Monthly Archives: February 2021

Why I Love My Soda Stream

Before I begin, No, This is not a paid sponsorship or advertisement for Soda Stream. However if they (The people at Soda Stream) were to see this YES. I would love to talk sponsorship or whatever you want. Mind you this is also strictly my opinion on it and why you should give it a try. If you don’t agree you are more than welcome to disagree! I welcome that! I just know for me I really enjoy the soda stream myself and figure why not share this with you all! And for anyone on the fence hopefully it is a transparent post where you can see some pro’s and con’s that I find for the product and decide for yourself!

My first experience with Soda Stream was actually at my old job. I used to take care of people who had intellectual and physical disabilities in their homes. One Christmas I was working and had to bring a gentleman to his family’s house for the Holidays. His brother actually had one and asked if I would like to try it. Before this I had only ever seen the commercials but had never seen it in person or even know anyone that had one. I mean, after all, if I wanted pop I would just buy it right? He had mentioned that before the Soda Stream they drank a lot of pop. And after they still drink a lot but they find themselves grabbing just the fizz from the water more then the flavorings themselves. In doing so, had also lost weight since the Soda Stream typically has 1/3 the calories as your name brand soda.

It wasn’t til a little while later my boyfriend and I were out when I convinced him we should have one for our house. I hyped it up for sure since he can be a lot wiser then I with money. We got it! And a sample pack with something like 12 flavors in a single use pouch you just squirt into the bottle after you make the water fizzy. It was a great way to really get to see which flavors you liked before committing to a larger jug of syrup. Not that they were super expensive or anything however it wouldn’t be super great if you committed to a larger sie syrup bottle if you didn’t like that flavor. It had many different samplers, such as orange and cola, a lemon and lime flavor and their diet counter parts as well. If you are looking for something you like this was the best bet. There was even a grapefruit flavor in sampler pack as well too! Which we both liked as well.

I will say this, If you are looking for a cheaper alternative for regular brand make pop like Coca-Cola you will not find it here because it will not replace that flavor. If you are seeking a Pepsi substitute you will not find that either. It is cheaper in the sense you buy the bottles of gas and you exchange it and get a refund where the refund will be technically make the new bottle approx $20.00 Canadian. And it does last for a while and you can basically pick and choose which you would like in terms of flavor whether that be a similar flavor to “Dr Pepper” where their brand is known as “Dr Pete”. Think about a store brand flavor like, Great Value, or President Choice, or Big 8, That will be the flavor of pop you get from these syrups. It does get the job done when you are craving it, But if you want the specific pop it will not achieve that. Or at least I have found sometimes I have gone out and gotten different name brand pop to satisfy that craving.

Another bonus that I really appreciate my soda stream for is the lower calories. For someone like me who has been fairly open about my struggles with weight loss this has been a great alternative. Not to mention the fact it has one third the calories is an added bonus. I will say as well about the flavor it does not taste all fake sugar aspartame either. I for one am not a fan of diet pops because I do not like the taste of fake sugar. I find that it leaves this weird film on your mouth and it sticks with me all day. Not to mention it also seems to more often than not give me heartburn which is never fun to deal with during the day and if I can prevent it I will! I don’t find Soda Stream flavors do this. Sure they obviously have less sugar if they are less calories, but they certainly don’t really sacrifice the flavor by doing so. The way I see it is this, If I am slacking and really would like to have pop, I will reach for the soda stream first. If I am doing well on counting calories and what not then I will reach for a regular pop to satisfy the cravings. I also have noticed if we have the syrup in the house I am reaching more so for the flavorings to make the fizzy water similar to the cheap bottles you would get at your local grocery store.

Overall, If possible, I would for sure recommend the soda stream to anyone looking to curb their drinking of soft drinks or even wanting to cut calories and still enjoying what they love. If possible though, I would suggest asking a friend if you know one who has a Soda Stream to be able to try it out. it does take a bit of effort though in terms of making the bottle yourself but overall it really is simple. For me if I am planning on making a bottle I will throw a few water filled bottles in the fridge to get chilled for later in the day. Sure, it may not be as simple as opening a can or twisting off a top from a bottle of Pepsi, But it certainly has a better feeling drinking it knowing that it isn’t loaded with sugar and unnecessary calories!

Do you have a Soda Stream

if so, Do you like it or regret your purchase

Answer in the comments below!

-StaySeeJ

What I have in my “Weight Loss and Mental Health” book

Before I begin, I will state this, I do know there are apps and things that you can do for this. I find that for myself personally I cannot use an app due tot he fact that I find it very “mind numbing”. Think about how many times you click to your phone, And you check the time but you only are finding yourself checking back less than 30 seconds later because you forget what time it is? That’s how I feel about when I use weight loss apps. I feel like by punching in my calories or anything it makes me not realize the power that my food has or if I have a bad day I can simply forget it. I do however use a fitbit so I use their app for sometimes monitoring my exercise since the convenience is really easy, I also tend to use it for sometimes tracking my weight. But overall I don’t typically use an app. Oh, but I have used it also if I am stuck on calories and want to find something for a new thing that I have eaten!

