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From a Stoned Mom

As I write this it is a few days before 420 and well, obviously being a mom I have to be creative. I smoked a roach before writing as it is Sunday morning and my spouse is watching our boys while I catch up on per-writing blogs for the months ahead. As you know (If you follow the blog for a while!) that I tend to save titles of blogs and then I slowly write and schedule. By bulk writing and scheduling it makes my life as a mom of 2 boys that much easier and gives me far more free time.

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Enough about that fluff let’s jump in!

From a stoned mom. Some life advice maybe? Maybe some good jokes (Just kidding!) or maybe just talking about how wonderful you are (maybe).

First I think the most important thing to do is to become a free spirit. I know this was something that I never really did until I was in my 20’s. Growing up as a stoner and in school where I was not as memorable as I would have liked to be. That being said, I am so thankful that I am this person now. I like to be a dreamer. The world needs more dreamers. Whether you are 3 years old or maybe you are 18 years old you should know that you are unique and you are incredible. If you are a parent you should be encouraging your kids to use their imagination.

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Creative play is just that. Being creative. Encourage using skills and tools to express themselves. Also know that in this day and age there is no right or wrong way to teach your children, some are visual learners and some are more constructive learners or maybe even more traditional. Not everyone needs to learn the same way and if they did the world would be pretty boring right. Another thing to remember is that sometimes people like to learn certain subjects one way and then another way for other topics too. There is many ways for children to understand.

This probably goes without being said but BE CHILL. There is so much that people say about parenting and that would be that time flies. When I had my first son I felt like time was moving so fast. I turned around and he was already 6 months old and next moment he was a year. Time passes so fast when you have a kid. Now that being said, I have 2 now. I did not think it was possible but time is actually FLYING past. At the time of writing this we are a few days shy of my youngest being 5 months old, next month we need to start feeding solids! That is how incredibly fast time is flying. If you are uptight and time passes this fast your mental health will suffer. Relax and take in every moment. I swear my kid says whats that to so many things and just the other month he was barely even saying anything. Life is too short to have everything perfect and be obsessive about any aspect of it too.



Keep lines of communications open. I would like to think that as a teenager it was hard for me to express myself to my parents. They are great people don’t get me wrong but sometimes it was hard for me to really tell them what was happening in my life. As a stoner mom I would like to think I would be the opposite of that. I would like to believe that when my son’s are growing up that I would be able to have that conversations with them whether it be about sex or weed. Currently weed is legal in Canada with the age of maturity however that doesn’t mean teens are allowed to smoke it either. Keeping lines of communication open can be so very challenging and I am not even in that part of my parenting journey either! I just hope that when the time comes I will be able to make sure that everything that needs to be said to prepare my children for making a smart decision is there and that they know if needed they can always pick up the phone and call me.

Call me crazy, but maybe because I am a bit buzzed on this roach I smoked before writing this, but I would like to think stoner mom’s or even parents, as long as there is some sort of balance, we can change the world. The hardest part is you want better for your children. Does that mean that I want to be high all of their life, no. I do enjoy getting high because I like to and always have. I smoke occasionally in the day when my oldest naps and youngest also naps but eventually my oldest will not be napping so I will have to be that luxury till they are older. I am relishing in these moment and also still making sure that I am able to keep myself. Becoming a parent changes a person. Whether they would admit it or not. And just like people have their drink at the end of the day or their glass of wine, my smoking a joint is the same thing. I even talk about it here where there is what seems to be a double standard to smoking at the end of the day vs drinking at the end of the day.

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So if you are a teenager or kid reading this, I would be questioning where your parents are! And why is a blog with this popping up on anything you are doing, is the parental controls not strong enough? And if you are a parent also know this, whatever you are doing, is enough. You are the best parent you can be. Can we be better? Yes. But we won’t get there overnight and we wont get there dwelling on what we could be. We are able to change and we are able to show growth in the process too. We are fully able to keep ourselves, be a parent, and balance whatever the world throws our way!

