Prepping for the Month Ahead

Prepping for the month ahead can seem like a major chore for some people. For me, I LOVE IT! I love doing so many things and setting myself up for success not to mention it really is helpful for me to see the month ahead. Being pregnant again it helps me stay on track for appointments, blood work, meetings, goals, and whatever else I needs to have done also too.

The things that I schedule may seem pretty trivial however when I don’t leave the home due to covid and a stay at home mom it really does help to schedule everything even if I don’t always follow it too. For me it helps me feel a sort of normalcy because when I used to work and live back home I would schedule so much. Being at home you can get lost in the moment (which is not always a bad thing) and fall behind on things. For me it helps me to keep track of things such as my streaming schedule, or things related to streaming such as clips, scheduling tweets, blogging as well. I also have certain days I schedule writing whether that be for blogging or the books or poetry that I am working on. I also schedule in days that I do absolutely nothing because even those are important to have too. Right now in the prep for moving we are also going through certain things so that we can make sure that we are gutting out the basement and throwing things away to make things easier. I also have doctors appointments and blood work to plan and take care of due to moving and being pregnant and trying to make it as seamless as possible between changing doctors too. And of course it can change month to month on what is scheduled and planned.

The first thing I normally would do is I would write in my planner, This is the easiest way for me to see the month in advance with the days laid out. I can write it in pen or pencil whatever I choose to do and It is a clear way for me to see what is happening. I find this best to start with as I can sit in front of the TV and chip away at it. Normally I start about a week before the end of the month so I can change around dates that are possible to be changed.

After I have everything pretty well sorted I will then transfer the dates on to my calendar. I like to do this after my planner as I use permanent markers and well, if i make a mistake it low key gives me anxiety because I then have to either scratch it out or make it work because white out doesn’t typically work on that. And if that happens it legit gives me low key anxiety that the whole month is thrown off. It also hangs above my computer as a quick glace for me to see what is up and coming for the month. I feel like if I don’t do this before the end of the month I look up more often than not and get completely thrown off on what is going on for the month.

Lastly I use post it notes a lot. If it is something important or something I am keeping track of like an appointment or something I will write it there and put it on that and stick it to the bottom of my monitor. I find this to be easy since I see it all the time when I am sitting there working on whatever or gaming as well too. I keep so many post it’s around and stick them to scribblers and lists and things that it does help for sure I think.

The only thing that I Have never done before even when I was working shift work is put things in my phone. I don’t think I will ever use my phone in that way and truth be told I have seen more people miss appointments and things because they put it in the wrong date or the wrong time that I simply do not trust myself to not mess it up. I will sometimes text my boyfriend if I am on the fly for an appointment date or he does the same to me, but only because I typically do not bring my planner around everywhere with me and I don’t carry a post it either. As far as using my phone goes, I just don’t trust technology to not screw it up or even user error. Being 30 something years old I have never used my phone for scheduling and I don’t plan on starting it now.

Overall I would say to anyone who doesn’t schedule to not sleep on this. When you schedule things even if it means really relax scheduling it makes you feel like you do have your life together. I know some things I schedule probably don’t need to be scheduled and most times things re flexible, but in the long run it really can help with organizing your life. Knowing what to expect and what is up and coming can help to prepare for it, whichever it might be. I know being stuck inside during quarantine, not working and being a stay at home mom, prepping for a move across provinces, and whatever else, it really does help to have things laid out and feel like I am living a “normal” life where I can get grocery’s regularly or I can go to appointments for my son instead of having one parent go on them.

Are you a scheduler?
Or do you just wing it in hopes that everything works out and nothing clashes?
Do you use your phone to plan things or are you a pen to paper person like me?


Let me know in the comments below!

– Stacey

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We Are Moving Home!! February Update 2021

WE ARE MOVING HOME!!
Okay, Nothing is official until we get an official letter near the end of April but as it stands right now we are at like a 99% chance we will be moving back home this year towards the beginning of the summer. I couldn’t be more excited. It really is going to be amazing to finally be back home and able to drive to my parents house again. Not that I really went there a lot before because I am lazy and enjoy my own space a lot of the time but the possibility is there! They can finally meet my son! And if everything goes according to plans then maybe we will be announcing that we will be having another little one too! This is such a huge relief for me to know that I will be in our own house again. We will be in our own space. I can paint my kitchen whatever color I want. I can have a new couch since ours is basically falling apart. I cannot wait til everything is set in motion and we can actively look at homes. We browse now but obviously if we aren’t told it is official we wont be buying anything. Just the fact that we will be moving back and have a fenced in yard again FINALLY will be huge even for the dog. I keep thinking and brainstorming ideas that I would like to do this summer. Obviously with moving in this summer we aren’t going to get everything we want right away but there is a few things like a fenced in yard would be great, the same with a fire pit since they are simple and can make the yard feel more like home. Especially on a hard day unpacking or organizing or even decorating our new home we can sit outside and relax.

Weight loss is going too. I have decided that I will not be smoking weed for the month of February. I want to really hammer down and hopefully lose 10lbs before March. I am excited for my weight loss update tomorrow since I am down weight but I would like to go a bit further and really push myself this month for weight loss. And to do so weed needs to be gone for a bit. I feel like there is added pressure with the weight loss blogs that I am totally okay with. It is a good pressure of course. In the back of my mind I just think how silly I would be if never lost weight in like 6 weeks also. That would be insane and I would look super bad in front of all of you guys! Which is not what I want though. Ill talk more about weight loss tomorrow though in the update!

