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3 Shows We Avoid Watching with Our 2 Year Old

When it comes to having your toddler or small child watching TV I think it goes without saying, you are the parent and you decide what they watch or how often they watch it. There is no right or wrong way to allow this to happen. That being said, I have seen places where they talk about not allowing any child under 2 watch TV. This might be particularly challenging if you have multiple children of various ages. Are you going to tell them no to a TV show because they have a younger sibling? Or are you going to compromise and put a TV show om for a period of time. If you decide to put a TV show on, here is the 3 shows we will not be showing in our household.

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The wiggles is a show that I honestly have not seen a whole lot about but know that once you start it can be very obsessive. This is based on the fact that whenever they were doing shows around the world pre-covid people all over my Facebook with small children would be posting how they want tickets or whatever for their little kids. For me, I am not a fan of any type of show that has adults jumping and playing and singing songs the entire time. I will admit I could be way off on this and the show might be OK but in this house we will be doing our best to avoid it at all costs. And before I hear “But Blue’s Clues has an adult doing those things” not really. It has a host yes, but the main character is a puppy ans they learn and do things. There is just something that I want to avoid and shows such as this or even the one that was popular when I was growing up “Imagination Movers” are shows that I would honestly like to avoid when it comes to allowing my child to have any screen time!

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Baby Shark or Peppa Pig are shows we also are trying to avoid. For obvious reasons. Now as an adult, Peppa is a spunky pig. But as a child I do not want my kids to be learning how to be spunky and back talk me! Maybe when they are older and want to watch and understand that she is a bit out their in terms of defying her parents sure, but as they are learning no. Another reason why we aren’t watching shows such as Baby Shark is again the obsession it had caused. I heard this song far more often before I had kids due to everyone talking about it or videos being made with the song that I honestly am just over it! We do not need to introduce a song that will lead to an obsession. Sure, they will probably like it. But as an adult, you don’t want to make it a problem where whenever your child is upset you put it on. Or whenever you turn it off you find yourself dealing with a temper tantrum. You as the parent are in control of what your child watches. I personally do not want TV to be an obsession or a way to relieve a tantrum unless maybe your little one is sick. Even then I dont want to rely on a TV show or songs to divert a crisis. My partner and I already sing enough of the Blue’s Clues songs we really do not want to add to that list of songs by these that you hear for months and months after the first are heard!

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And, last, but certainly not least. The number one show we will never ever ever play in our home, is Caillou. This kid is a straight up brat. As a teenager or older child we actually made fun of how Caillou was. He whined and cried whenever he did not get his way. His parents kind of let him do it. And when he had a sister Rosie come along it was just the same! This is basically the exact opposite of what type of child we hope to avoid when it comes to raising our children. Not to mention the fact that he still never changes through all of the seasons. Be still wants everything to be about him with everyone around him. His grandparents, neighbors, friends and everything else. The fact that this show has finally also been cancelled due to the fact that the kid is a menace. Apparently some episodes are even banned by PBS due to the fact that the kid is a big old meany. Sure, as kids grow up they have to be able to learn things and explore how to properly behave but when it comes to Caillou there really is no learning in the many episodes where he properly learns to behave with nearly a melt down every single show.

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I am sure there are plenty of other shows out there that can be really off putting and parents avoid at all costs. These are just the shows that I will continue to try my best to avoid at all costs. And mentioned in the blog post here where I talk about the top 3 shows we watch, we really limit our TV time with my son. TV shows are not babysitters and if you are going to put something on to grab your child’s attention for a few moments than that is totally fine. My son watches a bit of TV every day but it is never excessive. It is mostly before bedtime or even the occasional moment when I am prepping food or trying to get him to watch something while I run up and down the stairs to switch over loads of laundry on different levels.

Do you allow your child or toddler to watch TV?
Is there any shows that you choose not to allow to be shown in your house?


Let me know in the comments below, I know there must be some I missed!