As you may have already guessed, By not using anything in terms of apps for tracking my calories, Yes, I do write everything in a note book. I write it down because I feel like at the end of the day it really sinks in as to what I have eaten. Sometimes Ill even write throughout the day what I have eaten and keep count of calories as the day goes on, sometimes I will keep track in my notepad in my phone and write in the calories after a few days, sometimes I will write the calories I eat on post- it and put that on the day so I can write it in my physical book. It really depends on what I am feeling but ultimately I end up writing it in the book. My biggest flaw in doing this is that when I have a few bad days, instead of reflecting and and writing down my thoughts or feelings in the day, I feel like the book is not trash. Maybe it is because I feel like when I mess up the days the book is useless and I feel like every day should be tracked perfectly. I have recently started a new book, or at least outlining the days, and I made a promise to myself I would keep it. There is over 200 pages in there and I should not be going through and re-doing book after book. And before you even ask, Yes, I do re-use the books after rotating through but I do throw them away after so many pages is gone and I feel like it is a waste. I often forget that I used to do this when I lost 30 pounds before. I just need to get back into the habit again!

As you may or may not be surprised to hear, I also don’t keep track of those macros or micros or whatever else have you. if you are familiar with my previous blog posts you will see that I do not eat nearly enough healthy foods to even bother tracking that right now. I strictly limit my calories and eat whatever I want. Mind you if I eat a chocolate bar at 9am and find myself starving at 9pm I will normally reflect on this moment and think maybe I shouldn’t have wasted those calories earlier in the day or I wouldn’t be starving now. I try to aim to eat between 1200-1500. However I do have a max of 1750 for things, Like if I eat a serving of some type of nuts for example, they are normally higher in calories but they are good for you. So instead of overeating it I typically just count that in.

I also keep track of exercise and I think that goes without saying. I typically try to do 40 minutes on my elliptical a day. I don’t see this as too much and I think it is totally reasonable. Once I get a bit of a plateau I would like to also add in some 30 minutes workout DVD’s which will be easier for me to do once my son is older as I can put him in the playpen and I am sure he will want to do this along with me. However I do not want to start that now as I feel like I could be overwhelmed and give up. I also have some small hand weights a well that I would eventually add in however that wont be anytime soon though.

I keep track now, for when I smoke weed too. I find by doing this I am more conscious about over eating especially if that is the reason why. Obviously once we become pregnant again I wont need to but til then it is helpful. I set a goal of how much I would like to smoke during the month and try to stick to that. I know I need to stop smoking so much really. But seeing it as an overview helps to see that maybe I need to cut back or take a few days off.

And lastly, but certainly not least. I have a spot for mental health and self care. Sometimes I forget and by sometimes I mean quite often I forget that I need to take some care for myself. I need to take a moment to do something for myself which I always put second in my life. It is a lot easier for me to schedule in this time because if I didn’t otherwise I wouldn’t do it. Which is why in my streams I schedule art ones. Its kind of killing 2 birds with one stone by streaming a bit more and having a creative outlet as well. Even something as simple as having a bath and watching a show or doing absolutely nothing. It helps me keep some sort of normalcy especially where I don’t work and barely leave the house due to Covid being around as well too.

If I am missing anything that I should include, Let me know!
I am always looking for ways to make my diary for exercise and healthy living better but sometimes we get stuck in a rut and are unable to see new things.

What do you keep track of if you are in the process of losing weight too

-StaySeeJ


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Differing Doctors Advice

Having a child is never an easy thing to do. You get the enormous amounts of advice from nearly every single person in your life. Even people who haven’t had a child before are telling you things. You have people who have had kids and your parents who you may have been their last child 20 some years ago when you were born. Enough things change in any realm of the world let alone the parenting one. And things certainly do change in terms of how you do things from decade to decade.

Growing up you would hear that parents used oral-gel on a teething child’s gums. Not anymore. Something as simple as that you are warned not to as it can numb their throat and they can essential choke on their own spit. Another thing that has changed is straight out just letting them cry it out. This seen as barbaric and horrible parenting now you have gentler methods where you go in after 5 minutes of crying, or go in after 10 minutes of crying. Oh, and did I forget to mention the whole sleeping on their back vs sleeping on their front. Every child basically was put on their belly even myself and my siblings. Now they urge you not to do that and place your baby on their back due to a choking risk and a higher percentage of children dying from SIDs. Also there are sleep sacks that you can use on your child instead of putting blankets in their crib since you know, another suffocation risk there too! Do you remember the bumper pads that were also in cribs? Nope, Not allowed either! All of these things were pretty normal when I was growing up and a baby to have around. However now they are so frowned upon.

In speaking about this, I will mostly be referencing myself and a friend of mine who has a child that is 2 months older then my own son. We both go to different doctors and the advice can be quite differing. To the point you really don’t know what to follow! This is a few circumstances where advice has been so different.

When it comes to sleeping our son used to be a great one! Then something happened and he wasnt sleeping so great. We had asked our doctor about whether or not we should change anything or what have you. She asked if he had a soother. We obviously said yes he did. She said to get rid of it. At the time our son was about 6 months 7 months old. She said the reason why he wakes is because he searches for his sookie and cannot find it. Crazy right? Now on the flip side I was mentioning what our doctor had said to a friend of mine. She said her doctor said the sookie can be a good thing, Here is why. When your child teeth they want to shove, and I mean shove their hands in their mouths. It is a lot easier to remove a sookie from the picture then their hand. If they get used to sticking their hands in their mouth and sucking their thumb it can be quite challenging to curb that habit as apposed to removing the sookie. Obviously we choose to follow that advice which is something that we never had thought about either!