I NEARLY AM FINISHED WRITING A BOOK ALSO! I am really working hard on completing a book that the idea popped into my head last week. I believe it will be mostly an eBook but the idea is amazing!! I am in the finishing process right now where I am just reading it for a 3rd time. I will send it to a few friends who will read it and let me know if they have any questions or comments too that I can tweek it and add to it. It will be hopefully approx 12,000 words by the end of it. A respectable amount for my first book. I also have some facebook pages to read in order to gain more knowledge on the whole self publishing and writing process. My mom’s friend gave me these when I mentioned I was writing. I have so many ideas that I have to write down so I don’t forget. This first one I feel like could be a real winner though I know nothing about publishing I just hope that I can really make this work. I think writing and being an author could be my way to make an income by being a stay at home mom! It really did pop in my head and I think pursuing writing will be a great thing for me to gain some financial independence again while maintaining a household and being a stay at home mom too!

streaming I think has been going fantastic also. I feel like I have a schedule that is actually achievable for me. It may only be 3 days a week but those 3 days make me feel great. The fact they are spread out works even better especially if the baby doesn’t sleep well or is up one night even if I stream that day I know that I have a break day so to speak where I am able to go to bed as early as I want. I find this has been extremely helpful when it comes to trying to get enough sleep at night not to mention I think it can also be sustainable when we have another baby as well, up until the birth anyways!

Overall I couldn’t be more happier with how January is going not to mention the good news that we will be moving and getting to buy our own house again! I probably will mention this multiple times because this has been what we have been waiting for! I think that with time passing as fast as it is hopefully the no weed in February will also help the time pass. I look forward to having a clear mind and looking forward to being that much closer to being able to head back home. Not to mention also, my son is nearing his 1st birthday! I have been a mom for an entire year! That is actually insane for me to think about as well too. And to think we will soon be looking at having another child in this crazy world we live in right now too! 2021 is already looking like a great year even if Covid is still around!

How was your January?

Any goals for February?

Let me know in the comments below!

-StaySeeJ

What is COVID like for Kids?

If are new here you may not have seen my post about what it is like for Covid in adults, however have no fear I have linked it here and you can read all about it here. This post in particular would be what I will be writing in regards to my kids having Covid.

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So, my kids had Covid when I did. My son’s were aged 2 years old and my youngest was 8 months old. My youngest had gotten it first and then my oldest a few days later. Here is what it was like for them.

A fever was the first thing that happened. Both my oldest and youngest started with fevers. Nothing super high and they were manageable with medicine. The best thing we did was tried to space the Tylenol out in order to make sure they both got a dose before bedtime. Overall nights were not that bad I would say. There was one night that my youngest had a rougher night where my partner would spend time staying up with him and I was trying to get some sleep to pass my own sickness. That was really hard. The fever did break with one dose. I have seen people piggy backing Advil or Motrin with Tylenol to bring down fevers however we were lucky and only needed Tylenol though. We never needed to piggy back beds at all. Which was a relief. We also gave a warm back to my oldest one evening as well and this seemed to help also in terms of fevers. Obviously when you try to cool a temperature in children do not use extremely cold water as it can make them go into shock so this was just for cooling down a bit.

The second was runny nose and stuffed up. Mind you they never really had boogies dripping from their faces all day but they were far more stuffed up than I was. We just made sure it never ran down their mouths and their faces never got crusted with them and that seemed to help a lot.

Their appetites also were like mine however they did eat more that is for sure. With our youngest we tried to just increase his bottles of formula and did more of sweet fruit meals instead since we knew he would eat it. My oldest we did get some Pedialyte for him, Freezies which he didn’t care too much for and we pushed fluids a bit more. We also gave him different snacks and things to help make up for the meals he really wasn’t fond of finishing. This was great for them. Also lots of sleep. We let them sleep a bit more however we did still make sure they woke at a normal time in terms of day time naps. This was because even being sick, and how important sleep was, we did not want to make them have a totally changed schedule. This helped a lot also too.

As far as behavior goes, they both were as you would predict, more fussy. They were both very cuddly and thankfully my partner never really got Covid (Very faint line one day but the next was negative). He was able to also help with cuddles and things and when I needed to have a nap I was able to. I dont even want to imagine if we both had it how the house would have ran then! After a few days my oldest was back to running up and down the hall way and all around the house too.

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Sleeping I would say overall was alright too. I think because they had relatively mild symptoms they did well. As I mentioned in the covid post here my youngest had a harder time sleeping for the first night he had it, he was up unable to settle, and then my oldest was okay waking a few times but overall okay though. I know there are some stories where kids did not sleep for a lot longer however we got lucky.

Another minor thing was that we all have a cough. Mind you it is hard to tell in my boys because they both seem to cough and if you are watching them cough sometimes they tend to make themselves cough more or something as well too. Which is incredibly funny but also annoying a touch too. Even later by a few weeks do we still have a cough, I talk about that more in the long Covid post and surprise symptoms that people can get in the blog post here. Some of them were not fun at all and it was actually nutty how it still lingered so long!

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I will say though, I have heard stories where kids get sick, throw up, or have it far worse however our boys did really well for the circumstances. Kids are super resilient and are able to bounce back from things. Was Covid what I thought it would be in them? Sure. Though to be completely honest I never really sat here and though what if we got Covid. I wanted to sit here and think about everything we can do to prevent it however here we are when we still had gotten it. I just am thankful this stupid chapter is behind us and hopefully we wont be having this unexpected visitor in our home again. I am also super thankful that it ended in the house and we never needed to find any outside interventions in terms of needing actual medical attention. You always hope when your child or children come down with any sickness, that it can pass fast, and you do not need to bring them to a hospital.

Though, I am certainly not complaining about all of the extra cuddles that we did in fact get I don’t want them to be sick to get them again in order to get them!

Why we decided to Elope (Kind of)

If you are up to date on my socials you will know that I have recently been engaged. I couldn’t even tell you the date I was proposed to but it was the early August. We also knew before I was proposed to that we would be getting married. Why? Because we kind of planned on eloping! Here is why.

