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What People Wish They Knew About Pregnancy – Part 3

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Before I begin, I want to say this is something that I had asked the people on the app “Peanut”. This is an app where mothers sign up and can meet other moms around their towns and essentially become friends and hang out (Not a sponsor). However for me I felt it was far too overwhelming and in typical fashion I stopped using the app. I did however ask a question to the community, that question was “What is something you wish people told you about pregnancy or birth”. These are some responses and once the other parts become active I will be posting them below with links. And you are more than welcome to check them out yourself too!

What do you wish people told you about pregnancy and birth Part 1
What do you wish people told you about pregnancy and birth Part 2

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Fundal Massage for uterus was something that I had NO IDEA about when I had given birth the first time. I will say having a c-section for my second I did not notice if there was any massage which I assume there was not due to the fact I had just been cut open there. However with my first vaginal birth HOLY MOLY it was tough. The nurses literally will put their palm or even their fingers and wiggle it around your abdomen to see if your uterus is shrinking back and it does not tickle. They check this periodically and it is absolutely not comfortable at all. Yes it is important and needs to be done but just know that it does not feel great though at all. I know when it comes to having our third and final child, as much as I am hoping to have a vaginal birth similar to our second I am HOPING that this massage happens quickly and it becomes short lived!

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Forceps or vacuum was something I knew very little about and thankfully with the 2 children I have (And hopefully the 3rd when the time comes) we dont need to know anything about these! This is where you have to have these tongs to help pull your baby out. And the vacuum is just that, it will suction to the top of your babies head to help them come out of you. I was only told about these in my 1st pregnancy when the doctor was half threatening me with gaining too much weight and how this may be something that is needed if I kept gaining. Luckily I never needed them as my son came so fast however I have heard of these being essential in giving birth for whatever reason. In the moment I can imagine they are horrifying and worrisome.

Lack of sleep from labor to months later is something that you may think is assumed however it isn’t. I will say that with my first two son’s they have been nearly incredible sleepers compared to stories I have heard from friends. As obvious as it may be no one really talks about the lack of sleep you get after a baby is born. For my second pregnancy I found it was a lot harder to sleep the bigger I had gotten however I don’t remember that with my first. Afterwards you are also looking at about 2 months of lack of sleep where the first month you are basically a zombie in the process. I know it sounds crazy but it is true. Babies do drink every 3 hours so they need to really be up that much. After about 2 months both of my son’s slept alright averaging maybe 6-9 hours a night. What makes this challenging is that when you have multiple children. With my first I was able to sleep when he slept and catch up on sleep. However with my second that was not entirely possible due to the fact that he was on one nap per day and the newborn didn’t exactly sleep when you wanted them to!



Mom Guilt is something that I dont think anyone ever can prepare you for. This also can be parenting guilt too. One of the first things I know I felt guilty about with mom guilt was not wanting to breast feed. It is hammered down our throats as a mom that if you don’t you are depriving your child of certain things that they never talk about all the reasons why breast feeding may not be right for your family. For me, mentally I just was unable to breastfeed. I did not enjoy it, I felt wrong doing it, and when my son had jaundice and feeding was super important to make it go away it scared me and made me paranoid that he was not drinking enough. That is not to say that it doesn’t work for other people but for me I loved the fact that my spouse was able to feed our children and I was able to sleep a bit, or that I wasn’t hooked up to some sort of pump the entire time or waking every 2 hours trying to make things happen. The guilt I felt this for my first child was tough. It was extremely hard to even get past. I have a friend who breastfeeds her kids and she said flat out fed is best. There is such a stigma about parents who choose to formula feed that it needs to be stopped. It would probably help with things like postpartum depression as well if we never had so many pressures on us parents before the baby has even been born!

As you can see there is multiple things that may seem pretty obvious to others however this is not the case. This is something that maybe by writing these out a new parent may know before the situation arises! And if you are pumped to read this I can’t wait for you to read the other ones when they come out too!