How I Quit Weed for Pregnancy

I love smoking weed. I would say i smoke weed far more than I ever drank. There is just something about it that I enjoy doing like at the end of the day or on a weekend just wake and baking and tackling some chores and getting things done. I wouldn’t necessarily say i was a pot head as there is times in my life where I did not smoke nearly as much as I would have liked but overall since I first started smoking weed at 16 years old I would be a semi regular weed smoker, with the exception being my early 20s when I would lighten up a bit when i first moved in with my boyfriend now. Due to his job, he was not particularly fond of it being smoke a lot so It was more of an occasional thing that would happen.

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fast forward to when it became legal in Canada and i was a full blown pot head. i was smoking it daily after I was back from french school (I was living in Quebec at the time it became legal across the country) and I was smoking it all day every day on the weekends when I had no where to go. I wasn’t and still am not a stupid stoner either. I never smoked and drove. When I was a teenager sure myself and friends were reckless HOWEVER I never got my license til i was 21 and when that happened I vowed to not be the same person smoking and in cars with people who smoked either.

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Now, Keep going forward. I find out that I am pregnant. I would be lying if I said there was not challenges to this. While trying to conceive I still smoked regularly as well too. I never really slowed down. Which I know sounds cray but I felt like if that test ever came up positive then I would be able to just stop which was what happened. With my 1st pregnancy I actually tested early in the morning, the reason was I had to go to the bathroom and i was running out of weed. If the test was negative I would have gone and bought more, if it was positive I was done. At least for the duration of my pregnancy. It was positive! I had the smallest little bit of crumbs left that I rolled into a pinner, I called my friend, we laughed and cried because of how exciting this was and it was my last joint for the next 9 months. My second pregnancy, I actually had gotten an order for weed online and was waiting to receive it when I had taken a pregnancy test and it was in fact positive. So I never smoked any of what I had gotten and low and behold I forgot it at my uncles as well hen we stayed there before we left.

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People always ask if it was hard for em to stop smoking weed. The short answer is No. It was very easy for me. Something inside clicked. I would never say that I was addicted to weed even smoking a joint once my son went to bed at night as he got older. Always when my BF was home because if it was just me alone I never smoked weed. That being said something just happens when you become pregnant that there is more things along the way that are more important in the process. I had a living being that would be growing inside of my body and it was time for me to just stop. Sure the first few weeks are a bit of a minor bummer when you are breaking the habit of your evening routine however in the long run it really was not that hard. Thankfully my BF also does not smoke a lot if at all as he prefers to have a beer at the end of the day or a drink, so I was not really tempted by the smell though either.

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One big deciding factor why I would stop smoking weed is that there is not enough studies on the effects of smoking weed and pregnancy and what there is as far as information I did not want to be responsible for something happening. Even if something so small happened I don’t think I would live with myself if that was possible to be the reason why. I wouldn’t have a drink during pregnancy so why would I smoke a joint. As you know from my blog post about wine vs weed here I view it the same. If i was to do something and anything happened even if it was not the cause of smoking weed I know I would not be able to forgive myself and that I would blame myself for the rest of my life. Even the unknown and risks we do know were not worth it. At this point I think if you are unable to quit smoking weed when you become pregnant maybe you should not be getting pregnant to begin with. I know that is a very blunt opinion but that is how I see it.

As you can see for me, quitting smoking weed during my pregnancy’s has been easy. Maybe I just have a good will power at some points in times but as I said, something clicked. Does that mean I don’t think about it often, no. I do look forward to when this baby is our and my bf and I are relaxing on our deck taking in each others company him sipping a cold beer and I puffing a joint, with our kids asleep. But for the time being I can wait a few more weeks til that happens! I love the fact that I am not one of those people who are super focused on smoking that it consumes my life. I also love the fact that I enjoy a little treat at the end of the day where i can veg out and or tackle some tough cleaning tasks also too!

Were you or someone you know a weed smoker before pregnancy?

Did they find it hard to quit when they got their positive test too?

Let me know below!



