes this is in regards to maybe their mental health has been struggling, other times it may be the unexpected bills, or maybe it is simply put, because they know their viewers will donate to them for whatever reason so they try to get that motivation for their viewers to feel bad. To guilt them so to speak.

Before I continue, I do want to state, not everyone is like this. There is a lot of people who have donation goals or different things that people love to help out when they have a few extra dollars. Which is totally okay when you think about it. What I am referring to is streamers in particular who will take extremely long breaks, And on top of it come back with new hair, fresh clothes, nails done, and everything else, and complaining that they no longer have their rent. This is weird and while many of their “financial supporters” are unaware of this hidden agenda to others it couldn’t be more brighter of a light.

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One of these tips to figure out if a streamer you watch is playing this dangerous game would be that they constantly talk about their hardships. Maybe they talk about how they are eating ramen all the time due to being unable to afford food. Maybe they talk about how there pet is suddenly sick, and I say suddenly because they have been sick perhaps for the past year multiple times with various ailments. One thing that is blinding when it comes to these is that someone who complains they are unable to afford rent, however they have a fresh set of a full foil highlights on their head which can be hundreds of dollars. Maybe I am the crazy one, but I would like to think rent should be the priority over a personal appearance thing.

Another red flag is when someone has a donation goal which is bigger than a lot of the other elements on their streams. Now before you are all “Stacey, You too have a donation/subscriber goal”. Yes I do! However it is smaller and in the corner of the stream to not take away from the stream itself. Does that mean I don’t mention it if someone asks? No I will. But I don’t continuously talk about it either. I will never mention that we are xxx closer to our goal, or whatever you want to say too.

The fact is, a lot of established streamers do have some people who are in a position financially to support the stream. There is absolutely nothing wrong with people who do this. What I am talking about is people who KNOW who these people are and will do anything that they can to get every single cent from them. Have you ever noticed that established and good streamers never mention money? hard times? or anything else? Because people know that like myself and others, when you mention these things constantly you run a major risk of actually turning people off of your stream. The fact is a lot of their viewers too could also be struggling and they don’t want to also hear someone else who is struggling.

Why might this be? Because at the end of the day a lot of people around the world are also struggling. To the point that they are working two jobs, making sacrifices to their daily lives while hearing someone sitting on their computer trying to make money from other people. I am a big supporter of the “If you cannot afford to stream you need to find different ways to make money”. This is more or less the people who think streaming more will mean more money, which is totally wrong. There is a lot of different ways to make money and streaming is one way to do so. Maybe they need to pick up a little part time job or maybe go different avenues of making content. One that can bring money in.

MAYBE I am so out there in left field that I am the one who is jealous or envious of people who have these suckers who have the money to spend on them. As I mentioned, I am all for transparency. If you are struggling, by all means, you can share with viewers, but if the topic of conversations always end up to the fact that you need money in some way shape of form and that you need money then it may be a sign that you are watching the wrong streams. Especially if the streamer is using emotions to make you feel guilty about not donating. That is just not okay.

We live in a world that there is an abundance of jobs and if you want to be a streamer then you need to do more than going live and hoping for the best. To be a twitch streamer you need to be looking at all pathways to bring viewers in and performing to the best of your ability. This does not include making your viewer, who watches you regularly, feel bad that you are unable to afford that new set of fake nails, especially since as streamers, we don’t know just how much our viewers are struggling, and at the end of the day they could be struggling far more than we are!

I’M SORRY BUT I AM BACK! (Feb 2023 update!)

Okay. First of all, I had entire intentions to come back January and go strong. But I totally was like NOPE and skipped the entire month. Sometimes I focus on different things in my life, ie: crafts, poems, etc and for me I was just totally not feeling it. If I am being totally honest. I just did not feel like writing. I didn’t feel like fixing blogs that I wrote and I didn’t feel like scheduling anything. But that is okay! We go through phases in lives where we like to do things more than another and vice versa. This was one of those times where the blog was on the back burner and I was focusing on other things.

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One big thing for this is that I am actually EXPECTING AGAIN! This is our 3rd baby and believe me if it wasn’t I would be considering it. I won’t go into all of the nitty gritty details as usual, I will be putting out a formal blog post with all those but let’s just say that this is very very rough compared to the first two pregnancy that I had. I will be sure to link the new blog here once I have it written too!

Crafting is something that I have been focusing on as well. Magnets, Bookmarks, Pins, and now Earrings. I have been trying to just keep busy. I use plastic canvas and I have been super happy with how things are going and been trying to pursue this. As I talk about different avenues of income this is one that I feel could be making it’s way up there with poetry once I get myself together for marketing for that! It has been a lot of fun being creative and I am really looking forward to building stock to hopefully one day be able to do markets to help grow myself as well. Though right now with kids, pregnancy, and a husband who is military and could be sailing different places, markets just aren’t in the cards right now and that is totally okay. I will keep going and striving to build an online presence while I am unable to go to different places physically!