Another thing is how you are supposed to drop bottles. Apparently as babies age you are supposed to drop bottles. This is part due to the fact that you are moving up their real food intake and introducing meals and things. The problem with this is that you are not giving as much milk as you once did. Our family doctor said that we should be doing the same amount of ounces for our son and that food is only for play before the age of one. A friend of mine who has just recently had her 4th child also said her doctor said the same thing. However a friend of mine is just ending their bottles for their one year old son as well too. They have been moving down certain months and things.

Another thing as well would be how quickly to start solid food. We have been doing puree for a long time however when my son was at his appointment for 9 month check up, the doctor said he should be having more chunky things. My son is nearly 12 months old now and is just starting to get his 2 bottom teeth. Which is great! However my boyfriend and I were very weary trying to start really chunky foods since he had no teeth! We started to do a bit more chunky things though for his foods at different meals. Our concern was that he would gag and yes, we know gagging is a part of leaning however it seemed like a lot. I think because the doctor had said this we were so worried and panicking that we never gave ourselves credit. Our son was doing just fine with mashed bananas and different fruits that had different size pieces of skin from being blended a touch. He was getting used to textures he just wasn’t physically chewing anything. He had textures that he gummed and we can even see this by his mouth moving also. We just were so worried we were somehow failing our son that we didn’t realize how well he was doing.

Even something as simple as this can be supper concerning when doctors are giving different advice. I think the best thing you can do is if you hear this from friends and different advice from their doctors, that you just follow your own. It can be really stressful and overwhelming hearing everything and such drastic opinions on things that you really just have to do your own thing though. No one can really make these decisions for you, only help you decide!

What are some things you heard from your doctor that differed from other friends doctors? Was there anything totally out there that you are wondering why their opinions are so drastically different?

Let me know in the comments below!

-StaySeeJ

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Weight Loss Wednesday #3 – I’m Struggling

This post will be a bit different. I am writing this a few days ahead of the date and like the title says, I’m struggling.

I am not going to make excuses for why I am struggling however I am.

I wouldn’t be surprised if the weight loss was nearly non-existent between the previous blog post and this one and that is okay. Losing weight is not just an easy slope that you ride down and it magically comes off. I would be really interested in looking for someone who has this happen so easily though as I would much appreciated some tips and tricks in the process!

Weight: 240.4lbs (UP 3.4 LBS)
Measurements:
Waist: 47.0 Inches ( No Change)
Hips: 54.0 Inches (Up .5 Inch)
Bust – Over – 46.0 Inches (Up .5 Inch)
– Under – 41.0 Inches (Down .5 Inch)
Thighs – Left – 30.0 Inches (Down .5 Inch)
– Right – 31.0 Inches (Up .5 Inch)
Arms – Left – 14.0 Inches (Down .5 Inch)
– Right – 14.5 Inches (Up .5 Inch)

I think a big problem with me before when I was doing all the calender’s was that I was trying to track too many things in too many places. The fact is, I have lost weight before. Was it easy? No. Was I keeping it simple? Yes. All I did was I did the treadmill an hour a day (This was when I was still living at home) And then I was majorly monitoring my calories at 1200-1500 per day NO OVER EATING! I was working so much I literately was eating and sleeping and working out and working. That was it. My boyfriend was away for work so I filled in the time as best as I could so that I was not bored or sitting around waiting for him. I was keeping busy for time to pass super fast.

What I am keeping track of is calories and working out. That is what I did before and I will be simplifying what I do now. I also will be noting days that I do smoke weed since we all know that that is a major reason why I munch so late at night. I want to work out at least 5 days per week and I would like to have only 1 day that can be closer to 1750 calories per day. Essentially that will be my cheat day. I also would like to use post-it notes and plan meals per day as well too since I know I am normally really how I feel that day and it can be detrimental for my keeping under calories.

I will no longer be smoking weed Monday-Friday. Only on weekends IF THAT. No more scheduled days. No more planning ahead. Monday/Wednesday/Friday I TYPICALLY do not smoke anyways because I stream. When I stream and smoke weed (Though the occasional time may happen) I find myself lazy and dis-interested. I need to smarten up because as time passed the closer we will be to having or trying for a second child and I do not want to be this weight again!


I know, No difference or nearly none. Plus a bit of a weight gain. And by a bit I mean basically back to what I was when we started.

I will say this.
My BF and I have purchased a vape pen. And no, It;s not for weed. It’s something to take the edge off. Am I trading one lesser weed for another vice? Sure. But I will succeed. I just made it harder for myself by completely throwing away any progress. My goal now by the end of February is to be under 230lbs. I know, It is a stretch and I need to work hard. But I believe that I am going to be able to do this.

Enough about this sad sack stuff though.

Time to get to work!

What do you find motivating when you are stuck or need a reminder you can do something difficult?