Weed vs Wine

Since I could remember there was always a stigma about smoking weed. When you watch movies of you watch women who are mom’s you see once the kids go to bed they pour themselves a nice glass of red wine and sip on that while binging the latest soaps or crime shows that they may not have finished chasing the children around. Another crazy part in this is even when they have a ladies night you also notice that they are typically again, drinking wine! You never see on the big screen a woman and mother who lights up a nicely rolled joint as their way to unwind at the end of a day! Why is that?

I think it is safe to say that alcohol is basically legal across the world in MOST countries. Obviously, of course, you have to be above the legal drinking age in the respected country however it is pretty widely known that it is something that nearly any adult can do. Whether you are in Sweden, Canada, USA, or whatever else as long as you are above that age you are able to drink. Whether you prefer beer, or spirits, or harder booze or wine, this is not classified as a “Drug” so to speak. You are able to get it even in corner stores in some countries.

Does being able to get it so easily make it something that is more popular among women? Or at least accepted in the general public’s eyes? Could be. When you watch these movies you almost sensationalize the fact that this mother is enjoying a nice cool glass of wine at the end of what might have been a tough day!

The fact is, They never talk about the trouble that alcoholism might have on a family. Maybe that one glass becomes 2, or 3, or even more. Maybe something that once started as a beer has now moved to wine or even to a harder liquor in the process. Maybe the money used for booze is money that should be spent on bills. It really is up for interpretation as well. So why is it more accepted than weed?

When people see weed or hear about weed their minds normally goes to weed = drugs which equals bad. But why is that? Weed is something that people can either smoke, drink, eat, or use in a vaporizer that gives you a feeling of “high” if you prefer the THC strains. Or if you prefer the CBD strains it can have some great medical effects as well too. From helping someone to sleep better at night, or help with appetites or anxiety as well too. Why is it viewed as such a terrible thing to do at the end of the day compared to wine which is widely acceptable?

This being said, If you don’t already know. I am Canadian, and if weed is still unfortunately illegal in the country that you live I would suggest NOT smoking it unless you have some sort of medical card or are able to purchase legally. In Canada as long as you are above the legal age in your province of residence you are able to smoke or partake in whatever way you would like for it. Some provinces you can even grow a certain amount of weed also too. For me, living in a country that the weed is technically viewed the same as liquor, I think it can be seen more accepted then in a country where it is criminalized.

If you have read this far, I am sure you are looking for my opinion on this. And I will explain that now.

Drinking a glass at the end of the day, whether one or two. You are nearly unable to do anything depending. When I have a drink or two I prefer not to drive at all even though technically one would be allowed to drive (Provided you are not over the legal limit). I may be feeling a bit woozy depending on the amount of drinks I have had. I don’t like the taste of certain drinks and I also don’t like the fact that for me to let loose (A little!) I need to drink multiple.

Smoking a joint at the end of the day. I know that if I smoke a joint I will for sure be getting a bit of a high. I will also be able to drive in maybe 3-5 hours. Obviously if I smoked more or less I would judge that on when I actually come down from a high. I don’t feel restricted to do anything because I feel like I am able to be in more control.

Does that mean I feel “safer” while smoking weed? No. I treat weed and booze the exact same. You don’t drink and drive on it. You practice safe things while you partake in either and one is not more or better than another. It simply is a preference that I prefer. Just like you don’t drink during pregnancy I also never smoked during it either. When I found out that I was pregnant with my son I stopped immediately. I did not want to risk anything when it came to his life.

So why is wine viewed better then weed for a woman at the end of the day? Maybe this is because people who prefer wine are in a country that weed is still criminalized and not seen as equal to booze. For me though, I would take a joint over a drink any time of the day. Does that mean I don’t have anything to drink? Not normally. If my children were older and had a babysitter or something and my partner and I were to go out and have a few drinks I would also enjoy that too. I just prefer to have grass over the liquor.

Whether you prefer a glass of red, or a smoke of the green, As long as you use responsibly I don’t think anyone should be judging how you unwind at the end of the day.

Do you think that wine vs weed is a valid debate?
Does it matter if you are a female or male at the end of the day partaking in either?


Let me know in the comments below!