November Update 2021

I feel like I legit JUST wrote an Update. Maybe because the October one was a few blog days after I normally would write but still here we are! At the time of writing this, October 27th (as you know ahead of time!) I am in fact still pregnant!

Streams have been going slowly and fee and far between. Normally max of 2 hours if that due to the fact that my back gets sore from sitting in the computer chair downstairs for long periods. Ive just been trying to do different things to be active across social medias and discord and streams even if I am not live. Blogging is slowly getting back to regularity which is a great feeling. I have been really into following people who are from Nova Scotia and really seeing the people around the province. It is a great feeling to see things across the province. I will be focusing on growing my Twitter for streams and the new business I would like to officially launch in the new year.

On to new business! In January I would love to begin selling some of my artwork and sewing treasures. Once I get some things going and settled I will be doing. A few giveaways across my social media platforms so I can hopefully grow the pages a bit before the actual launch as well too. My goal currently is to produce small things so that way I am not spending a fortune on shipping right now. Things that can fit into small envelopes and things. I am also probably going to limit my shipping to Canada/United states and United Kingdom. I also am planning to just use my socials. I do not want to use a website like Etsy or what not because I feel like starting out, i would be spending more money on growing my business. Another thing is I am doing really hard to not spend money on buying new supplies. I would like to try to sell what I already have or can make already. Build some sort of income and bank roll.that way instead of spending on things. I would like to really give this a go and try to bring in some money for my family. Though growing pages and building clients can be one of the trickiest things with this. Not to mention making a profit too. I will be also getting some business cards made also. That way I can add them to packages. It will be hard but I am determined to build something while at home and taking care of my kids.

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Next is the new baby arriving soon! I am really working on trying to tackle little organizing things around the house. Things like making a spot in our bedroom for the bassinet, prepping and organizing drawers or spots in the kitchen, getting the bottles ready since we will be formula feeding. Things like that. My spouse will not be taking time off work right away so this will be something I do to keep busy. Not to mention the last week of October and beginning week of November he is gone through the week so this will keep me busy.. Nesting so to speak! And of course I need to pack the hospital bags also. Basically getting everything as ready as possible to be able to have a smooth transition from one fella to two! I an excited for this change and to be able to finally sip one drink with my partner in our new house and relax and take in the holidays as a family of four. I am still very nervous about another birth but also waiting patiently for it to happen!

Other than that Halloween has recently passed too. For this year we decided to just go see friends and family with our little fella. He is still far too young to really go door to door but when we were younger my parents would take us to friends and family to say hello and trick or treat for them. We will be starting in the afternoon and then we will be coming back and maybe giving out a handful of treats since there is not a whole lot of trick or treaters that come to our street. Which is a stark contrast to the old house where there would be 250+ kids sometimes! It Will still be nice to celebrate with some family and friends to see them for brief moments and introduce some to Vincent as well too!

And lastly. I am nearly done Christmas shopping and am so thankful I started when I did! This weekend, well the 1st in November I will also be going to tackle the rest of everything I would like to get! I want to get everything from my baking supplies to start at the end of the month, a few things to put in gifts since the majority is done, as well as see if I can make a trip to the dollar store also too. That is basically everything really. I am thankful I started so early because some of the gifts I had gotten for our son Vincent are becoming increasingly harder to find not to mention when it is found there is a way bigger price tag than I had found! I am so happy that I will be done this weekend though. At 37w pregnant it is a challenge to be doing things and I would rather not wait in case I am more sore with this little guy, or even if he is late and I have to shop deep into December because that just will not cut it!

Overall I think October went swell and I cannot wait for November to have a new addition to the family! There will be hopefully more stability in blogs being posted as well too! And yes, There will be a birth story blog coming up as well as how we choose our newest son’s name too!

– Stacey

Pregnancy 34 week update – Nearly THERE!