Let me know in the comments below!

-StaySeeJ



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Using Mental Health As An Excuse For Poor Behavior

Before I begin, I want to make it very clear. Mental Health is no joke. People have legitimate health problems and need to have help with that regardless of if it is by going to a doctor, getting on medications, talking to someone or just adopting new self care habits to be better as a person by coping better with these issues. Whether it be anxiety or depression, ADHD or OCD, there are many types of things and if you have one of these and someone else does everyone has different experiences. I am in no way down playing that mental health can be a reason why some people don’t do things or do them. This is going to be talking about people who habitually do harmful things and use their mental health as an excuse.

There are many people, especially on “Streamer Twitter”, who seem to use their mental health as a reason for treating others badly. They may write snappy or shady tweets with people and say they were having a bad mental health day. This is completely wrong and should be called out. Sure, people could argue with me and say they didn’t mean it, or they didn’t think about it when it happened, or it slipped out, but that is not okay. Whether or not you are having a bad day mental health wise, under no circumstances should you be trying to put someone else down. If you are having a tough day chances are talking about it is a lot different then talking about someone else. No one else can control your health physically, mentally, emotionally or whatever else you are dealing with than you.

This ties into blaming others for your mental health. “Oh, I seen Johnny Appleseed post about their life and how great it is and now I am feeling bad about mine, I’m going to post a veiled insult towards them and leave it vague so people don’t know who I’m talking about” etc. It may be hard for you or anyone to feel good for others especially if they have good things happening in their life. Remember the golden rule anyone?
“If you have nothing nice to say, Don’t speak”
Sometimes as adults we forget this. We teach it to our children that some things are better left unsaid and as adults we always feel like we need to be saying whatever is on our mind regardless of if it hurts anyone. After we find out we may have hurt someone with our words we find ourselves making an excuse. Whether that be something is happening at home, You had bad news, You were having a bad mental health day, An episode of some sort was happening, whatever.

Policing online social media is becoming a very big thing. I have noticed this based on the circles I follow on twitter for example. Here is the situation. Someone may commit suicide or they may discuss a traumatic life event, like abuse or rape. Someone or many people who follow this person or see the topic arise will tweet or post about how they do not want to see this on their timeline and that they shouldn’t be posting this in the open to the world because it effects their mental health. They want to have a timeline free from their triggers and memories so they try to police what others may have said. This goes with differing opinions as well too. If someone thinks mental health is over played a lot, and someone has diagnosed problems, they feel the need to tell off the person with a differing opinion instead of taking this time to educate someone on the effects that one may have by posting opinions like that.

Spending too much time on Social Media, in my opinion, could be a major reason why some people have mental health struggles. Instead of taking time away when we feel down we go online where we are surrounded by things that can bring us down further, such as others success, images that make us feel sad, or whatever else we may encounter when browsing the web. The best thing I have done recently is trying to take time away from social media. I write on my laptop in the living room a lot and don’t nearly spend half as much time on the PC as I did before. My laptop is quite old so many tasks are not able to be performed on it. I simply use it to check twitter and discord and write these when I am feeling a free moment when my son is playing independently. I spend time in my books and writing things down for planners and schedules and what not. I love to hand write things and if I can do it offline then I will do it since I know if makes me feel a lot better or at ease with myself when I am away from the the online world.

Being diagnosed with a mental health issue does NOT make you a professional. That statement is bold, Yes, but it also couldn’t be more true. If you have Anxiety you are not a professional. If someone is reaching out for ideas or questions about this, sure you are able to put in your thoughts about it. But do not try to tell someone that their concerns are invalid because maybe they haven’t been diagnosed with it like you have, or that because they are experiencing things in a different way that they must not have the same diagnosis that you do because the illness presents itself different in you. This is not fair and can be extremely damaging to someone. Their feelings and thoughts are very much real to them even if you may not think so.

Regardless of what you have been diagnosed with or how well versed on a subject you might be when it comes to mental health, it still does not give you the excuse ever, to put others down. Poor behavior is not to be excused by poor mental health. That being said, if you do have a lapse in judgement and treat someone badly or try to put something out in the world to harm others, admit that. It may see hard and like a tough thing to do at the time. However the feeling you get when you admit this fault after the fact will be better and the payout worth while. On the flip side also, If someone has done something towards you, or something that was intentionally made to hurt you, take the high road. Block or mute someone, reach out privately about how you may have seen whatever happened in a not so clear way too. Sometimes others don’t realize what they are doing is hurtful, just as you may not realize what you have said to be hurtful either!

Do you know people who use mental health as a blanket excuse for poor behavior?
Do they try to police others on how to think or feel?
Have you found yourself in these situations before?


Let me know in the comments below! I would love to hear your thoughts on this.

-StaySeeJ

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Valentine’s Day Commercialized?

I think we can all agree that when it comes to holidays just about every single one is commercialized. From Christmas basically starting at the end of August before Halloween has even come and gone. To having diamonds and jewels promoted for holidays around romance too. But why is that? Why is a holiday such as Valentines day commercialized?