So after this year, having 2 children, both have my partners last name, which is not an abnormal thing to have happen. It is pretty common for children to have their fathers last name. I wanted to also have my children to have the same last name as me. I have been with my partner for going on 12 years, we have 2 kids, pets, as well as planning a 3rd. I wanted to be married. I felt like it was something that we should be doing by making it official.

Now you might be wondering why the eloping? and how is it kind of? Well, I say that it is when this blog debuts, we are actually getting married today! We are getting married at a wedding chapel a little bit away here in Nova Scotia. (I will write a better blog post about the details later once we get things back!). The reason why we are doing this was for numerous reasons.

One of those reasons is that it was relatively cheap. My brother and sister had a bigger deal when they got married. The whole deal, people invited, foods, stuff like that. We don’t have anything like that. In fact the time we get married is at 230pm. We have a half an hour in the chapel. We also have a maximum of 10 guests as well. Not sure if it includes ourselves or not but we figured it did. We have a couple who will be our witnesses. They are people who I have known since I was in college. They lived next door to my Ex which obviously they liked me a lot better and have been true friends. They have 2 daughters who will be there. There is also myself, and my partner and our two sons. And finally my best friend who I have known since I was in grade 6 and moved to a new school. That is literally it.



One thing I get asked a lot, why isn’t your family there? It isn’t about them. This is about me. I have always been the stranger one in the family bending rules and what not and well, this is no exception. That being said, truth be told, my parents also eloped. They didn’t tell anyone though. They literally got married and my Dad’s eldest brother and wife were their witnesses. At the end of the day they really can’t say anything about it. Do I think they are upset? Maybe. But I’m not thinking about them I am thinking about myself. We want to do this not because of money, gifts, people, sharing whatever. We want to do this for ourselves.

Another reason also is because weddings are expensive. When you invite tons of people or you have different ideas and what not. I do not want to make this some pricey event. Not to mention, my dog had some surprise vet bills so obviously we are not wanting to spend a fortune to unite us legally. Covid has also put a lot of people back. Some people may not have had work, some may be in the hole, food and oil and gas here is so much more expensive than it was last year. We do not want to have a big deal wedding and people feel like they have to spend any money on us or even getting to the venue, etc.

That is not to say though that in the future we will not be wanting some sort of ceremony though. Maybe in the following years or whatever on a particular anniversary we will have a reception officially or some mock wedding where we can share it with family and friends. Right now though we do not want to put that financial burden on people. We don’t even want it on ourselves as we are focusing on the house and trying to do renovations and what not also.

Our focus is just on making this a special day. We both have our rings, our small group to share the moment with, our son’s who will also be able to share the moment with too. There is even the package that we got that has 10 edited photos on an online album. Yes I will share some of those in a blog post afterwards too.

I guess we just wanted to be different. We wanted this to be something that was done and was more or less for ourselves. So often we try to please everyone, not just us but people in general. We do things that we think others will be want us to do. I am so excited that we will finally be joined but I would be lying to say it isn’t a little nerve wracking though. It really is a pretty simple wedding. I spend 100$ on my dress from Shein, I got the boys both matching outfits to wear also. The most expensive clothing piece was probably my spouses suit that he is renting from a store here. I’m making the bouquet with flowers from outside however I am still wondering what I will do if there is none really in bloom or maybe I will even think about getting some fake ones or something from a local craft store. At the end of the day, This is about our love, our family, and just making it official. If people get mad about it they obviously don’t understand our reasoning!

Life is too short to try to please everyone but yourself! And that is a true fact and something I need to remind myself about!

De-clutter this Fall with Me!

De cluttering any part of your life is one of the hardest things to do. If you are someone like me it can be especially as challenging. Why is this you may be asking? I have a problem with things that I encounter or should we say acquire and I build some sort of memory with them. When this happens (Which it never doesn’t happen) I always try to hang on to the item far longer than I should not to mention on top of it too, I also find even when things are broken I still hang on to it! Like what is wrong with me ?!

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Starting small when de-cluttering is a big first step. For me I try to pick a few things Id like to de-clutter. Do you have random baskets around your house or boxes too? I do, I am really bad for having so many little spaces to put more things at around my house. You know those bowls or baskets that are kind of a “catch all”. Maybe you have one on the kitchen counter, maybe you have another one by the front door or back door where you put your keys. Maybe another is in the bathroom. This is me. I have so many of these that when I start to de-clutter this is where I typically start. I will pick a few baskets and literally weed through them for things that I may not want or need. If you have that lip balm in there chances are you haven’t picked it up in a very long time, if so, throw it away! Even old receipts and things you for sure do not need, get rid of it!

Another area that I need to majorly go through it my clothes! I hate going through clothes for many reasons. One of those reasons is that I am always paranoid that I will suddenly drop all this weight and I will finally be able to wear them again. I need to lose that mindset. Even if I lose that weight there is no guarantee that I will fit into those clothes again. Mostly for the fact that I carried 2 (And hopefully another to make 3) babies within my body. It can be super challenging to even accept that my body may never be the body I had before but keeping clothes that no longer fit or maybe are not my style is also not a good plan either. That is something I want to really do is go through clothes and weed out things!

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Papers is another area for me. I like to hang on to things so much for memories and all that garbage. Truth is, I just throw things in a filing cabinet and I know that I dont need them. They say when it comes to bills or papers or anything like that to keep them for 7 years. If you have past 7 years the chances of needing something is so low that you really should not hang on to it. One thing that I would like to do this fall is really go through my filing cabinet. Since having 2 boys we really have not went through it and I know there are some things in there we don’t need. You know how I know this? I had a Shoppers Optimum card, Yes the purple one that has been discontinued for years sitting in my wallet. I JUST got rid of it this week. So you know there are for sure papers in there that I do not need. Even cards. I literally keep every single card. I need to go through some and keep some and throw away others.