Firstly, I am SORRY for not updating you all since the half way point, Holy smokes. It really has been that long and I have no idea how time flew by but here we are. I will try to cover as much as possible with out making this boring for you since we are nearing the end of my 2nd pregnancy and it feels insane to think that in however many weeks I will have another little fella in my lap!

During this time we had a second ultrasound which was at 31 weeks. Again, it was great because my boyfriend was able to come along and my dad watched my son til my mom was home from work. it is nice to be able to have family here to be able to help out if need be. Everything at the ultrasound went great. The technician even got us a photo with the 3D technology and we could kind of see his face! I know it sounds craZy and it was! But we are very excited as time inches closer. I will say this, that ultrasound did freak me out a little bit. My son when he was born weighed 6lbs and 12 oZ. This boy, he was measuring 2.5 weeks ahead in growth AND he was currently weighing according to the ultrasound 4lb and 14oZ. So as you can see this is quite the siZe difference from my first son to my second son! I am hoping that he comes early but any time after 36 weeks would be ideal obviously. I will be doing all the little tricks that probably do absolutely nothing just to hope he comes quicker. Like drinking raspberry leaf tea, or sitting on a yoga ball to help him really get into position!

As for how I feel, I would say that I am feeling pretty good though! I feel like sleeping at night is for sure becoming a lost art though with the amount of times I have to get up during the night for varies reasons especially heart burn. Which I am currently on medication for among taking tums here and there. I still find myself waking for varies reasons even if it is just the bathroom or sleeping to long on one of my sides compared to the other side. My body is for sure aching more as it stretches to the max and I am trying to take baths frequently in the evenings to help curb that also too. Overall I have also been trying not to nap in the afternoon because I am enjoying the time my son sleeps as my personal me-time whether that mean I am sewing or getting a bit of gaming in while he naps. Though normally I do have a bit of regret about not sleeping when he naps because towards the end of the day I find myself dragging my butt in the process.

Other than that I feel like I am anxiously awaiting for this little fella to be born. I feel like with my son the last few weeks didn’t really pass quickly but I didn’t think they passed slow either. With this little guy I am anxiously awaiting for him to arrive, again not before 36 weeks but still any time after that would be great due to the fact he was measuring so far ahead. The crunch time to try and get everything ready for him in the process is just that, a process but I feel like I am on a good pace to have everything done and ready for him. I did however have to purchase myself some new pants since the ones I had were getting holes in the thighs as well as it is getting colder and all I had was basically shorts! I will be taking more about the details of prepping for our new baby here once the blog post goes life in a little bit, so keep the eye out for that as well!

One thing I have noticed with this pregnancy is that I look and feel rounder. I know strange but apparently with more pregnancy’s you will grow a bit more in the process since you are already stretched so much as it is from the 1st. I also find myself really trying to focus more on weight loss. Obviously this is a bit away after I am all healed up but I am thinking about how I want to really try to get under what i was pre-pregnancy as far as weight goes and try my best to become a lighter version of me. I feel like I didn’t really over indulge this pregnancy like I did with my son and that is not a bad thing by any means, I just would like to really try to become a better me where I can chase around these two boys in the future and not be winded in the process which is not a good time!

Overall I am really looking forward to the little things. I asked my partner if he was nervous, more or less this time than last and he said he was less nervous because we had already done this before. I said that I was getting nervous and anxious about that as well. I am going into the mind set that I am not trying to be a hero, if I need an epidural than I need one. But I wont be trying to hold out because I never needed one the 1st time. I don’t want to be in agony and pain the entire time to prove a point to no one. I would be lying if the ultrasound measurements didn’t freak me out also since this little one seems to be a lot bigger than his brother was! Though measurements can be off to some extent also that is known to happen too.

Were you still just as nervous the second time you or a loved one was pregnant
How were you feeling towards the end too

Let me know in the comments below! I would love to hear anyone`s thoughts

October Update 2021

Welp here we are! I am a few days late but that is totally okay by me. This have been hectic to say the least however let’s break it down for the month in review!