Poetry is also coming along. I have a bit of a plan for marketing the books I have written as well as big plans to write more for this year to release next year. I am so excited to be able to keep writing and growing myself as an established poet. I think it will be awesome and such a cool legacy to leave behind for the world. It’s just promoting that I have been slacking on lately. I hope to get back into regularly posting to TikTok and Instagram on my poetry account also.

Another thing that has been playing on my mind a lot has been that I want to lose weight which obviously I am not focusing on now.. since you know Ill be gaining weight anyways. But once I am healed and whatever else I am setting a goal of 4 days per week to work out. I am looking forward to finally losing weight and keeping it off because I won’t have anymore pregnancy’s to worry about. Believe me this is the last! I am looking forward to getting in shape and just overall being healthy. I fully intent to prep a calorie/mental health journal once I get closer to my due date so it can be fully prepped so that I can start whenever I feel ready. I feel confident that I can stick to it and keep going.

I also am thinking about how I will keep this going for the rest of the year without having any time off since I just missed the last 2 months. My husband will be away for work and this will be about 4-6 weeks of me and the boys. I plan on trying to really hammer down on goals and dreams and whatever else because as anyone can probably say when separated from your spouse the best thing to do is to keep busy so that time flies by. This is my goal! I need to make a to do list for myself because I think that will be a good idea to keep on track though if I can get a lot of things done that would be awesome. Overall I am glad that I finally decided to start this again. As much as it can be challenging.

I also am low key making myself not take naps anymore. I find maybe it has been hindering me when it comes to sleeping at night but also like that is a part of pregnancy too. I feel like if I stopped napping all the time unless maybe my spouse was home, which obviously won’t count when he isn’t but still LOL. I really am trying to use all the time that I have to be productive. Sometimes the 2 hours in the afternoon when the boys are sleeping is a huge chunk to get things done. Eventually Vincent will be done napping in the day time also so that will be the hardest part is no little “break” so to speak too!

And streams, they are basically none existent but mostly due to the fact that I feel so sick all day I literally just want to lay on the couch and do absolutely nothing most days. I feel like my regular viewers totally understand however I just am beginning to feel like I need to just stream when I want to or accept that this just may not be my time to shine in the stream world. I have a family and a lot happening and if I can set myself up right I hope that I can stream when my kids are in school and be able to have it as another income as well as showcase things that i do like poetry and crafting too.

Ill leave this be though as I do have a lot of things to prep and write about to get this going. I am so excited to share things again with you all and cannot wait to bring you along for the ride too!

The Colorful, Poetry Collection, Explained!

Finally! I know what you may be thinking, The last book in the poetry collection being released. If you are wondering what the first two collections are about you can read the first one here, The Darkness but be warned that there is a trigger warning as some of the subjects in the collection are hard to read or think about for many people. The Light, the second collection released is more about overcoming obstacles and challenges in life, with some trigger warnings in there this is more of an uplifting spirit.

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And this! The Colorful is the final installment in the trilogy of poetry collections that I have released. This is probably the most fun one to write. I was able to be silly and fun and sometimes not even making any sense at all! This is the collection that I am sure many many people will enjoy and hopefully they enjoy it as much as I had fun writing it. These are poems that I know I thought back to my childhood as well as the future raising kids of my own now too. I can only assume that people too can relate to the poems or have similar stories that they can remember when they were younger too.

Some of the chapters in this collection touch base on some of life’s most meaningful subjects. From the weather, pets, or children. Maybe even places to be or things to do. They talk about all of the joys one may find. Music is a chapter where I talk about popular songs or songs that bring up memories for various reasons. I know there are some that remind me of my childhood when my dad was working out side on the cars and had the radio going on the oldies which are now the super oldies.

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I talk about different situations that you may find yourself in when you have children. Since becoming a mom I have learned so much and my kids have taught me so much too. I talk about meltdowns and moments that you can’t help but smile as you read the words along the pages. I know I was smiling writing them!

Then in the weather chapter there is situations about splashing in mud puddles, having a snow day at school or even the sun shining and feeling it on your skin. There is a lot of different things that can be written about in a light hearted way that I am sure most can relate to, that is if you life in a place that has snow! It may be hard to relate to a poem about snow if you don’t know what it looks like! hopefully they are able to show you just what it means for it and you can feel like you were there too.

After writing different things that are the tougher side of life, this book was a great relief from writing about them. I loved every minute or thinking of subjects to talk about in the chapters. I was excited when a new one would pop into my head to the point I would even write the ideas for them down so I never forgot. Having 2 boys it can be challenging to write about a subject in the moment and this was a great way for me to not forget ideas.

The Colorful is a collection that I am hopeful people can read whether on it’s own, or as the final installment of the trilogy. Even though it is part of a series of collections it can still be read by itself to understand what is happening. They can be stand alone or read together to see the progression of the world being a dark and scary place, to moving towards light and healing, to embracing what life has to offer. There may be a few sadder themes happening and when they come up I will also add a trigger warning just in case people need them. However I do feel fairly confident that these will go well in terms of people interpreting how they will be.