For me, growing up we did something for Valentines day in Canada. Whether that be when you are a young child frantically trying to write all the names of your classmates on a card to give on the day. And forgetting the paper so trying to guess them off. Or even telling your parents the day before that they aren’t done and stressing them out as well. Normally there was a little party with some treats and fun games too. Don’t forget finding the best cards that you didn’t think anyone else would have and giving your friends the ones that had the best picture or jokes on them too. Something that felt like ages to complete as a kid but really it may have taken a half an hour or 45 minutes of your time to do.

Fast forward to being an adult, you typically have 3 types of people who think about this particular holiday. You have the first group who goes all out, buys jewellery or gems or chocolate and candy or whatever else there is to buy on the holiday. Secondly you have people who absolutely despise the holiday. They think that is totally commercialized (And I guess they aren’t that wrong with that opinion) and they don’t partake in any of the types of things people do to celebrate it. Then you have a third group who really wings it and will celebrate but not in a bit way or they wont go all out but if someone they are with would like to celebrate or something then they will do that though. There really is no right or wrong way to celebrate any holiday it is just what you choose.

For me, I would like to say that I am a third group. I remember being a kid and my mom always did something special for us for Valentines day. She would give us a valentine in our bags which somehow we never seen her put in. She would normally give us some heart pencils or stickers or erasers and a few extra treats that day too. It was a really nice surprise that I think I will adopt and do once my son and perhaps future kids will look forward to. Heck, My mom even did this when I was in collage and away she would send something by mail with some candy and a card just that she was thinking of me.

As an adult, I still say I am in the third group. Since being with my boyfriend I more or less have gotten things that are a couples gift. If I remember correctly, the first Valentines day we were together I got us some chocolate and some candles and coloring books so we could just sit and chill and color. Nothing super expensive but something that we could do together and just relax. I even got some candy and chocolate too. I may have even gotten bubble bath but the tub in his apartment was so small I could have forgotten! Though I do like to at least get a card. For some reason I am really into cards. For what? I don’t know but they are a great memory and I have many many cards as well too. I think the art of picking out a card for someone and thinking of them as you read the saying or even adding your own means so much more than gifts. Even if I am flat broke I still will try to at least get a small gift or in the very least a card to celebrate it.

Now here is the question, Do I ever go a bit overboard? Sure. But it never is that much due to the fact that I cannot mentally justify why I would go into small debt for a holiday. If that were the case I feel like I would have to do the same for St Patricks day as well too or any of those smaller holidays. I will however if I am able to, I will more likely get decorations for the holiday to keep up for the month or the days surrounding the holidays instead. I do this especially with Easter too where I try to get certain things that can be used year after year. I guess it is my own way of justifying spending money on the holiday if I can grow the collection of decorations to be used every year.

Overall, and this goes with any holiday. Don’t ever make yourself go broke. Valentines day is a day to celebrate the love you have for other people, whether that be your spouse, or your children or even friends. It really is not work going into debt for. No holiday is worth going into debt for. If you have the means to do so, head out to any dollar store or dollar tree if you are American and get some things like my mom used to do for myself and my siblings. Sometimes the smallest of gestures can have such a huge impact on people. And if you are unable to do that, You can always make something from the heart! A piece of paper and a pencil can work wonders in making a card. It doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy. Spending more money on things does not equal a better reaction! Remember that!

Is there anything that you can remember for Valentines day that you had happen as a child? Whether in school or something you had happen at home? Do you not celebrate it at all too?

Let me know in the comments below! I am curious to hear how different places celebrate Valentines Day.

-StaySeeJ

Why Tim Horton’s Sucks Now

I think it is safe to say that most people in Canada or even some parts of the world knows what Tim Horton’s is. Tim’s would be the Dunkin Donuts equivalent to the United States, or even the Krispy Kremes of the United Kingdom. And whatever else you would consider a big chain coffee shop with pastry delights in them. Tim Horton’s is a coffee shop. Chances are if you live in Canada you can get to one within a 30 minute drive if not far far before. Some streets go as far as having a Tim Horton’s every so many blocks. In gas stations, stand alone, in malls or in other stores as a side spot too.

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I think one of the biggest issues that I have with Tim Horton’s, and I would say a lot of Canadians have the same issue, it is that the company is not even Canadian owned anymore. The company was sold to Burger King or Wendy’s or whatever have you but the company that every Canadian knew of is no longer the Canadian company that we once knew and loved. I would even beg the idea that the quality has gone down as well. Everything pre-made and packaged and bakers simply throw in the oven. Or at least that is the way it tastes, like it has come off a factory line. Not to mention the regular things people once loved like coffee and things have changed. People are reaching for the cheaper counter part at McDonald’s which need I mind you in the summer has the dollar menu for drinks as well too.

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My personal gripe with Tim Horton\s was when they took my beloved Cinnamon Donuts and Timbits off the menu. That was my all time favorite flavor of donut and they took it away. It was a flavor that I had known and loved from when I was a child to the moment they removed it from rotation. This particular item isn’t even out in particular seasons or anything they are just gone. Now I have not found a spot that has these items still but if there is a place out there I urge you PLEASE comment where and if I am ever around hopefully they have that there when I arrive. It was such a simple flavor where they have taken it off and have put on more complicated flavors such as Oreo. Do we really need an Oreo flavor baked good from Tim’s, I think not!