– Stacey

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December Update

December is a month I am looking forward to the most this year. Why you may ask, Because it means that HOPEFULLY next year I will be on my way back to Nova Scotia and away from Quebec. This province is actually a different country INSIDE of Canada. A blog in the future will be coming out about that though. Not to mention my favorite holiday is also in December which after is my Birthday month! More blogs coming as well for the holidays I just have to really think about them and type them up this week! Now that my house is decorated and things as well too!

I’m quitting weed. Ok. Let’s not get too crazy here. I’m not really quitting but I am drastically cutting back. That is for sure. The reality of weed and me is that when I smoke I get lazy, as in I’ll stop the stream earlier than I would like, not helping me grow or be consistent. I already stream at a peek hour in the evening which is not ideal for someone who wants to grow or see any type of improvement since so many heavy hitters are also on as well. I am ending the stream after an hour which I am not happy about doing since it doesn’t really get people who know the stream to really get involved too! Not to mention I then beat myself up about it because I know ending a stream early is not helping any thing I am looking to achieve. I also have no self control high. I literally will eat and eat and eat til I feel like crap and do it all again the next time. From here on out no more high streams and only smoking on Friday and Saturday. However when I see results with pounds being gone I’m sure it may be even less. Though there will be a special time when I probably have a puff or so on stream it just wont be in the way of my goals for the channel too! Not to mention it doesn’t help my weight AT ALL either!

Stream schedule will be adding back Sundays as an art stream. I used to do those every Sunday morning last year as part of an emote re-creation wall. Then the year was over and I didn’t know what to do. I’m bringing this back in part for myself. I miss crafting and art. So by putting it in the stream I’m a little forced to do it. Mentally I think it will help me have a creative outlet while being cooped up inside due to Covid.

Blog direction will be steering away from streams or streaming subjects. The support I received from the weight loss struggles has been overwhelming, not to mention after nearly a year of blogging, it made me realize that obviously streaming topics were complete misses. I’ll be keeping it to  a more personal and open subject, just life to parenting to my opinion too. Sure maybe streaming subjects will pop up from time to time but it won’t be anytime soon! I think we will also be trying to re-vamp the blog a bit and make it more personal. To really lean away from the whole streaming section. Make it more appealing and more interesting for people to want to read it. Not to mention I have to think of a catchy name for the blog as well too. Which can be challenging in itself since it can sometimes make or break a blog! I want it to be captivating and capture what the blog is really about! And obviously a touch of humor too!

YouTube will be changing in part with the weed thing. I can’t record baked beauty if I’m barely smoking weed maybe once I get a handle on my eating I will bring it back, but for now a mini break. I have 2 video ideas for uploads in January. it will be still Monday and Fridays. Mondays will be the crafting or creating section but sped up and put to music like a satisfying video. Friday’s will be a stream highlight video. Both should be fairly easy to edit. I need to really manage my time and think about how I can not spend a lot of time editing one video. I need to really think about ways to not spend a long time on a video, when I spend a long time on a video I find myself being extremely lazy and unmotivated to keep going.

Content Overall I think will be taking a major step forward with planning the next year to be successful. I really am trying to plan my blogs and videos so that I don’t miss anything and I can be consistent. I am my own biggest critique. When I plan big things and I dont do them right or I slack I then spiral and slack even more about it. I need to set myself up for success and I think with me planning and having a clearer mind it will really help in the long run for sure!

Crafting and Me time as much as I didn’t want to schedule this I think adding it back into the streams will be great. I really enjoyed when we did the emote artwork on my channel every Sunday morning. Mind you, with a baby they will be in the evenings but I think it will be a great way to have a little creative moments and self care for myself to start the week. Sometimes I find myself getting lazy when it comes to things that I enjoy. I don’t have to do a full stream of it but if we just hung around with members of my community and did artwork and what not I think that will be a great start to some good growth and pulling in viewers who just want to relax without game play.

The reality is I say all these things I just hope I can really stick to them! I have a good feeling that this could be a good month and here is hoping I keep the momentum going though! I need to remember that if I slip up though to not be so hard on myself and when or if it happens not to let the one day snow ball! That is a downfall I have where I let one slip up continue and I shouldn’t be like that!