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Subjects that I also write about are winning, and no not just about the lottery too, laughter and things that can make people laugh, peace and the world or even just peace of mind when you realize a life changing moment. These were a nice way to finish how I felt and to see others too who feel this way. Some of the situations were a bit tricky to think about only because I did not want to write about the same things every time. The chapters are there to give the topics, but the situations are hopefully different enough that you enjoy them too.

There are moments in children where I talk about having my c-section and how it mentally was challenging for me to have a newborn and my oldest however in the end I can’t picture it any other way. I am so thankful to have these experiences to be able to write about too. I know some other people may have a tough time relating to life in this way. Some people have grown up much differently than I have. I am sharing a piece of my life with you and I sincerely hope that in some way you too can relate to these poems about how life is filled with many, many situations that can make our world colorful. There is not always a black and white path. There is lots of shades and colors that are around and able to be seen if only we look a little bit harder to appreciate them!

8 Products to Avoid with a New Baby

Having a new baby can be overwhelming for even the most experienced person. You have so many things you have to buy or acquire somehow that you almost need a list. Even still, you are nearly continually trying to limit spending and whenever you buy something it seems 2 more things that are necessary pop up and you are there trying to buy it among other things too.

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The following post I actually posted on my Facebook page and had the friends there help to compile the list. If I have used them I will say that I have, if i haven’t I will also mention that too. This is our list of what products you could probably do without when it comes to having a new baby!

Wipes Warmer – This is a product that someone had mentioned on Facebook. My son is over a year old at the time of writing this and I had NO IDEA this device even existed. A very valid point that a friend had mentioned was if you have this, assuming you plug it in. Whenever you need to change your baby NOT at your home you will have a difficult time because the wipes won’t be as warm as it was with the warmer. I think it goes without saying my spouse and I DID NOT buy this when we were planning for the birth of our son, and we will not be buying it for future children either. What a silly waste of money!

Tons of toys – I say this now but as I write this we are slowly but surely growing and growing out toys. It probably would be easier if we had a toy box but there just is no room in our home for that right now. Maybe in the future we will get an actual toy box but right now we just use a few baskets. In the beginning babies don’t even really play with toys. As he grew we decided to slowly give a few things each holiday, so like Christmas and his birthday and Easter. If you also know people who have kids they are more than willing to send or give them to you also too. A child does not need a ton of toys and truth be told my son would rather play with cooking tools like Tupperwear lids and what not over his toys!

Baby wearing carriers – I never personally used this with my son however I am kind of leaning towards getting one for my next child. The problem with this is that I feel like the size of a baby passed so quickly that I feel like you wouldn’t even need it after a few months. I would like to think that I don’t need this and I will be able to just carry my new baby with my son who will be walking by then too. I never needed one with my son that I feel like I wont need one for future children too. (Spoiler alert: I loved it but my second son grew so fast I only used it for a short period of time before it was useless to us!)

Expensive cribs – You do not need the most expensive cribs. Seriously. Buy one mid range or check for sales but at the end of the day whether your crib has nice engravings or it is just a plain old crib you do not need to spend a lot of money on the crib. Save it for other odds and ends but a 300$ crib will do the exact same thing as a 500+ dollar crib. Not to mention, if you choose to go the bassinet route when they are a newborn, You wont even NEED a crib for the first few months of their life!



Diaper Genie – We have one of these because we thought it would be super useful. Mind you, Our son’s bedroom is upstairs. We are typically downstairs in our living room playing. I would say this, it does help TO SOME EXTENT on the diaper smell. However, is it worth the price? No. His room being upstairs in the summer it is extremely hot and the smell is going to seep out regardless. We just put the diapers in the regular garbage and if the stink is too much we take a fresh smelling scent and spray in the bag. It does the job. Changing the bags can also be a pain since you have to buy a specific kind to put in. If his room was on the same level maybe we would be more inclined to try and use it more. You also need to buy charcoal bags to help eliminate the odor but when you have 30c+ weather it really doesn’t of a whole lot in eliminating the scent.

Change table – This is something a friend put on my list on Facebook. We have a change table because it also doubles as my son’s dresser. We also thought that we would be able to use it for future babies too. Since we would just get my son a regular dresser as he grew and use the change table/dresser combo for future kids. My friend thought this was a waste because people just pay money for a change table. No storage no nothing just the table. That would be a waste sure since it really isn’t all that functional. We also don’t use the table function all that much since as i mentioned before we are downstairs, So we have his diaper bag filled with everything we need and a change of clothes so that we can do everything without it too. If you are going to spend money on a change table like us, at least have a dresser or storage with it. Don’t just have it for one purpose.