One thing for me when it comes to de-cluttering is that I have a low attention span. When I try to weed things out I find myself getting lost in the memories. I find myself wanting to explore instead of thinking logically. I need to remind myself that if I never touched it or used it in years and I wont in the future it needs to be throw away, or donated, or something so that it frees up space in the house. I even laughed with my partner saying I will be glad when we have our 3rd and final baby because that way I can start selling some of their bigger toys to make more space. You know jumpers and things of that nature also too!

The thing I need to remind myself before starting to de-clutter though is how good it feels afterwards. I know for myself when I try to get rid of things and I can finally stand back and look at how neat a place in the home looks it is such a satisfying feeling for me to see the work that has been done. When you have a closet that may be stuffed with things so your room looks nicer, this is until you open your doors and everything is barely holding in there by being so crammed. This is my closet. I really need to not only go through clothes but also go through the boxes and things that are also in there too!

In typical style, I will be posting before and afters on Tiktok as I clean however I will take a few photos of things that I have done for a future blog post and we can see the difference. And no, I promise I wont be just trying to re-position things so it looks like I got rid of things, I actually will. Not only for myself but for the sake of my home being messy sometimes because I just have far tooo much crap!!

What is Covid like for an Adult?

I am sure you are probably tired of hearing about Covid. We have been living with it for the past nearly three years. From all the weird symptoms and per-cautions, this is one virus that can really kick the butt out of someone. The symptoms can be long lasting and they can can even be nothing at all. That being said, Covid finally hit my own house this summer and might I add it absolutely SUCKED. I wouldn’t want it to happen again and I certainly would not want it to show up again for whatever reason.

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Now you may be wondering, how did we even get it? As you can assume my stance on things, based on previous posts, I am pro-vaccine and I also wear my mask in public even if there is no mandate (for anything) in the province where I live now. My spouse also wears his mask in public also. We have two small boys who just recently were able to get vaccinated against Covid and we did everything we could to protect them. We got it from my parents. We let our guard down and we went against our better judgement and we let it happen. Long story short is that my Dad was outside painting the house, he said he was stuffed up but it was pollen from well, being outside. We believed it. It was actually Covid. It sucked and I hated every minute of it. I am also angry that after so long we protected our kids and we still got it because we didn’t trust our gut.

So here I am, a relatively healthy adult. I do have asthma which I talk about here. However in the big picture I am pretty healthy. I am rarely sick if only maybe once a year. It came on FAST. I took a test on Wednesday evening. this was about 530am. I just felt “off”. Like something was wrong. At this point I already knew that my Dad was positive, as well as my brother and nephew who went to my parents for dinner as well. Mind you this test showed negative however it was also a test that was left out in the car and went below freezing. Did that make a difference? I really cannot say whether or not it did. At this point once the boys went to bed my spouse had drove to the local library where he could pick up a few other sets of tests because we wanted them on hand. About two hours later I still was starting to feel even worse. I said screw it, I’m taking another test even though I just did. I had went outside to smoke a quick little joint, came back in and it was already positive. I knew it. I tried to sleep on the couch however at one point I was just far too hot and had to switch with my partner. By the morning I felt like utter crap. I had no appetite. I was stuffed up but my nose was not running.

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The worst is yet to come also. My youngest was starting to feel stuffed up. We gave him a Covid test too. Mind you he is 8 months old and we basically swabbed his boogers and before the liquid even finished through the test as soon as it passed the test line it was also positive. I then treated both of us for fever and giving us Tylenol to help keep it down. Thankfully the fever was only there for maybe 2 days. That being said the body aches still sucked we at one point we gave Tylenol before bed for a few days (I will write more about what they were like with Covid in a separate post which can be found here). My oldest however, he did not test positive for Covid until a few days later where he also had a fever and was hard to settle before bed too.

One of the hardest things I think to deal with when it came to Covid is the feeling that you have when you are positive. It made me feel dirty. Like I had done something wrong and that I was totally useless. It was hard to even make myself eat, in fact I didn’t even eat for the first day and a half. I drank Gaterade however it was hard for me to even think about food. My appetite was next o nothing and when I tried to eat some Pringles it was just too much for me. I had to stop. Another thing that was very difficult to do was to try not to push myself even further. That was extremely hard to do. Sometimes I would feel like wow, I am on the mend, and other times as the day progressed, I would feel like complete garbage by the evening time. To the point I would just crawl into bed and maybe watch a show and fall asleep watching it on my tablet.

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What drives me nuts the most though, And I will say it again here for anyone who does not know my stance. COVID IS NOT A BAD COLD. It is literally anything but. Maybe for some that is how it presents itself, but in the big picture it really is not. I can understand how this may be something that gets people feeling like crap and even wind up in the hospital. Heck, as I write this I also have a weird cough nearly a month later that just won’t go away. Long Covid is real. What I cannot stand seeing is when people also say “WE need to live with it” as their way of ignoring it and moving on. We are ABLE TO LIVE WITH IT. We have been for nearly 3 years. That being said, we can live with it safely. You know to make it disappear like many other virus and diseases too. One simple precaution that can be made that can literally protect ourselves and everyone around is masks. Even if people don’t want to admit. They have and will continue to save lives. Not to mention there are many other countries that also wear masks for pollution and other various reasons.

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Diaper Bag Essentials

When having a baby a solid staple that you want to have is a diaper bag. You want it to fit everything you could potentially need when it comes to your little one. I know. Crazy during a pandemic considering we never really go far from the house but still a must have accessory. For us, being in a province that has had a curfew for 5 months and no private gatherings for another 7 months, we use our diaper bag in our living room to hold all the essentials also because it saves time from having to run up and down the stairs whenever there was an accident. With vaccinations ramping up we are hopeful that we will be using this bag for what it’s original purpose is, that would be going out!¬† Here is what we must have in it!