See you at the end of the month for another update! And prep your belly’s for some sweet blogs this month!

-StaySeeJ08

When I First Smoked Weed

Before I get into this remember.
If you are in a place where weed is ILLEGAL please please please do not smoke/eat/dabble in this. You can get in trouble depending on the laws that you have. I live in Canada and though it might be legal now at one point it as not. Laws are there to abide by and not to break .. If you know what I’m saying. So if you are thinking this is a way for me to endorse smoking up before you are of legal age in the country or state or province that you live in that is not the case here. Use your brain, seriously!

The first time I smoked weed was when I was 16 years old. I know, I know I basically broke the whole first paragraph of this blog post but I think the story will be HILARIOUS and well worth it. I do not recommend if you are this age to start smoking weed. If you were to ask me why I started or what promoted me. Honestly, I have no idea. It just happened. You could say it was a bit of peer pressure and I felt like being new to high school I wanted to fit in somewhere and well why not try being a stoner, everyone likes stoners!

One day after school I had headed down to a person I had just met, Andrew. Well I mean he was new to my school so I had talked to him and we were friends but it was just when the year started. Nothing like Junior high or whatever friends. I never met his Mom before but as soon as I got there he said he kind of wanted to get high. Now, me being SUPER naive I was like Oh.. How and do you have any? His mom grew this little weakling of a plant that he took some from. It obviously wasn’t dried or anything and was tough to smoke but it did the job. I remember us jamming to some Eazy-E remix of How we do. Then there was the “smokers” from my school who popped over to his house. It was a bit awkward for sure since I never hung around with that crowd but they came up for a bit and left. To be fair I am pretty sure we even SMOKED IN THE HOUSE! Like honestly, what was I thinking ?! But here we are.

Now some time has passed. How much I don’t know. I think my mom was working til 8pm. Well, We got a SURPRISE. His Uncle showed up!! Here is the kicker though. My mom did this “stitch” night every Tuesday and there was a woman there who she knew and she also bowled with her every week too. My friend Andrew’s Uncle was HER HUSBAND! So he totally knew who I was! And I don’t mean he was like someone who MIGHT know who I was, I mean he knew. We used to go to their house because they had train tracks behind their house and a lake so we would walk down and then we would swim to the dock for a bit while my mom and her would talk on the shore line. Like this was not a friend who randomly we would see my mom would catch up and that was it for another year. I mean she seen her once if not twice a week REGULARLY for a very very long time!

As you can imagine this has now become one of my worst nightmares and worst fears. He starts calling me by my name. Questioning me. Now there was a lot of times I lied to my parents for harmless things. This was one of the first times so I was completely unprepared. Not to mention thrown off guard as well. His uncle asked “Why was there smoke and it smelled like weed in here”. Andrew was a pro and simply said that the people who stopped over for a visit was smoking it and it wasn’t us. I don’t think he believed us for a second. I kind of went along with Andrew with whatever he said even if it wasn’t believable one bit. Then his uncle said I should call my mom. Which I did stupidly. I should have walked home. The worst part is that he basically knew who I was before I knew who he was! Due to the fact he was normally working whenever we would visit his wife.

Once my mom picked me up it was extremely awkward the drive home. She questioned me the entire time. ARE YOU HIGH? DID YOU SMOKE WEED? I said the same thing, I never smoked any but he had friends who had come over and did smoke some. Obviously I smelled like it so there really was no denying that part of anything. She then questioned why I was stumbling over my words and stuttering and had dry mouth. Again, This was my FIRST TIME smoking weed so I was in no means a professional that I am today not to mention I never knew the side effects either! Once we got home I think i went to my room and stayed there. I couldn’t even tell you if I did anything else, Maybe I had a shower? Maybe I went to bed? I really don’t remember that part anymore!

So there you have it, The first time I smoked weed. You would think something like that would completely turn me off from smoking since I legit almost or kind of got caught smoking but it didn’t. I just became more secretive and was better at lying. I didn’t see it as a problem as I was never lying to hurt anyone and I wasn’t always flat out lying, I just was dancing around the truth really! Instead of going to a basketball game for the school one night I would be going with a friend to smoke weed in the park.