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Another memory of my childhood that has been gone and I am unable to find is the “Gingerbread Figure”. See how progressive Tim hortons used to be? And now what, Nothing! This was just as it explains, a gingerbread person with either just icing or icing and a harden sugar head. Sometimes it was based on holidays or a generic girl or boy person. It really depended. Sometimes it was cartoons of popular movies or kids shows or even just animals too. I always loved going with my grandparents to Tim Horton’s in the mornings when I stayed the night there and looking through the glass case at Tim’s to see that they had some made! I would choose this one every time. I would always pick off one of the legs and then the arms and then save the sugar head for last. I know this probably sounds super morbid then it really is but honestly I was a small child and it really isn’t that bad!

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I will say even though they have basically sold out the heart and soul of Canadians that they still do a lot for the country. Especially for the children. For the supporting minor hockey, the Timbits so to speak or their camp day and smile cookie day too. They continue to help our programs that are impacting the kids of the country’s lives daily and helping the art of sport be more accessible. And their camps that are including everyone no matter their abilities.

I’m sure, after I have tried to rip into the Tim’s you are asking yourself, Wow, Does she like anything there? I do actually. I enjoy having their iced coffee made with chocolate milk and I also enjoy having an Iced Capp also made with chocolate milk. Sometimes I don’t mind a sour cream glazed donut or a chocolate chip cookie, Only if they are chewy though! As far as anything else I really am not a fan of their bagels that i once loved. I avoid that. Tea biscuits cheese no ham or just plain are also good however microwaved with butter is how they are enjoyed best!

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Even though they continue to do things that tick most people off. I probably will still enjoy their products here and there. I know it sounds cray why would you still go there when you have a lot of negative to say. I still enjoy some of their things, however if they were to change their iced capps that would be extremely hard for me to go there really. A major point we go there is because of their convenience. When I go for a road trip we always stop their first for their quick eats and coffee even if it doesn’t taste very good which is happening more often than not.

I am all for supporting Canadian shops however the more time passes they seem to be becoming less and less of what my memories are made of. Something that was a part of nearly every shift on my way there has become a few times a year. I just am not interested in going out especially with Covid let alone for their maybe okay tasting drinks. We have recently upgraded our home coffee in the previous year to a Nespresso and with the Cold Wave system that nearly instantly cools hot coffee, I would say that there really is no need.

Is there something that you really liked when you were younger from a restaurant or shop that has changed and you find yourself avoiding it

is it only known in your country or worldwide

Let me know as I am curious if anyone else has experienced this as well too!

When Are You Getting Married/Having Any Kids?

As an adult, these are two of the most annoying questions I think I have ever heard in my life. Like many other I am sure hearing them can make you feel not very good about yourself. They may make you feel frustrated or angry. Or they may even make you feel sad also. Being the oldest out of my siblings and being the last to have a child and get married, it sucked to hear this. My boyfriend and I had just welcomed out first child in 2020 and that same year were together 10 years. No, we are not engaged either. However my brother who is a bit younger was married around 21 and had a step son and a daughter a few years later. My sister was also married fairly early and is also with 2 kids too. Hearing these questions were not a good feeling and to be fair near the end it was extremely frustrating and quite frankly made me angry.

People think asking these is harmless.  It’s not. Maybe a couple has decided against doing all of these. Maybe they have been actively trying to have a child for years and have been unsuccessful. Or perhaps they have had miscarriages and this is a reminder of that. Asking these questions is extremely personal. Not to mention if they have answered this for people multiple times prior chances are that they wont be changing their answer. Or they simply do not wish to tell you.

Since I was the last person to start a family out of my siblings and was with my boyfriend for a long time I got this question often. It sucked. It made me feel like I should be doing something in my life to please everyone. And that is not okay. I was waiting to have kids as was my boyfriend. We never wanted kids young so we could live our life. But the outside pressures and always being asked was something we didn’t like hearing year in year out multiple times. Near the end it made us angry like our last answer wasn’t good enough so the question being asked continuously was annoying. Our answer never changed. We always said soon or we always said yes, we planned on having kids. We never said that we didn’t want to have kids or a family with children. It was just that it wasn’t necessarily convenient for us. We liked to have the freedom of being able to do a little travel within the country and just leave out dog home. We liked being able to do a quick day trip around where-ever without thinking about packing up the car and children. We had no problem waiting for kids and that is exactly what we did. Our problem was with people who would want us to have children sooner based on their expectations of it. The comments we have heard was “We’ll you don’t want to be old having kids” or ” you want to see them have grand kids” Which was super frustrating to me because my mom had a previous child in the 80s whom passed away, however my 3 siblings and I were born when her and my dad were early 30’s. The exact same age I am now. I feel like there was this pressure because my younger siblings had their own families so young that I was being pushed to do the same thing.