Streaming is yet again, om the back burner for me. With everything I have legit no desire to be sitting in front of the computer. The computer chair that I have is also not very comfortable so sitting there even for a little bit starts to hurt my back just as it did with my 1st pregnancy.  I think going forward I would drop streams to 2x per week. On Mondays and Friday’s. If I want to do more the option is always there and if I don’t want to do more than I don’t need to. I still love streaming don’t get me wrong, but I want to spend my time doing productive things that can begin to make money for my family. Not to mention, I have really not been into playing dead by daylight like I once was. The game has gotten stake for me and I have nearly no desire to play it. I am still on the fence with content if I want to just play solo games or if i would like to start doing more crafting/just chatting streams into the mix also. Adding crafting into the mix would mean that I am able to do more in terms of potentially making money for my family. I’m not stressing over it as we wait for the birth of our second child but all are ideas that I am having do cross my mind! With that being said I also would like to revamp my discord server. While healing from this pregnancy that may be the only thing I try to regularly use. I want to bring back a simplistic and society/community based theme to bring people together. Streaming for little to no financial reward is challenging at best. Especially when I feel like I do have skills that I could be using to better financially support myself and bring in a few dollars to the house. I miss being able to work and have a pay check but I also love staying at home as a mom. I just need to think creatively and figure out a way to make it happen!

If you also haven’t noticed, since the move I have been majorly slacking on the blog too. Why? I have no idea. I normally do really well with writing and pre-writing things out so I can get things written efficiently. I have not done that. I need to though because I would really like to make sure that I can get things going for when our second son is born that they can be scheduled and just consistent. Just like before when I did this with my 1st pregnancy, only last time I wrote strictly about streaming and now I barely even touch on that unless it is my monthly updates! I will really be trying to hammer down on building another handful of  logs to schedule while writing about subjects that also come up in life too. I think in 2022 I will be attempting to do blogs 3x per week. I feel like I also need to research a lot more about SEO and how I can better make my blogs seen by people too!

And lastly, our home update! Everything upstairs is basically painted! A few walls in the new babies room need to be done, and then after the front entry if the house needs to be done but that is for now. Oh and the floors in the bedrooms also need to be done but the main hallway, dining area and living room floors are done which is huge! And the kitchen and bathroom and front entry floors also need to be done. And the baseboards because the ones with the carpet were all different and we want them to be the same (Obviously!). Downstairs will have to wait til the time comes when we use it more. I also feel a bit of a rush with the due date approaching to get everything ready and prepared for the birth! I am so happy with the house turning out to be ours. It is crazy to think how it was and where it has gone with us updating things. Just getting rid of the carpet in the main living areas has been such a huge change!

As you can see things have been happening here in my life, I just have not been able to find times update people on it though! I am enjoying the last bits of peace and quiet til we have our new sin with us into the world. Update in that also coming soon too! As the time approaches where we will have him I have an increase in anxiety and increase in nervousness. I think that is okay natural though. Thankfully I have been keeping use with crafting and planning and sewing to prep for the new year. Sometimes one of the hardest things for me is the fact I have so many ideas and not enough time in the run of a day to finish everything! Even an extra hour the day would be great. Let’s not forget too, as this baby is growing so is the need to run to the washroom every 2 hours at night which is drastically cutting into my sleep schedule! And on top of that while my son naps I have been, more often than not also napping too! Even an hour seem to help me feel a little bit caught up!

Here is to hoping that I can get back on track and make things happen more and more in prep for the year coming up!

How has things been going in your life?

Did you have a great summer? How has fall even treating you also?

Let me know in the comments below!