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Getting Through The 1st Trimester

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Finding out that you are pregnant can be a very exciting time in anyone’s life! I know when we first found out we were pregnant with my first child, and now our second one we were excited! However I feel like my first pregnancy I was a bit lucky because I barely had any symptoms except for being tried. When I was tired I would just sleep But now having a toddler and being pregnant for the second time things are way more challenging. Here are my tips to help me get through the first trimester (With or without a toddler!).

SLEEP! In the first trimester you are probably losing a lot of sleep. Not only that but suddenly your bladder seems to be super small and you are running to the bathroom nearly every 3 hours especially in the middle of the night even if you did not do that to begin with before. Thought I was really lucky that my partner was home often I was able to sleep when I felt like it because he would watch our son. However, if he was working late I would still try to nap when my toddler did. It can be hard though because some days I would be super tired and go to sleep and would have one of those days where my son nearly never slept his nap time. However a lot of times it works really well to be able to nap when he does. It may not seem like a lot but it really is a decent amount of time to be able to sleep and not over sleep. Though be warned that sometimes I tend to find myself more tired after this. But catching up on sleep is really important if you are able to sleep during the day. I will say, going into the second trimester there is some relief in terms of when you need to run to the bathroom from your sleepy slumber but in terms of the increased bathroom visits. They will still be a lot due to the fact your body is housing a baby! Try to also drink water early in the day (Something that I do not do) And limit it late at night so that you find yourself hopefully nearly empty when it comes to having to get up to relieve yourself!

Prepping for morning sickness or food aversions was something I did with my first pregnancy and now this one even though I did not think I needed it much. I had certain staples in my kitchen such as ginger ale, little sour candies that would help with morning sickness. I also had carnation instant breakfast’s as well. They really helped in the morning when I was not interested in eating breakfast a lot and still filled me up though to be able to function at some point. I still have been pretty lucky even with this pregnancy in terms of morning sickness. Even when I did have it it was mainly after supper and by that point my boyfriend was already home and was able to take the the lead when it came to putting my son to bed and getting him ready for his sleep. Having things like this was a huge help especially the ginger cookies which I would have a few snacks on in the mornings when my stomach was just a bit more upset though.

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Make it fun and have an app or two! When I was pregnant with my son I used two in particular, they were Ovia Pregnancy and then What to Expect. These are super fun to use because you are able to pick a subject to compare the size of your baby! When I was pregnant with my son I used the “fruits and Veggies” theme for both. Every week was a milestone and it would compare the growing baby inside to whatever fruit it was comparable to! This time around I have chosen to do one for 80’s and 90s nostalgic items, and then another one in the “Fun and Games” category. This is a great way to compare the size of your baby to things you know the size of already. With baby number three I assume knowing myself I would be picking a different category to compare the size of the baby to! Another thing that is huge when it comes to these apps is every day or so it will post little tips and tricks about what is happening with the growth of your baby. From things developing and changing. Sure you may have multiple children but still is exciting to see how things develop since you may not remember when things happen as they happen.

Regardless about what you try to do when it comes to surviving the first trimester, there is really multiple things you can do to make it through. Another positive thing to remember is that even if the first trimester is rough, chances are things will slowly level out towards the 2nd trimester. I have been lucky and have found that whatever symptoms I have been feeling does normally seem to disappear a bit. However on rare occasions there are people out there who have to deal with major symptoms in the second trimester also. However, there are also medical interventions that you are perhaps able to take for things such as morning sickness if you talk to your doctor about how you are feeling.

Lastly, remember that there is also so many reasons to sick it out because at the end of everything no matter how sick you get you will have your little bundle of joy to be thankful for! When you see your child you suddenly forget all of the heartaches and sickness you may have felt as it just melts away!

Is there anything that you did when you were feeling a bit wonky in the first trimester?
Do you follow any of the tips and tricks that were mentioned above too?

Let me know as I am sure a lot of other readers would love to read about it also!