As I am sure you can tell I am becoming the black sheep of the family as I have a child and am also not married. My boyfriend has no desire to get married however I know that some day I would like to be married and it never had to be before kids though. I always pictured being married after we were finished having children and they would all be a part of it. My brother had proposed to his now wife after knowing her for a brief period and her being there after he went away with the military. My sister was engaged to her now husband after they were together a few years and had knew one another in high school. I have told my boyfriend that yes, I do want an engagement ring on my finger. However I am not going to start planning or anything as that isn’t even on my radar in terms of things I want to plan. But eventually yes I would like it to happen. Comments from friends and family like “You aren’t even engaged yet!” or “You have a child before getting married?”. Honestly, My boyfriend and I had just celebrated a 10 year anniversary, I would like to think that we are going to be going pretty steady if we aren’t broken up now. Especially since I know i drove him crazy from quarantine also.

I think at the end of the day you have to be honest about your feelings with this to people who keep pestering you. If you want to never have kids. Say it. If marriage is not in your cards. Say it. There is no shame in not wanting to have kids or marriage.

If you’re someone who asks these questions. Stop. They are never the outcome you want and it can be extremely discouraging when you have someone pry into your life like this. You are doing more damage then good. If a person wants to get married or they want to have kids you will know eventually. And if you did ask these questions before once is more then enough.

Before closing out this sensitive subject, I asked my boyfriend what he thought. He said this: “I think these questions are the same as finances, religion or politics, you just don’t ask”. I never really considered this to be true when it comes to this question but thinking about it from this perspective I don’t think I could agree more. I know for me personally having this question asked so many times over the years I tend to never mention this unless the person has mentioned it before.

Are you guilty of asking this question?
Have you had is asked of you and felt not so pleasant afterwards?

Let me know in the comments below!

-StaySeeJ

Weight Loss Wednesday #2 Jan 21st/2021-Feb 3nd/2021 [20 days]

I need to be held accountable. Simple as that.

I have decided to do so, I will be bringing you along the weight loss journey. We recently have gotten AMAZING News about moving back to my home province so that means weight loss before baby number 2. And I mean I have to hammer down NOW! I will be writing blogs every other Wednesday til about June or so when we move. Every 2 weeks I will update (with pictures!!)

Three criteria: Days I smoked weed, Days I exercised, and Days under calories (Max 1500). Along with triumphs and struggles. And updated side and front photos too. Normally I pick subjects and write about them and if they become relevant schedule them or write about a current subject as it pops up. Not this time. Chances are you are reading this blog and it was written last night. I will have photos of calendars that I will be filling out to see things easier and an overview of how I am doing. I wont be typing up what exactly I eat in a day as I do not have the time to do that but this will be a good overview for all you visual readers! Simple “X” Day’s mean that I failed at the calendar’s goals. While if I pass I will briefly fill it in. If I am under my calories I will Highlight it with a marker, if I don’t smoke weed it will be colored in, and if I exercise I will briefly write it in ie: Elliptical 40 mins, Exercise DVD, etc. and I will write a reflection on each calendar and then a brief spot after for my struggles and victories of the week!

If you are someone who is familiar with my blogs you know that I struggle with weight loss, I have most of my life and recently wrote about it too, You can read that blog here.

My low goal is to lose 30lbs before we move. Which is no over-reaching. If I lose anywhere from 30-50lbs that would be a major bonus for me. My starting weight is 242.4lbs. I know. I feel like a whale and need to take control of myself again. The goal before baby number 2 is cooking in there is under 210lbs. It is totally doable I just need to hammer down and stop eating my feelings, good and bad.

**** If some of this is repeating the new info is below, you can read the first blog post here regarding the weight loss journey!

Current Weight : 237.0lbs (DOWN 5.4lbs)
Measurements
Waist -47.0 Inches (No Change)
Hips -53.5 Inches (Down .5 Inches)
Bust – Over – 45.5 Inches (Down .5 Inches)
-Under – 41.5 INches (UP 2.0 Inches)
Thighs – Left – 30.5 Inches (No Change)
-Right – 39.5 Inches (UP .5 Inches)
Arms – Left – 14.5 Inches (UP 1.0 Inches
– Right- 14.5 Inches (No Change)

Exercise Log

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Old Goal: Workout 8 out of 14 Days
10 Days worked out!
WE DID SOMETHING RIGHT!
Having completed the goal of working out I think I will probably stick to this again. I find workout is not nearly a problem for me. I put on a show on my Computer where my Elliptical is and I just go to town. I find this time to be passed faster watching a show and fully getting deep into it. Currently I am watching the Vampire Diaries which when I am done if I can find it on Amazon Prime I will hopefully be watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer for the 5th time or something. I like watching shows with female leads that have the body shape I want. I find it to be motivating when I can picture myself striving for that!
New goal: 10 out of 14 days worked out!

Under Calories

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Old Goal: 10 out of 14 days Under Calories
6 Days out of 14 were under calories.
This is a struggle for me however I am confident that the next 2 weeks will be great! I will like to add that there were some days there that were JUST over 1500 calories so technically they were over but if I worked out that day and counted the calories burned from the workout I would have been safe in terms of under. However I don’t workout and add those calories in I just count calories and let the workout speak for itself. The only day I can really foresee being over calories is Valentines day since we will probably be ordering in some food however that is basically all. Maybe an added cheat day. I set a goal below but will try to be under a lot more also too!
New goal is 10 days out of 14 under calories.

