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Adjusting from 1 toddler to a newborn and a toddler!

As you may have guessed. Yes. Having a second child can really be a challenge. Depending on how young your first one is, and how independent they are it can be even harder. I have officially been able to say that I have been part of the “2 under 2” club. Has it been challenging? Of course it has been.

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It can be especially challenging to adjust because when you have a small baby, they really are the ones running the show. They do not have any schedule and are basically the boss. For us, we got incredibly lucky that my spouse was able to have used his vacation days as well as with it being the holidays having time off in general that he could use also. This was even more lucky due to the fact that I had an unplanned C Section which I talk about in the birth story for my youngest here.

I primarily took over taking care of the baby the majority of the time due to the fact that I had a C-Section. You can talk about all the challenges that I faced with that here, Not only that, but we were extremely lucky that our son was born at a time my spouse had plenty of time off with the holidays and vacations to help me with my oldest. The real challenges began when my partner had gone to work again. I think by this time you are already used to getting little to no sleep but at least you are in a rythnm.

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In reality, my schedule did not change THAT much. My first son had a pretty normal routine schedule. In terms of waking, breakfast, lunch, nap, supper, bed. However since he has been in his “Big boy” bed he has been up far earlier. Especially on day’s where his dad goes to work because he hears him getting ready. Some days he does go back to sleep longer however other days he does not. So the baby basically is following that schedule. Or he maybe up slightly earlier and we just wait for my oldest to wake up in the living room or stay in bed cuddling.

One of the hardest aspects I would say when it comes to juggling the two different yet so close ages is bottles! My oldest has been so far our of bottles your really forget what they are about. I find for myself though if I am home alone with the 2 of them that I need to split the bottles of my youngest to fit the oldest lunch in the middle. If my youngest is getting fussy and it isn’t quite time for Lunch what I will do is split the bottle. If it is 10:45am (We normally are eating lunch by 11:10am) and he is fussing I will give him half of a bottle and then baby wear as I make lunch. Unless he is sleepy then I will instead put him in his bassinet for his mini cat nap of 20-30 minutes so I have enough time to prepare the lunch for myself and my son, and it is ready to go. It sounds more complicated but if you really dedicate time to watching the clock for a little bit and managing your time it is completely possible to have it effective like this.

That being said, yes there are some days where I can completely have it fit perfectly. Maybe I feed him really before lunch time and it clicks so after lunch is made I just have to feed Vincent (oldest!) and put him to bed and as soon as he goes for his 2 hour nap his brother Felix wakes up, or has been kicking and looking and exploring while we ate. Other times I also will wear Felix and he falls asleep in the carrier, so I put him in his bassinet to sleep and he does so until lunch is over normally too. It honestly can be a really hard thing to judge but sticking to the same schedule is super helpful for us.

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Another thing that I personally feel is going extremely well is also the jealousy. I for some reason (Maybe it is a parent thing) thought that my oldest would be incredibly jealous of my youngest. That however is the case to some extent, there is for sure jealousy in the adjusting to having another baby around but it isn’t nearly as bad as I thought it would be. I think too as Felix is growing you can tell Vincent is maybe understanding more that he will have a new friend. I try to make a point that if Felix is asleep to not have him contact nap because I want to really spend that time with Vincent. We cuddle on the couch, we play with toys, we laugh and sing songs and guess objects, but that time is for him. When Felix is awake I encourage him to help. He is very curious about diaper changes as well as holding the bottle when I feed him. He also loves to give kisses and hugs all the time as well too. Sometimes they even are slobbery or sticky from something he had ate before.

None the less, I think the adjusting has been going far beyond my expectations. Now are there moments when I want to rip my hair out and both of them are crying and upset and just plain mad for no reason, Absolutely. And I try to manage my time between them as best as I can to console each of them so they know they are loved and important and neither is more so than the other. If that means letting Felix cry for a few moments while changing a poopy bum of Vincent so be it. It has been a great experience and honestly, makes me excited for our next adventure when it comes to kids (Obviously not too soon, I would like some peace and quiet at times!)