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Bumbo Seats – We never used this for my son however if you really think about it. They are far over priced. The use is pretty standard for a seat. And you can get nearly the exact same thing for such a cheaper price that it really isn’t worth it. Bumbo’s at the time of writing this are approximately $70.00 Canadian. While we got the same type of seat for our son with things on it for $50.00 and you could probably even find one cheaper. There is no reason to spend this much money on a seat that has no toys attached to it only for your child to outgrow in a few short months if not sooner.

Baby towels – We fell for this and we won’t be buying anymore for any future children. They are so thin and sure they are soft to begin with, however they really are not that absorbent and when they do they are soaked immediately. For a newborn they might be okay for a few weeks but overall we just end up using a regular towel for my son after the bath and sometimes we use these for the outer layer since they typically have a hood to put over their head. Sure they really aren’t super expensive BUT you can do the same thing with a regular towel. And they become rough like any washing towel does so their once soft appearance is no longer soft!

Those are my 8 products to avoid when shopping for your little bundle’s arrival.

What are your worst products that you would avoid?
What is something you bought that didn’t live up to your expectations?


Leave a comment about them below! Ill do my best to respond to everyone too!


– Stacey


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Letter to Future Self

Hey Stacey!

This is a blog idea you obviously thought was fun and thought maybe people reading would get a kick out of it too who knows! But this is more about you and what you need to tell yourself!



First of all, You are incredible! You are writing this when you are 32 years old. You have 2 beautiful kids, you are even a published author now too! You are on your way to doing great things and nothing happens overnight. Please do not lose sight of that. Becoming a successful author is a long game strategy that you can totally do if you put your mind to it! After all you already have one book out and hopefully 3 in total by the end of the year! Sit down and plan out a few years in advance for writing so you are able to really able to see the marathon you are about to embark on for writing.

Even though the scale may not be going down as much as you like it is important to remember this, regardless of whatever number you see there you are beautiful, smart, and funny. You are incredible and amazing. You don’t need to let a weight number dictate how you feel about yourself. Being heavier for whatever time does not mean your self worth goes down. You are just as valuable as you ever were even if your weight is higher or lower than what it is now.

You are smart. So very smart. You are able to plan some of the most successful and challenging things there is. It is okay to lose track of time, or even lose track of things you are doing by relaxing and just doing nothing at all. That being said, you can do anything you want to. This includes de-cluttering the home and trying to make it such a nice space for the boys and yourself. You hang on to so many things when you are trying to hang on to memories however it is important to remember that you are such a divine person and a beautiful soul that you don’t need every trinket and item to remember things.

You are a great mom. Being a stay at home mom is hard but you are so very happy that you are able to be with your kids and be the one raising them. Are there times when you are at your wits end and both kids are fussy? yup. Are there moments when you wonder if maybe day care would be a better idea and going back to work? Rarely. But you are doing such a great job raising these two children that a 3rd in the family will be even more incredible too.

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Planning things out helps you stay on track. There is nothing wrong with that. Hopefully by the time you look back at this you will know too that your crafting is slowly taking off. You have plans to make some plastic canvas patterns to throw up on Etsy. That way you can build some sort of passive income! Plus you figured out you can too make the patterns on Etsy and that is even more incredible too. you have so many goals for the next few years that sitting down (Maybe after writing this even!) and planning out the next few years in terms of writing, crafting, and business is not a bad thing! You want to set yourself up so that when your children are in school you can work from home while making money!

Sometimes you lose sight of what is happening, you get overwhelmed, maybe the rewards aren’t as fast to see as you may have hoped, or whatever the reason sometimes none at all, you give up! Not anymore! you are so much more mature than you were and now that you have some game plans in place for promoting yourself you can totally get it out there! One of the hardest things with writing and promoting your own book and trying to make a living from working at home is dedication. As I said, these things don’t happen over night and I know we wish they did but they don’t. Even if things seem to be stuck where they are keep going. Eventually the reward will be so worth it and you will do fantastic things (Hint, you already are!).

You have a beautiful home, You have been married for just over two months. You also are someone who has more drive and ambition that a lot of people. You are also so very strong too. Keep going and achieving everything you ever imagined. You have a supportive husband where sometimes he supports your crazy ideas even if they are just that, Crazy! You deserve everything that is coming your way and than some. Even if you feel a bit of the imposter syndrome sneaking in, don’t get it get to you. You are so very talented in so many ways that it is no joke that you are doing things. Not to mention you already sold a few copies of your book! That in itself is a hard thing that many people can’t say they have done! But you can! Very rarely does anything happen in a24 hour period except for many winning the lottery, but that too is harder to do than what you are working towards!

Keep your head up, and keep patient! I know that is something we obviously have a lot of trouble with, and there is nothing wrong with being self aware and working on that too! If you ever need a little pick me up, just read this. Dated for November 15th, 2022. So you remember which point of your life you are at !

Love
You.