420, A stoned blog post!

As many of you know, I do smoke weed. Call me a hypocrite though as I’m writing this on April 13th and I am in fact not stoned as it is 12:30pm. I don’t normally smoke during the day through the week Monday-Friday only in the evenings and I do write these out to be scheduled in order to save time! Not to mention, if I schedule them I am able to not miss out on a week too! Being a new mom takes responsibility and I cannot be high all day every day like I was when before I was pregnant. Before I had become pregnant with my son and weed became legal in Canada I was smoking weed any chance I got! After school, wake and bake on the weekend, and all night and day long! It was easy when you didn’t have to look after a tiny human that’s for sure! Here is my take on weed, and if it is legal where you are, enjoy a toke too!

I first started smoking weed when I was 16 years old. The second time I smoked it in fact, I nearly got caught! I was over at a friends house and his uncle was the husband to my moms friend. Needless to say he basically called us out and I had to lie to my mom saying that I was not smoking weed at all. And after that I just had to be more careful when it came to getting high! I probably did a lot of stupid things too though. My best friend and I used to say we would go to the store. We never did. We would bring wrappers of candy and use those and tell my parents or hers that we ate the candy on the way home. What we actually did was go to the woods up from my house along the path and smoke weed. Rain or shine we were there, no joke! Not to mention the countless hot boxes and Jamaican rains that have been done over the years also too!

Now as most think, or seen to think, weed is as you would expect anything to be that is “drug” related to be controversial. Here where I live, in Canada, Weed is legal everywhere as long as you are of age in the province where you live. Though there is debate to raise the age to 21 due to the fact that weed effects the growing brain and in teenagers the brain does not stop growing til you are above the age of 20 or so. Which I can understand why it is such a taboo subject.

As someone who does smoke weed regularly except for the odd times when I would go a month or two without smoking (And of course, I never smoked when I became pregnant with my son!) I am a firm believer that weed should be treated just as alcohol. You should be of age and you also should be responsible as well. No driving or whatever you wouldn’t do while drinking. Responsibility is key when consuming these type of things as well too. I think as far as Canada is there seems to be not a MAJOR rise in weed related offenses in the eyes of the law as well. Which I think is a good thing.

For me personally, I prefer smoking weed over drinking. Not that there is anything wrong with either if done in moderation of course however for some reason smoking a joint has just appealed to me way more then getting drunk off my face. Maybe it is because |I feel like I am in more control when I smoke weed (Don’t let that confuse you with thinking that I feel like I am invincible!). The way I see it is this. If I smoke a joint at 4pm, Relax and hang out, by 10pm or so I should be good enough to go anywhere if I wanted to, ie maybe drive home from a friends or maybe to the store or whatever. If I was to start drinking at 4pm I really can only have ONE drink and that means basically nothing because I wont be able to catch a buzz, and anything more I wont risk at all due to the fact if I am pulled over and asked to take a roadside sobriety test then I could be in very deep crap!

That being said, I wasn’t always making smart decisions. When I was a teenager (Like most!) I would drive around with friends as we smoked weed. I never had my license but would be a trusted shot gun comfort. Sure looking back that was an extremely stupid thing to do. Was there a lot of Red Flag” moments? Of course there was! Would I change it? Possibly. But it was fun none the less and I would probably be upset if my own kid was doing the same thing when he grows older! As my mom always said, Do as I say not as I do.

Weed was probably something that helped me to connect with a group of people not to mention when I was a teenager it probably helped me stay sane while I was in an abusive relationship too. Though weed was also one of the many reasons we fought it also was something I used to connect with friends and what not too.

I guess what I am trying to say is don’t be stupid if you wish to smoke weed. Enjoy the art of what it is to get high and embrace the journey you are about to take and create some memories! And if you don’t agree with that, It is okay too!

Before I end this wacky and fun to write blog post Ill leave you with this, when I was in college there was a girl who had a saying on her Facebook page. And I firmly believe it. “Weed, For making the bad times good, And the good times better!”

-StaySeeJ08