Days Smoked Weed

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As you can see smoking weed was a bit better. Many more no smoking days than before however I still smoked over the 4 max smoking day limit I set for myself. Thankfully for me a friend of mine and I have a little competition going for February. She won’t be drinking Wine and I wont be smoking weed. Little does she know I think she will cave before me, but don’t tell her that! So the new goal is NO weed at all for February hopefully we see lots of colors showing no weed days!

Struggles

Have been over eating. However when I do over eat the days haven’t all collided together which I am happy about. I didn’t completely self sabotage myself this time only a little bit. Smoking weed is a challenge as well and I hope by not smoking in February that will really help me to jump start my weight loss. If I can be under 225 by the end of the month or really close that will be a huge motivator in itself for me!

Victories

A major victory for me is working out. I think I am back into a steady routine now that it will really help me to keep going. I never had a problem with working out when I get in to the habit of doing it, the problem for me was food and over eating to the point my work out was just maintaining my weight it was never helping to lose it. I cannot wait to see where I am at the end of the month with no smoking weed!

Reflection

I am finally in a place where I can say I am excited about weight loss. If I can do this correctly and really stick to my guns about over eating, no weed, and working out I think February will be a fantastic month for me. My goal is to be around 225 pounds by the end or even close would be good. Then if I keep at a 10lb weight loss. End of March would be around 215 pounds and end of February would be 205 pounds. This will be huge for me before we try for a second baby and I couldn’t be happier! Here is to a kick butt month!

-StaySeeJ

We Are Moving Home!! February Update 2021

WE ARE MOVING HOME!!
Okay, Nothing is official until we get an official letter near the end of April but as it stands right now we are at like a 99% chance we will be moving back home this year towards the beginning of the summer. I couldn’t be more excited. It really is going to be amazing to finally be back home and able to drive to my parents house again. Not that I really went there a lot before because I am lazy and enjoy my own space a lot of the time but the possibility is there! They can finally meet my son! And if everything goes according to plans then maybe we will be announcing that we will be having another little one too! This is such a huge relief for me to know that I will be in our own house again. We will be in our own space. I can paint my kitchen whatever color I want. I can have a new couch since ours is basically falling apart. I cannot wait til everything is set in motion and we can actively look at homes. We browse now but obviously if we aren’t told it is official we wont be buying anything. Just the fact that we will be moving back and have a fenced in yard again FINALLY will be huge even for the dog. I keep thinking and brainstorming ideas that I would like to do this summer. Obviously with moving in this summer we aren’t going to get everything we want right away but there is a few things like a fenced in yard would be great, the same with a fire pit since they are simple and can make the yard feel more like home. Especially on a hard day unpacking or organizing or even decorating our new home we can sit outside and relax.

Weight loss is going too. I have decided that I will not be smoking weed for the month of February. I want to really hammer down and hopefully lose 10lbs before March. I am excited for my weight loss update tomorrow since I am down weight but I would like to go a bit further and really push myself this month for weight loss. And to do so weed needs to be gone for a bit. I feel like there is added pressure with the weight loss blogs that I am totally okay with. It is a good pressure of course. In the back of my mind I just think how silly I would be if never lost weight in like 6 weeks also. That would be insane and I would look super bad in front of all of you guys! Which is not what I want though. Ill talk more about weight loss tomorrow though in the update!

I NEARLY AM FINISHED WRITING A BOOK ALSO! I am really working hard on completing a book that the idea popped into my head last week. I believe it will be mostly an eBook but the idea is amazing!! I am in the finishing process right now where I am just reading it for a 3rd time. I will send it to a few friends who will read it and let me know if they have any questions or comments too that I can tweek it and add to it. It will be hopefully approx 12,000 words by the end of it. A respectable amount for my first book. I also have some facebook pages to read in order to gain more knowledge on the whole self publishing and writing process. My mom’s friend gave me these when I mentioned I was writing. I have so many ideas that I have to write down so I don’t forget. This first one I feel like could be a real winner though I know nothing about publishing I just hope that I can really make this work. I think writing and being an author could be my way to make an income by being a stay at home mom! It really did pop in my head and I think pursuing writing will be a great thing for me to gain some financial independence again while maintaining a household and being a stay at home mom too!

streaming I think has been going fantastic also. I feel like I have a schedule that is actually achievable for me. It may only be 3 days a week but those 3 days make me feel great. The fact they are spread out works even better especially if the baby doesn’t sleep well or is up one night even if I stream that day I know that I have a break day so to speak where I am able to go to bed as early as I want. I find this has been extremely helpful when it comes to trying to get enough sleep at night not to mention I think it can also be sustainable when we have another baby as well, up until the birth anyways!

Overall I couldn’t be more happier with how January is going not to mention the good news that we will be moving and getting to buy our own house again! I probably will mention this multiple times because this has been what we have been waiting for! I think that with time passing as fast as it is hopefully the no weed in February will also help the time pass. I look forward to having a clear mind and looking forward to being that much closer to being able to head back home. Not to mention also, my son is nearing his 1st birthday! I have been a mom for an entire year! That is actually insane for me to think about as well too. And to think we will soon be looking at having another child in this crazy world we live in right now too! 2021 is already looking like a great year even if Covid is still around!

How was your January?

Any goals for February?

Let me know in the comments below!

-StaySeeJ