Judgemental Parents, And how to deal with them

Before I even begin, let me say. I too am one of those judgement Mom’s. I will judge the eff out of someone but only if they are doing something that is completely unsafe. There are plenty of things that I don’t agree with mom’s doing and that is just their parenting style. For me, this falls under a category such as safe sleep, bashing formula feeding moms, or co-sleeping, which you all know my stance on co-sleeping here. Even the judgemental and totally justified stance I have for circumcising children for a cosmetic need too. Which you are more than welcome to read here too. That is one hill I will die on, not even joking.

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I think when you become a mom one of the hardest things is being judged by other parents or even medical professionals that you may encounter. One of the things we have to tell ourselves often, since having children especially, is that parents judge. That being said, I always take it with a grain of salt. My parents had me a very long time ago. I am over 30 years old. If they are telling me something that they have done when I was a baby chances are there is some sort of evidence that has been proven to show that whatever they did was unsafe for whatever reason. Think about all the blankets we used to have in the cribs with babies but now we don’t have anything in the crib with baby. One of the hardest judgemental things to hear is dated parenting advice. Especially when they phrase that normally comes out after you disapprove are “Well, we did it with you and you turned out just fine didn’t you?”. Like, yes, we did turn out fine but there also was not a lot of information like we have today or studies shown that these types of things happen and there are plenty of reasons why no one does this barbaric practices anymore.

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Another thing I have found is a super judgemental topic among parents is safe sleep. The bottom line is that co-sleeping is not safe. I have a friend who co-slept all of her kids. Do I agree with it? Absolutely not. She knows this also. That being said she also openly admits that it is not safe. She trusts herself and does it anyways. Her choice. However there are literally people who co-sleep and they pretend that everything is totally fine and pull out the most awkward website that you could never remember to help enforce that their claims of it being safe to sleep with a newborn or a baby is true. When it really isn’t. Do I judge my friend on her co-sleeping and unsafe sleep practices? No. because she too knows the risks involved. If you are a parent who wants to take those risks so be it, but at least admit that you are in fact taking a risk and you aren’t sugar coating it to be something that is safe.

One of the things I think is really hard to even grasp is that people will judge you on literally anything. They will judge if you have baby dressed well enough for the weather, how long it takes to secure them in the car, what you feed them and when, how much you feed them, how you teach and raise them, whether they are in day care or not, when you put them to bed. It honestly can be exhausting trying to keep track of things you should or shouldn’t be doing. Though, I think it is always nice to have a gentle reminder that a lot of times though when people make comments, they aren’t necessarily doing so because they think what you are doing is wrong, they are simply sharing what they did raising their kids (or even you if it is your parents!) and hoping maybe it will help you in some way, even if we know that you shouldn’t be using oralgel on your kids teething gums now!

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Finding yourself being the judgemental parent maybe? Take a moment to change the subject, or maybe if you disagree on the topics with another parent respectfully say that you just have differing opinions and that you would rather not continue talking about this. Remember, we are all adults raising children in so many various ways that we are prone to literally not see eye to eye with every single parent we encounter. It is totally OKAY with not agreeing, but when you try to bash or belittle someone then that means you are the judgemental party and quite honestly, a meany!

Are there times I have bit my tongue at people? Of course. One instance that comes to mind is a friend will use their hands free phone holder, and record snap chats continuously with their kids in the back either singing or whatever as they are driving, or maybe they even put their makeup on. I 110% DO NOT AGREE WITH THIS. Why haven’t I said anything? Because this person can be reactive and will make the excuses of “Well it is hands free so I wasn’t holding the phone, or they were just fine” THAT ISN’T THE POINT. A hands free phone holder is to literally click a button and not focus on a phone or record videos. So I guess if that friend happens to read this, they know who they are. But for me to say anything to be met with some sort of weird hate or whatever I just cant be bothered, for me though I NEVER touch my phone while driving for this reason. It just isn’t safe. Plus if I were to say anything I would probably also be met with “Well you were not there”. remember the saying, “Pick your battles” this is one of them.

Prepping for Final Baby

There is no secret here that I am pretty open about our family and how big we want it. My partner and I are planning on having 3 children provided that everything is alright though and everything aligns right. As you know having a baby can be challenging. I even talk about the 5 tips to get pregnant easier here in a different blog post. These are the things that I have been doing for the past little while in order to prep for the final baby we hope to welcome to our family!

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One thing I have been doing since August was taking prenatals. They say you should be starting to take these 3 months prior to trying to conceive. That being said though, prenatals will not make you become pregnant faster. The purpose of this is to build the vitamins and whatever else up in your body to help carry a baby better. Obviously there are times though that people are not able to do this with surprise pregnancy’s and things however if you are actively planning like us than yes, take them 3 months before hand to help your body become ready!