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First, it is a Diaper Bag after all! Diapers are wipes are a huge essential. Especially if you are like us and you buy the bulk box of wipes. Instead of replacing the plastic containers with wipes we throw a whole bag in there. Since we use it more than our change table now that our son is growing it saves by just putting it in the bag as well as diapers are important too. For obvious reasons!

Baby Clothes, one at the very least. Whether you change your baby in their room or you have a basket or bag in the comment area. Nothing is more of a bummer or mini panic attack then you go to change your child, and you see that brownish smear up their leg or worse. This will save time for you because whenever you had had a major blow out accident you know there is no putting clothes on in order to contain the mess til you have the proper things to clear up! Having a space set of clothes or two is also great when you are out and about. As it goes, the one time you think you wont need it, chances are you will need it. Having a few sets of clothes is huge for making outings enjoyable for not just your baby but you also!

Next, I have not used however they still have a place in my son and future babies diaper bag. This is shampoo and body wash. When we did our registry we did so at Babies ‘R’ Us. They give you this mini complementary bag with some items such as this. We snuck them in the diaper bag and they have been there since. You could always use travel sizes of these and add them in also. This goes back to the previous point. You never know when you might have a big mess that wipes just will not cut. As well as a face clothe is also useful in case you do need to get a little soapy.

Next you have the little essentials. These would be the soothers, baby toys, or any miscellaneous items. We always made sure that we had an extra soothers because you never know when baby might spit it out, throw it, lose it, or it gets dropped. There is plenty of reasons why you should have a spare soother and whatever your might be it is better safe than sorry! Spare toys also is great if you are heading to an appointment that may have you waiting longer than you wanted to, or even a longer than normal car ride. You do not need to bring every single toy in the house but having a few toys in the diaper bag may just come in handy when you least expect it. A rattle or shaker toy works wonders, or something low jey and soft. If your baby is teething bringing an extra teether toy or two can also have huge benefits to helping baby have a fussy free outing.

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Also something you can keep in if your child is old enough is food or snacks. This could be as simple as one or two of the fruit pouches that you can simple squeeze on a spoon or directly into their mouth. Or a few cups of apple sauce either! Just make sire you remember or check the beat before date. You dont want to be stuck with a crying baby who is hungry with no food to give!

And lastly, this might come as a surprise to some, buy a FUNCTIONAL diaper bag. You do not need the best looking, most zippers, whatever else fashion trend you think you need. Picture yourself in a park, a mall, where ever and carrying this around. Is it going to be functional? Comfortable? Annoying? I have an over the shoulder bag, its grey, and fairly good with space. I figure that I can use it for multiple babies as we have them also. I think I spent maybe 45 dollars. But they did have bags that are nearly 100+ dollars. Which to be is incredibly insane.

The biggest reminder I can give though, whether or not you go out a lot or not, frequently check the bag and replace the clothes or items in it. Babies grow so fast that you do not want to be out and about when an accident happens whether it be a diaper exploding or even a huge mess while eating or drinking, to find out the clothes you have in the bag will not even fit over their head! Even once a month would be better than never! And if that doesn’t work try putting an outfit the next size up just in case!

What you decide to put in your child’s diaper bag is up to you. Remember this is not something you need to pack full with items. Keep it simple, light, practical and you will notice that your outings will be much more pleasant!

Frowned Upon Parenting: Part 4

The following post has been made thanks to the app Peanut (Not sponsored) where you can ask and interact with communities and groups of fellow Mom’s. One day I had asked one of the groups that I was in something that they would be doing that they know as a fact other mom’s or parents would be frowning upon. These were some of the things they said. For me, I will be also giving my opinion on each of the situations and hopefully you get a chuckle out of them. Some of them I know that I do or will do in my parenting journey, others I completely disagree with.

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Frown Upon Parenting 1
Frown Upon Parenting 2
Frown Upon Parenting 3

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One parent said they would be frowned upon for having a 2 hour screen time daily rule. Now I see absolutely wrong with this personally. I would honestly see more of an issue with 0 screen time. As much as I think limiting the use of technology with children is important, I also think it is important to remember that we live in a world that is very different than when we grew up. We live in a world there there is so many things that can be done virtually that we need to bring up children differently that we were raised. Does that mean kids should be sat in front of a television and their favorite shows turned on for the entire day? No. I think limiting screen time is highly important. I also believe that having some screen time is important as well and would do far more good than absolutely no screen time at all.

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One thing that a parent had said that I have absolutely no idea what they were thinking was that they do not vaccinate their children. I could not disagree with this any less even if you paid me to agree with this. There is a reason why there are some childhood illnesses that have basically been eradicated. Vaccinations are a huge part of this. If you are not vaccinating your children based on your own beliefs than I am a firm believer that this should be considered child abuse as you are not providing them medical treatment to prevent further illness. I am also of the belief that if you choose not to vaccinate your children for whatever reason, if they were to get the illness that is preventable by vaccinations than you should be charged with child endangerment for not providing the proper care to prevent them from getting sick. Now I will state if a child has an allergy or a legitimate medical reason to NOT get vaccinations than so be it. Obviously I am not saying to get that done if they are unable to.

This one kind of blew my mind, someone had stated that they actually spoil their children by serving them in their room. The only situation I can remotely see this as being OK would be if maybe they are sick and they need something and you wanted to bring it to them. I will never in my life be found serving my children in their rooms. If they want something, as my mo always said “They have 2 feet and a heartbeat” they can get up and do it themselves. I can only assume these are older kids due to the fact that my son currently enjoys opening and closing his door and has no desire to actually hang out in there so to speak.