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I have a baby on me so this blog update is late and scuffed – March 2022 Update

Im slacking. Majorly. Normally this update is done or at least partially. Not this update. This update is literally being typed up as one kid is beside me having a meltdown between putting mega blocks together and the other is kicking and laughing at the other.

For lack of a better term. This month was straight up sh*t. If you have been following any of my socials you would see a little bit of it. But here is the timeline if how the month went. And yes, therr are some good things also!

First we started with an ice storm. This sucked. We lost power on a Friday about 2pm or so and never got it back til Sunday at about 12pm noon. On top of this there was freezing temperatures which sucked also. We had been able to stay at my parents with our sons because they had power and only had lost it a little bit on the Friday. Thankful they live close to us and we were able to actually stay there with our dog and the boys. Even if it was tough living in another home.

Once we had power again we had no heat. So we assumed that we had a frozen pipe somewhere. This was Sunday. We had brought the boys over but ended up back to my parents when the house was far too cold as we never had heaters either. So back to their house. Monday we got heaters from a neighbour, friend, rented some etc. We had them going nearly all day so at least it was warm enough for us to sleep back in our own beds. Well. The upstairs had heat after all once we turned the furnace on. However downstairs there was indeed a frozen pipe. Where was it you may ask? Where the old home owners had built a wall and we had NO IDEA there was even a rad there. Thankfully it was near our back door and there was nothing of value there so we never had any extra damage.

Fast forward two weeks. Everything going smoothly. The frozen ice storm nightmare is behind us. Well, did we not get a BUTT LOAD of rain? We did. And it sucked. I had out laundry in at about 1230pm. Once the kids were napping. Guillaume came home at about 4ish because I had asked him to flip the laundry. Well, we had water in our freakin basement! It did not seem like we had that much rain to cause a flood. Thankfully we had water that pooled in areas however it was nothing serious. However a major inconvenience none the less.

And here we are in March. Thankful that all the house errors are in the past. It makes it extremely hard when you move to a new home and still are learning so much about it! Especially where certain rads are!

So on to good stuff! My son will be 2 years old tomorrow! Normally I would write a blog about it but this year we are just excited to be home! It really is special to be here so my dad and son can celebrate their birthdays together. This is huge and we couldn’t be more happier. We will have a great supper at my moms and it will be a fun time I am sure. It is his first birthday we can actually soend with family due to covid too. It really is insane to think 2 years has past since we had a baby!

Another great thing for me is I am creating 3 poetry collections to publish. I recently had published an eBook with email sign up as a sampler for the collections that will be released. My hope is to keep growing my email list so that it becomes a great place for different aspects of my writing or content creations. I am so excited for this to happen and I would like it to be really successful also. I think this could be my passion.

Another thing is working out and weight loss. I need to stop being a sad sack of garbage and making excuses and actually do something. I know that I can be the best I can be and lose weight. I make so many excuses and I need to stop. I want to lost 10lbs this month. I also have a max of 10 days to smoke weed too. And I also have 7 no workout days. Every other one I want to do more. I know I can lose weight as I have before. It is just a matter of actually doing it and making it happen. Which can be obviously challenging for me. But I really think March can be my month. I would like to lose some weight before my partner is on Parental leave and we do more walks and things too. I can do it.

As for streams, well with everything February is low key a bust so I really hope that I can bring back for March and April (I know getting ahead of myself!) Because while Guillaume is on parental I hope to pick up a few extra days a week of streams for the time he is off so about 3 months. Hopefully bring myself back to where I was before I had taken so much time off as well as the move and things too.

Overall I am glad that our hiccups were not bigger and we are in a financial position to be able to handle these things (not saying we want anymore!!) But it could have been worse if we we’re struggling in that way though. Things can always be worse and I try to look at that as we were frustrated!