Another thing that I am trying to do is continue to lose weight. Having 2 kids and thinking about another pregnancy I want to make sure that I am not tired and sluggish. I want to hopefully lose maybe 25lbs (Hopefully since you know I write these in advance I will have you all updated on the Thursday’s Self Care) and I want to also be able to have munching and snacking in control so that I don’t have to worry about over eating. With my first pregnancy I gained a lot of weight and it was hard. With my second I didn’t gain that much. Which was great however I want to hopefully lose weight and not gain like I did with my second. Chasing kids around will be challenging so I really want to make sure that I am healthy and at least not carrying around extra weight unless it has to do with the growing baby!

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I am also slowly thinking about bedrooms. Currently we have 3 bedrooms upstairs and right now my youngest is in the biggest room with the crib and my oldest in his own room in a big bed. That being said, whenever number 3 comes along hopefully it happens the same as it did with my first two which was relatively quick, that I would really like to low key plan the babies room. Chances are my youngest will have to be in a big boy bed. Not to mention I will have to put both of the boys in the same room. Then move the baby to the little room. I am not in a huge rush obviously due to the fact that I am hoping that we can keep the newest addition in a bassinet for a period of time but I would like to at least mentally prepare for the changes of rooms.

This also may sound super silly, but I am also mentally preparing myself for another c-section. It was really hard on me, so hard in fact I talk about the 3 things that were the hardest part of a c-section here as well as the parts of a c-section that no one talks about here. Maybe it was part of my fault because I never really thought “It could happen to me” and I knew literally nothing about it. All I knew was that they cut open your stomach. Not the time, what happens in recover, or anything like that. I want to be fully prepared to have another c-section if that is the route that is safest way for myself and for the baby to make it to this world. I know recovery won’t be easy because of the fact that I will have 2 little fellas who would be running around and I really hope that at the end of the day we do not have to go that way however if it does I want to be prepared as well.

And finally, I am also prepping for the fact that this will be my last pregnancy. We always planned on having just 3 children and as much as I feel like an alien and that I was low key not a huge fan of it. I will say that we were pretty lucky. I was basically minimal pregnancy symptoms and was able to do a lot more than friends of mine were though. That being said though, every pregnancy is different. I know this will be the last time that I can feel little kicks on the inside. I know that this is the last time my body will carry another human. I am okay with that and I hope the 9 months fly buy. I am ready to also take this time to really reflect on the fact that our family dynamic will be changing for a final time also too.



It feels super surreal though to sit here and be thinking about a 3rd pregnancy. From the first and to the third it will be a total of 27 months of pregnancy. That is over 2 years being pregnant. I still cannot believe that such a short time ago I was announcing that we were pregnant with our first and soon we will be announcing that we were pregnant with our last. It marks the end of an era so to speak. My partner and I always wanted to have our children close together in age for many reasons, maybe because we are a little bit crazy but still! Before we know it we will soon be out of diapers, and they will be off to college! Never do I ever wish memories and time away, but boy does it ever pass fast! I still am in shocked that my youngest is nearly a year old and here we are, going to be trying yet again!

Worst Halloween Candy

When it comes to candy and sweets or even chocolate, I am no stranger. I am for sure in a love hate relationship with it. That being said it can be somewhat hard for me to choose a list of the worst Halloween candy. Instead I kind of cheated and dug into twitter to see what everyone else thinks, or agrees with for the worst Halloween candy! I will also state some of the things on this list I totally disagree with because I eat them when the season is right. However they were popular answers so I feel like not putting them on this list would be doing a major disservice to my pocket friends on twitter, not to mention if I were to not put some of the worst candy people may not help me “cheat” on blogs like this again!

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Licorice – was mentioned, that being said red licorice is great. I can eat it all day every day. What isn’t so great is the black licorice. I feel like you either love it or hate it. A few people mentioned the black licorice. I personally enjoy red and if even offered the black licorice I find it very hard to not reply with a snarky comment. Maybe it is due to the fact that the flavor is so strong but I am not a fan at all! Seems that quite a few others are also not a huge fan of these either.

Candy Corn – is another thing people mentioned which for the record I absolutely do not agree with. I eat candy corn for Halloween and I even buy the Christmas ones called Reindeer Corn or something like that. I even buy the candies that don’t even look like candy corn but taste like it. People again either love or hate candy corn, I am a huge fan and it pains me to even put it here! Some people have commented that it is a sugary mess, while others have said that it taste like fake color and far too sweet. Obviously the word too sweet is not in my vocabulary though so for me it may just be sweet enough!

Toffee Kisses are nasty. These are the candies that come in the orange, black, and yellow type wrappers. I feel like anyone who has gotten them remembers them because multiple times it was mentioned how the wrappers are still to this day a sort of retro feel to them. No matter how fresh they were too they ALWAYS stuck to the wrappers before they began to stick to your teeth. I think the only people I remotely remember enjoying these were my Dad and my Grampie. So I guess maybe the older generation may enjoy these cavity inducing chewy paper attracting pieces of yuck but they were a popular favorite of who don’t like them.