Stay up late is kind of one of those things I think it depends on the age of the child. I wouldn’t let my 2 year old stay up til 9 or 10pm because I know he would be hateful and angry and sassy and by that point way too over tired. However I think that yes there are times when they are up a bit later than normal. It happens for sure but regularly no. There is bed times for a reason and just like adults I am sure that we don’t just stay up for the sake of staying up either.

Swearing around them is a tricky subject. As a mom of a late bloomer when it comes to words my now 2 year old at the time of writing has been repeating EVERYTHING to the point where it surprises me what he does repeat. is that to say I don’t swear at all around him? No. There are times that I do swear around him. Sometimes things slip and it happens. I do however make a conscious decision to try NOT to swear in front of him because I know some time down the road he will probably repeat the word and it may not be in a favorable place either!

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Judgemental moms against you is something that I can relate to as well as being a guilty part on that. Though I do believe there should be things that MUST be judged. If you are giving your baby random breast milk from strangers you bet your bottom dollar I will be judging that aspect of your parenting. The fact is that there is so many things parents can judge others on that if we really focused on that we would never get anything done and we would be feeling like a big ol pile of poop. Just like anything in life it is important for us to just focus on ourselves and not focus on what others see.

As you can see there really is a lot of things that parents frown upon others which is why I asked the question and figured that I would be make a mini series of what things parents know to be maybe not the normal lifestyle choices for raising kids! And why not put my own opinions within this too, because you never know how people may feel about these specific circumstances! Was there anything in the list above that you do or know you will have others frown upon your parenting style? Let me know in the comments below, maybe your point will be featured in the next set of Frowned Upon Parenting blogs!

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Soooo Ready for September – Update

To say this summer was a flop is a MAJOR understatement. And by major I mean it was a total flop. It didn’t help that it started with Covid and ended with having to put our family dog down. Needless to say though I am ready for a new season and new adventures.

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Our summer started off horrible with covid hitting out home. After dodging it for over 2 years including spending the beginning in Quebec where cases were super rampant, we got it. It literally kicked my butt. My two boys also had it and they were just having a really bad cold. I talk about this more in details in upcoming blogs, Be sure to look for those as it really isnt as big of a walk in a park as everyone makes it sound like. It completely sucked.

Another hard thing that happened this summer was that we had to put our Sheldon down, our family duck tolling retriever. I’m not sure if I was writing about it in previous updates however if you are a follower on any social media you would know that there is a bit of health issues that started the beginning of this year. We had tests done and what not but even medications at one point were not helping. As sucky as it was we made a promise to ourselves that we would never keep any animal alive just to have them alive. He just was not getting better and the medications he was on should have been causing some weight gain when he was steadily losing it. We made the tough decision that obviously something was wrong and to spend thousands to have the same outcome, he was not an young dog by any means either. It was by far one of the hardest things that we have ever had to go through but we feel like it was the right decision considering near the end the vet had said that she thought it was cancer and there basically is no coming back from that at his age and the surgery’s that would be needed and whatever interventions as well too. We will get another dog but it wont be any time soon though that is for sure.

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Streaming has been rocky, I had suck high hopes for the summer to be able to stream some more than usual but here we are and I’m giving up on the 5 days a week streaming. We are back to focusing on the 3 days a week and getting back to consistency. When I want to do more I can totally do bonus streams but for the time being right now it is just going to be 3 days. I swear every single time I want to stream more though something ALWAYS pops up and I am unable to do it for some silly reason and this summer was no exception to that also.

I started another weight loss challenge in mid August, well the 8th of it. I feel a lot better about this than previous ones. I really need to control the munching late at night though so starting next week well, when I have the check in I will be keeping better track of calorie counting though because the over eating is not helping anyone. I have also recently have started back at the elliptical which is a huge win for me and I am really happy about that too! I kind of was sitting at the computer one day and was like wow I am going to find the cord to plug it in, and there you have it! It worked great and I was so happy to finally be able to get back to it. Why have one if you don’t use it!

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I HAVE 2 BOOKS PUBLISHED! I did not think they would be done as fast as they are but I have two books out. The Darkness which is explained here, and The Light is explained here. Both are poetry collections with 100 poems, and I still have a third that is also coming out in the near future. I am so happy and excited to share them and feedback I have been getting has been tremendous. I am so happy though to be able to have this chapter opening. I have a few blogs talking about my methods and what not on how I could get not one, not two but three books published this year!

And lastly, in a little over a week I will officially be married, after being with the same person for nearly 12 years it was about time after 2 kids, and hopefully a third that we actually settle down and make it paperwork official. I will have a blog coming up about that also too. It is pretty low key and super low maintenance. It is kind of more of an elopement but kind of not? There is literally 9 people including myself and spouse and our two kids. To the point that we have to actually buy a package! It includes 10 digital photos on an online album so like that is pretty cool too! I am pretty excited but also not super excited because we didn’t want it to be a big deal either. Eventually maybe on an anniversary we will do something bigger like a mock wedding and reception but right now our focus is on the kids and home renovations to set us up for the winter and hopefully saving money.

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Overall though, The summer was nothing like I expected it to be, but then again what in life is. Nothing. I just am still bummed about our dog being sick. I had this feeling back in April but hearing and having to actually go through it. No one ever talks about having to put down a pet because they literally are members of the family and do everything together. People also forget I find that Sheldon was around long before we had kids and he was a huge part of me feeling safe when I was home alone. I hope the fall has some more pleasant surprises but time will tell wont it!

What People Wish They Knew About Pregnancy – Part 3

Before I begin, I want to say this is something that I had asked the people on the app “Peanut”. This is an app where mothers sign up and can meet other moms around their towns and essentially become friends and hang out (Not a sponsor). However for me I felt it was far too overwhelming and in typical fashion I stopped using the app. I did however ask a question to the community, that question was “What is something you wish people told you about pregnancy or birth”. These are some responses and once the other parts become active I will be posting them below with links. And you are more than welcome to check them out yourself too!