5 Pregnancy Myths

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When it comes to pregnancy there is a lot of evidence and old wives tales out there that if someone who may be trying to get pregnant a while, will be willing to try. A lot od them are just made up and something fun to try but they really have no evidence that they worth other than the rare times it might be correct in a prediction. Some of these idea’s I have even seen on an app I use which is wild that people believe this. Especially when logically it really does not make sense if it did work. These of course are just a handful that I have seen throughout reading and research in the topic. I am sure there are many many more like the ring or needle on a string and whichever way it moves predicts the sex of the baby, of so they say.  Let’s dive in!

Apparently you are unable to prevent stretch marks. A lot has to do with genetics and another part has to do with just the weight and how it is distributed. That being said you are totally able to help your skin and growing belly by using creams to help hydrate it. But chances are there is no prevention to this and regardless of method you will more often than not be getting stretch marks if it was meant to be. That isn’t also to say you shouldn’t be hydrating your tummy as it grows to house a little person either! If you have dry skin like myself you will fins it useful in relieving itchiness as well which is common when you are growing to be 3 and 4 sizes bigger than you would expect!

This is one that I have seen a lot on my app. A lot of people seem to think this particular lube “pre-seed” is used in order to help fertility. That is false. Lube does not do anything but help sperm travel to where they are going. It does not impact the quality, speed, distance, count or anything else it simply makes a wet environment foe them to swim up. That being said, if you do not need lube and produce enough moisture down there, there is absolutely no reason why you should be using lube. Most lubes will say they are sperm safe. Meaning they are safe and will not harm sperm once they are inside of it. There is a big difference between being sperm safe and essentially helping fertility. Don’t you think if a lube helped fertility most would be talking about it or trying that route instead of other more invasive methods? Probably eh, which is why if you see any type of lube boasting to help fertility there is a huge chance that it might be a scam and it only is indicating that it is safe to use with sperm.

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One myth that reminds me every time I see it because in the TV show Mike and Molly she was doing this when they were trying to have a baby, it is the holding your legs up method after intercourse so that you help the sperm and gravity keep them inside. This does not help chances what-so-ever. It is completely unnecessary due to the fact that when sperm are released they are already going to where they need to be. Not to mention, the leaking of some sperm our of the body is normally dead sperm. Doing this will not help you get pregnant faster.

This is probably one of the wildest things I have ever seen on an app. It was someone commenting that after intercourse they put in a diva cup. You know the same thing women use for their periods to catch blood. Well they did this and were using it after intercourse. They swore this was increasing their chances of sperm getting in by holding them closer to the cervix  which doesn’t make sense. The diva cup is there to hold blood as if comes out of the body. Not to mention they really do not go THAT deep up to the cervix in order to hold sperm closer. Also in case you didn’t know, the walls of the vagina are ribbed. This is so sperm can make their way up even if some get lost in the tiny folds. A diva cup is a slick piece of rubber. Sperm will not be swimming up it. This obviously was a post about desperation but it really has no value in helping pregnancy. Again, sperm will get to where they need to go without being held into place.

One might think that pregnancy tests that claim to be accurate or can detect pregnancy days before a missed period are great. Well they are not. Though they do claim go be able to detect pregnancy some up to 6 days before a missed period. That may be true however if you actually look at the percent that is accurate it is nearly 65%. Obviously as the days go closer to your period it becomes more accurate however this is heavily because the pregnancy hormone is doubling every 24-48 hours making it easily detectable. The only time a test can be 100% accurate is day of missed period. However it is not uncommon to not get a pregnant sign until after missed period even so much as a week. Another part to this not many people may be aware of is that digital pregnancy tests typically take more of the hormone to produce an accurate/pregnant test. So taking it earlier would mean that it is could give a negative. There is no rush to take a test either, the earlier you test the higher chance of getting a negative when it will become a positive, and seeing that result can be devastating to some. Patience is key here!

Is there anything you heard from old wives tales that came out true but only by chance?

What is something you tried to find out it was inaccurate?

Let me know some crazy myths that you have heard in the comments below!