Raisins should not be a Halloween candy. Raisins are there for people who feel bad about giving our candy so they buy raisins for people when in reality all of them end up in the trash. Not to mention raisins are stuck to the box more often than not so they end up in literally one big chunk. These also go along the lines of giving an apple out. That little fruit would ALWAYS be bruised by the end of the day because they always sank to the bottom with everything else that was heavy and as you walked they would get beaten around.

Necco wafers are another popular candy people mentioned. With references to it tasting like chalk. They also write like chalk if you gave it a try too (don’t ask). They are a thin pressed powder type candy which is next to no flavor. If I remember correctly they aren’t even that sweet either!! Sure they may be fun to look at, but they certainly are not enjoyable to eat.

Homemade popcorn/anything – may be something that is more of an older treat in terms of ideas. I know personally growing up we rarely ever got food that was homemade in our sacks. That being said if we did ever have any homemade treats it was normally a special treat from a family member it close friend. Any random homemade things we literally were thrown in the trash, you can’t trust anyone now a days you really can’t trust a treat even with the beat intentions. I think it is important to remember too, that someone may even have the best intentions but could accidentally give something out that can hurt you in some way or another.

Wagon wheels/pastries – as delightful as they may be are the worst for Halloween. One main reason is when they are tossed into your treat bag, they inevitably become squished. Literally squished. Not to mention think of a few cans of pop in there and they become just a powdery sugar mess stuck to the wrappers. Just, no.

Plain suckers or filler candy, Think those plain suckers that have no flavor only color and they all taste the same, tootsie rolls, or even some knock off candy that you may have found cheaper than everything else to put into a treat bag that you make. Think, the very last candy to survive the good stuff that you ate within the first little while. Or the candy that you hang on to because you aren’t eating it and your mom or dad or guardian finally throws it away because it will become a sticky mess for ants and bugs when the weather warms up.

Rockets, finally, them. I know this pains me to put on because they are quite possibly one of the top 5 favorite candies for my spouse but I personally cannot stand them. They are a pressed powder mess. They are literally pressed sugar with no substance to them at all. I personally MAYBE eat one or two roles and that is about all. And that is maybe every few years. They are so similar to the toffee kisses in regards to they have been around since the dinos have become extinct however they just are a boring candy.

What are some Halloween candies that you can live without, These are mostly mine though I am sure if you give it time I will be more than happy to add to this list because quite frankly, there is a lot of junk that is just, junk!

Halloween Party Planning Tips

As you may know if you have been following this blog for a while, I am no stranger for holidays and going over the top with decor and tips and tricks. Halloween is kind of a secret love. While I do love Christmas the most and Halloween is a close second. I normally really only decorate now for my kids however at one time and I’m sure that time will also pose later in life, I was about decorating for a party! Now a days we don’t do the Halloween party thing but we did do something though when we had enough friends to actually throw one! Mind you also, this was pre-kid era also so it made things a bit easier in terms of wrangling them up and hoping they don’t destroy anything before guests could arrive!

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Planning a Halloween party TAKES TIME! Especially when it comes to foods. There is many dishes that need to take time to even set up. Though yes, you can probably wing it and get things done on the fly if you wanted to but there are specific things you need to just do the day before (At least!). Think about those punches people make, you know the ones with the floating hand ice. You obviously need to figure out how to put the water in the glove, tie it off, or many you want to use a different color and or juice to make the ice. Then you also have to freeze it. And no, I don’t mean just the outside like it needs to be totally solid. If you don’t give your hand enough time to freeze, not only will it probably melt way faster than you expected but the whole gruesome hand in the punch may just look like melted ice chunks and nothing really spooky about that unless maybe it was referring to the Titanic and that iceberg.

Or maybe you are doing something with jello and you need to make some guts or brains or even worms out of it, you would also need to have time for it to set up properly. If you don’t then you could have a super gross nearly inedible mess which is not a good look at any party! Even if you look at the worms in dirt with chocolate pudding, if you don’t do it early enough may end up more like a soup.

Another thing is decorations. ESPECIALLY if you are planning on making some of the decorations yourself. One year on Pinterest I had seen a design on the ceiling with bats and they looked like they were soaring across. It was such a cool idea however I did not have a way to make them solid black and so towards the end I actually ended up using a black marker and let me tell you, it took such a long time to do that I nearly gave up on it. if you are preparing to make your own decorations, which is totally worth it, then you would probably do well if you were to plan and be realistic about how much you will need, Time wise. Or if you want to save time, even photo copying or using a printer without ink that has dried up or ran out may even be a better solution too!