What do you wish people told you about pregnancy and birth Part 1
What do you wish people told you about pregnancy and birth Part 2

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Fundal Massage for uterus was something that I had NO IDEA about when I had given birth the first time. I will say having a c-section for my second I did not notice if there was any massage which I assume there was not due to the fact I had just been cut open there. However with my first vaginal birth HOLY MOLY it was tough. The nurses literally will put their palm or even their fingers and wiggle it around your abdomen to see if your uterus is shrinking back and it does not tickle. They check this periodically and it is absolutely not comfortable at all. Yes it is important and needs to be done but just know that it does not feel great though at all. I know when it comes to having our third and final child, as much as I am hoping to have a vaginal birth similar to our second I am HOPING that this massage happens quickly and it becomes short lived!

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Forceps or vacuum was something I knew very little about and thankfully with the 2 children I have (And hopefully the 3rd when the time comes) we dont need to know anything about these! This is where you have to have these tongs to help pull your baby out. And the vacuum is just that, it will suction to the top of your babies head to help them come out of you. I was only told about these in my 1st pregnancy when the doctor was half threatening me with gaining too much weight and how this may be something that is needed if I kept gaining. Luckily I never needed them as my son came so fast however I have heard of these being essential in giving birth for whatever reason. In the moment I can imagine they are horrifying and worrisome.

Lack of sleep from labor to months later is something that you may think is assumed however it isn’t. I will say that with my first two son’s they have been nearly incredible sleepers compared to stories I have heard from friends. As obvious as it may be no one really talks about the lack of sleep you get after a baby is born. For my second pregnancy I found it was a lot harder to sleep the bigger I had gotten however I don’t remember that with my first. Afterwards you are also looking at about 2 months of lack of sleep where the first month you are basically a zombie in the process. I know it sounds crazy but it is true. Babies do drink every 3 hours so they need to really be up that much. After about 2 months both of my son’s slept alright averaging maybe 6-9 hours a night. What makes this challenging is that when you have multiple children. With my first I was able to sleep when he slept and catch up on sleep. However with my second that was not entirely possible due to the fact that he was on one nap per day and the newborn didn’t exactly sleep when you wanted them to!



Mom Guilt is something that I dont think anyone ever can prepare you for. This also can be parenting guilt too. One of the first things I know I felt guilty about with mom guilt was not wanting to breast feed. It is hammered down our throats as a mom that if you don’t you are depriving your child of certain things that they never talk about all the reasons why breast feeding may not be right for your family. For me, mentally I just was unable to breastfeed. I did not enjoy it, I felt wrong doing it, and when my son had jaundice and feeding was super important to make it go away it scared me and made me paranoid that he was not drinking enough. That is not to say that it doesn’t work for other people but for me I loved the fact that my spouse was able to feed our children and I was able to sleep a bit, or that I wasn’t hooked up to some sort of pump the entire time or waking every 2 hours trying to make things happen. The guilt I felt this for my first child was tough. It was extremely hard to even get past. I have a friend who breastfeeds her kids and she said flat out fed is best. There is such a stigma about parents who choose to formula feed that it needs to be stopped. It would probably help with things like postpartum depression as well if we never had so many pressures on us parents before the baby has even been born!

As you can see there is multiple things that may seem pretty obvious to others however this is not the case. This is something that maybe by writing these out a new parent may know before the situation arises! And if you are pumped to read this I can’t wait for you to read the other ones when they come out too!

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9 New Baby Essentials

Having a new baby can get overwhelming at times to say the least. You have everyone and their dog trying to recommend the latest or best things to help you out. Being a new mom and one that started to have children at 30 most of my friends already had children. So they did the easy work! Some of these things are my must haves and some of the folks on  my Facebook also recommended also too.

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Baby Frida Nose Sucker is honestly near the top of my list of things you must buy for your new baby. And before you say this is gross know, yes, it is gross but it really is not as gross as you may think. When my son was born we started him on similar because it was a popular formula brand. It made my son constipated some looked to switch. When we did it helped tremendously however before he would staring to poop and have milk come up through his nose. I know it sounds gross and it was. But this saved us by being able to suck the boogies and milk sting from his nose. Not to mention when they are sick it helps a lot too. Just know that when your child ages it will be challenging to use and you may need two people but this was a huge life saver.

Recieving Blankets may be overrated but we loved ours. My mom had made a few and we were given a few from our neighbor. We used these to swaddle him when he was very tiny and they are great for keeping over your shoulder in case there is spit up and for burping too they have a lot of coverage. Not to mention you will want a few spares because you can easily go through a few a day just from burping alone. Let alone if they have an over spill of pee or poop and leak through their clothes to their swaddle too.

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Baby Monitor is for sure a must have. It is 2021 and this is especially great if you live on a multi level home. It is huge in helping to shed some relief as your little one sleeps. We loved ours because the bedrooms were upstairs. Mind you we did use a bassinets with my son and we will be using it with our next baby but when they start sleeping in their own crib this is for sure a security thing. The only downside I would say is that after a few months the battery life and charge is nearly non existent. On average it lasts about 2 hours and will start to beep at us to plug it in. Which is great but that beeping lasts nearly an hour. Yes we timed it one night and was curious. And you are unable to turn off the beeping also. Which is a bummer too because unless you plug it in the beeping will continue.

Haakaa for breast feeding moms was recommended to me by someone on Facebook as a life saver since it caught breast milk from being wasted when your baby is going to be drinking from the other side. This is something that is manual and uses suction around your nipple to catch any left overs. With my son I stopped pretty early and with this baby we are going to try breast feeding a bit further as well as trying to pump so we have a stock pile also. I am really nervous about this however this is something I will be buying to use and test out as well.