Another thing and this may seem like a total no brainer is give your guests plenty of time. For multiple reasons this is important. One because people need to make or buy or even source their costumes. Maybe they need to find specific pieces to make an outfit. Or maybe they are totally making it from scratch. Or they are trying to buy an outfit whether it be online or in stores so they need to go and find this. Planning and giving guests a bit of time to plan out their outfits is always a good idea. Another reason why this is important is because some people probably are also trying to have a party for Halloween. If they are it is important to give them time and maybe you will decide not to throw one and just visit some instead. Halloween is like Christmas where if people do have a few parties to go to they will need to plan out a designated driver, maybe child care, maybe car pooling if multiple friends are invited together. Giving time to guests is something that they will thank you for in the long run.

And lastly, what type of a party is always a great bit of information. I would like to assume that if it was at night it would more than likely be child free. Or maybe you are having a parents and child type evening. Though if it is in the day time it can be a bit more challenging. You also don’t want to assume there is children or vice versa when the other may be actual party. Especially if you assume there is no children, and perhaps you pay for a babysitter for your own kids when you really didn’t need to. And the flip side is maybe you thought there was kids so you never brought any drinks, or special treats or something when there actually was no kids there and you are feeling a bit left out from festivities.

Regardless of the holidays, Halloween is no exception. Planning a party does not need to be a headache waiting to happen, or a growing to do list to even get it done. There are many ways to plan a party so that everyone (including yourself) enjoys it! Whether you want to have a full family fun day or you want a little adult time, there is no right or wrong way to throw a party to celebrate whatever you want to!

And if after trying to assess what is happening at a Halloween party leaves you still wondering what the details are, Just ask the host! I am sure they would love to clarify things for you too!

Already Planning 2023

It should come to no surprise to anyone that I am already planning my 2023 writing year already. As you know by now from the multiple references I make, I write a lot of these blogs in advance. A big part of this is that a lot of times after chasing my sons around all day I just do not have the energy at the end of the day to sit down and write. A lot of times I want to binge a TV show or I want to just do absolutely nothing!

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However, this year has been so incredible for me that I want to really continue the success and set myself up for building my brand. I have released 3 poetry collections with 100 poems on each. I still an in shock that I was able to even write them so swiftly and figure this all out with some help from a family friend who has published before.

One thing I have even started to do for the end of this year is SCHEDULING SOCIALS!! If a social platform gives this option (not a service to do this with I mean the actual platform) then I am using it to the full potential. I schedule these blogs ahead. I also schedule my tweets that are for blogs, tweets for my graphics that I created for the poetry collections, as well as facebook posts for the graphics for the collections also. One thing I personally find hard to see and I am sure I am not the only one, is that when you see a social profile that has little to no interactions or posts no one is going to want to follow or keep tabs on it. Normally I can do well on socials being active however I do struggle (like anyone) to be active all of the time. In particular, weekends are really hard for me to keep active. I nearly shut off my brain and can go nearly a day or two without posting.

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What I am doing for blogs is pre-writing a lot. I want to have a good majority of blogs typed. These are not subjects that are time sensitive. My idea for this is so that I can hopefully be able to do more time sensitive blogs quicker. If something happens in the world or even local that I want to write about I will be able to do it quickly! I think this will be great in reaching new people and what not. I also am recycling old blogs. One thing I have a major issue with is that I am bad at only posting a blog once it is live and leaving it into the world to hopefully be read. I am not scheduling a blog post on off days and that is hurting me. I have a lot of followers across socials and I should be using it more!

Another thing is my poetry collections. As you know based on the amount of time that I have posted about it they are very important to me for multiple reasons. It is a major career change and not an easy one to break into. I have been majorly taking the plunge into tiktok to hopefully break into some new readers there. I am also hoping to put some more things on instagram too. Break into there also. Social medias are huge. I also am working on trying to think of a few giveaways in the coming months to help grow those pages as well too. It is so very challenging though.


I really want to take 2023 in stride. For so long I have had a tough time with keeping on track and really seeing how I can make this stay at home mom thing work that I am totally focused on that. Not to mention when I have a puff at night I get distracted and that can be challenging. I am also hopeful that as 2023 comes into our worlds that I will be pregnant with our 3rd baby which will also give me a lot of free time in the evenings since as you may be familiar with when I wrote the blog about quitting weed for pregnancy here you can see that I will need to find more things to do. With Vincent and Felix I spent a lot of time sewing plastic canvas and doing art things. this time I kind of would like to do writing as a focus. And probably continuing to workout and keep active which I too need to get back into.

Even though we cannot plan the future, we can certainly try our best though to actually prep for it. Of course there will be different situations and things popping up that we don’t expect and throws us off course but it is important to remember that we do have goals as we may end up being stuck even longer than we had hoped. My hope is that by planning my year I am able to keep reaching different milestones and writing goals to hopefully, eventually, make this an actual, money making career.

Though, I should say, that I also have next to nothing in terms of marketing so I really need to try and prepare myself for the year not only by doing certain things but also by trying to learn as I go. Maybe some time in the future I will try my best to take a few marketing courses even, however it can be challenging to say the least! Those things are something that does cost money, but I think with the right planning and a bunch of determination I should be able to reach each and every milestone!