Yellow Plastic Toothbrush is something that a friend of mine enjoyed but I found my son was not super fond of it, this is a finger tooth brush and it had brushes on opposite sites that were rubber. Maybe it was more challenging for us because my son had teeth later however it was still worth it for the price to really give it a go at brushing his teeth. And where it is rubber it is super easy to clean and you can really feel where it goes in his teeth and that it actually is brushing. Another friend also recommended this too.

Car Seat Cover for winter newborns was something that a friend recommended. When my son was born in March it was not super chilly out and we had enough blankets that we could out them around him so that he was nice and cozy warm. A friend of mine had her son towards the end of December and said that this was a life saver for them when traveling because it blocked so much of the chill from the Canadian Winters. We are due with our new baby at the end of November and for sure will be getting one to help with traveling.

Sleep Sacks have been a life saver, especially when swaddling has stopped due to them moving too much. We have had so many sleep sack throughout the birth to growth of our son that we will continue to use them with all our kids. We tried a few diff kinds. One of them which I won’t link had the zipper break. The only thing I would suggest is buy a few sizes at once as they can be deceiving and you want to see how they fit your little one. Another would be to have a second one. That way if they have a wet diaper that has over flowed you have a spare to change them into, especially in the middle of the night!

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Face Clotheshave been over rated and we have used them every single day. Especially having a boy when they are very very little it helps to cover their little downstairs quickly so they do not pee everywhere and end up peeing on the face cloth. They aren’t just for baths either we use them for wiping his face after meals. Cleaning before bed. Baths. If you had to dry a bum after using a wet wipe to apply diaper rash cream. There really is many types of uses and you cannot go wrong with them!

As you  can tell there is a lot of things I would recommend for new parents. And aside from the few I was suggested I have used everyone and plan on using one as well.

Is there anything you would recommend for a new parent?

What is your top tool or item you were so happy to receive or give to a new parent? 

Let me know in the comments below!

The Darkness, Poetry Collection, Explained!

If you have been living under a rock, you may not be aware but I have been writing, editing and releasing a collection of poetry. In fact I am releasing three this year! This is explaining the first (And essentially “darkest” one) and what you may need to be aware of.

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Before I begin to jump into some subjects of this book here is your trigger warning. The subjects that are in this book and what I am about to talk about are hard for most to deal with. A lot of us have dealt with them and lived them and a lot of us just find they are hard to form opinions because there is a stigma around them. There is various reasons for me to have written this particular collection however the subjects here are tough for most to read or accept too.

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One of the reasons why I wrote this collection was for myself. That is because apparently I had a lot of feelings that I needed to express. One of the subjects that has a dominant theme in the categories would be that I write about domestic violence. If you aren’t familiar with it, I was in an abusive relationship from the time that I was 18 to just after I turned 20 years old. It sucked. It was hard. I never really talked about it. And this was a way for me to release and spread how I felt. I know that people too who maybe felt like I could were unable to understand why this happened to them, They may have felt like they deserved it like I did, or they make have been in similar situations too. I feel like by writing a lot of these things I have let myself understand that these things did happen and they were real.

Another subject that I talk about is drug abuse. A lot of us know what it may be like to have family members who have been addicted to various means or maybe themselves. When I was in high school towards my final years I loved to take ecstasy. Was it a problem? Sure. Did no one know about it? Not really. I just hid things from people and made it seem fine. Doing it at parties or with friends or even working at Burger King with a few people working or the manager too. This is something that I talk about too in this particular blog in detail.

These poems also touch on subjects from a self harm, bullying, death and losing family members, illnesses like cancer and depression. I am not going to sit here and say I have a diagnosed mental health issue. I never sought help and I dont feel like I needed to. Maybe one day but for the time being I just never did. I feel like when I write it was something similar to throwing something away. I felt like I was able to write how I felt and that I was giving a weight that has been weighing me down.

I wanted to write this selfishly for myself however I have a feeling that maybe, just maybe, others will also feel like they too feel that they too will be to understand though that there is more people out there who also feel the way that they were feeling. So often when we are in situations we all bottle things up, and we blame ourselves. We feel like we are alone. Due to the stigma of these subjects people either wont take us seriously etc. Not this time. I am writing this as a way of exposing and hopefully breaking barriers that these situations are more known than we may want to lead on to be.

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I know that some people are not going to be interested in this. That is totally okay too! I know that this book is not for everyone either. I have put a lot of disclaimers in and trigger warnings including some sub-subjects in the table of contents. That way you can choose if you want to read particular chapters or skip through them. Kind of think about the popular Chicken Soup for the Soul books and how they ranged in many subjects and what not. Now a days people like to have the trigger warnings so that they can prep themselves or skip readings. That is what I am doing here. I want people to be fully aware that what they are reading may effect them mentally and be challenging for them to continue.

I also want to be blunt and harsh when I wrote them too. I didn’t want to write about situations where they seemed to sugar coats them. Domestic abuse, death, feeling lonely are all situations where they should not be sugar coated. They are supposed to be hard to deal with. I didn’t want to make a domestic violence filled relationship seem to be “That bad” because it was. It was bad. It was something that took me a very long time to get over and a very long time to come to terms with it.

I hope that when this book goes out into the online world that many too can find some sort of peace in reading it. You are not alone. Your feelings are valid and that you are fully able to feel whatever way you are feeling. I also want to show that through The Darkness comes light. There is a way to get past anything life throws at you and if writing poems like myself are a way to cope so be it, if you need to seek professional opinions and treatment, that is also alright too! There are many ways with dealing with life’s darkest and hardest subjects. This is my way of dealing with them.

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