Fake Positive People

If there is one thing I think a lot of people can agree on it’s that they do not like to be surrounded by people who only ever talk about things that are negative. I think this goes without saying the opposite can also be true. That no one enjoys when someone is obviously positive. Just as people who are constantly negative, you know the person where you tell them a struggle in your life, but they respond to that by saying that their life is that much worse than whatever you just confided to them with. I think the same also goes for overly positive people, the type of people that you could be mentioning you won 100 dollars on a scratch ticket and are excited to put the money towards something, and this person responds with the fact they won 500 dollars on a scratch ticket and that it was way better for them to be able to do multiple things with it. Both of those kinds of people are people who can easily get on someone’s nerves.

I might get a lot of flack over this post. Why? Because in a world with so much negative, positivity can be in short supply. Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily. I have nothing wrong with people being positive. I would like to think that for myself I can also be positive when I am faced with challenges. That being said, I am also a realist. You can actually read all of my confessions as a realist here. If you say something to me I will be telling you how it is flat out or even if it means hurting someones feelings perhaps too. Not that it would be done intentionally of course.

Here is why I don’t agree with people who are positive every single day of their lives. Get ready for it.

Life is not ALWAYS positive. Sure you can say well if someone looks on the bright side of things. Yes. I guess they can be pretty positive. Realistically though, Life is anything but always positive. There are neutral events, positive things, hurtful challenges, and whatever else but life is not always positive. I think when it comes to life, treating it positively and making everything seem to be positive can be in fact damaging to yourself. You are subconsciously bottling up everything that you might not like in order to present to the world this outward positivity is not healthy. Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that some things are not positive. If you are too busy trying to be positive when something comes that is negative that you have to deal with you will have a lot of trouble coping with it due to the fact you never really have.

Sure, you can still be a whole lot of positive and still be happy. But to totally disregard anything that can showcase an issue or struggle is quite frankly showing how naive someone might be. I think also the people who interestingly enough are always broadcasting to the world that they are a “positives vibes only” or “always positive person” are the ones who really might not be as positive as they want you to think. People project a positive vibes only personality because I think the world only wants to see positive vibes. Truth be told, A lot of folks who are trying to really make a community are finding traction by just being honest with themselves and the world find themselves growing faster for being able to connect with their audience on a human level. Not just a fake positive level that many try to portray. In the long run eventually something will have to slip up and you will find yourself annoyed at the fake positive world you have created.

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I notice fake positive people on social medias and more specifically streaming. These are the streamers who are more or less always talking about how they are incredibly positive and only have positive vibes to share blah blah blah. They are the ones who make a point to have this directly on their profiles or on their streams or social somewhere to let others know that they for sure are going to be a good positive environment to have. They so outwardly have the best outlook with no negative things happening in their lives, EVER. I think when someone is in a position of influence and they spread this it can be doing more harm than good. You almost have to ask yourself regarding these people, Are they going to snap one day and blow off all the positivity and really go full blown self destruction mode? Are they hiding something and this is a face they put on for others? My personal favorite in regards to this is that people whoa re positive all the time or that is what they decide to show, are normally ones who can also be quite negative behind the scenes. Maybe they partake in cancel culture. Or maybe they comment and spread hate when no one else is watching. Or they think no one is anyways.

The point of this is that no one is ever positive 100 percent of the time. Life really is like a roller coaster with different types of emotions and things that come up and down and left and right. Embracing all emotions will help you cope with them in the long run. If you react accordingly and learn to handle situations better it will be a lot easier to react to problems, not to mention will be way less stressful as well too when you are dealing with things instead of pushing them aside for positivity.

Do you know anyone who has any fake positive vibes and only positive?

Do you find yourself more of a fake positive person or a realist when it comes to projecting yourself on to the world?

Let me know in the comments below, I would love to hear your thoughts on this issue also!

Summer Update 2021/September Update!

If you are a regular follower of the blog, you will know that there was no July update. Why might you ask? Because we were basically dealing with a nightmare and blogging the experience as it was happening was not something I was honestly looking forward to doing. I will try to keep this short and sweet and give the timeline of what happened. And now that things are settled it seems like the right time to really tell all of you how the summer has been going even with the hiccups!

On July 4th we went to my Uncles house where we stayed til the 10th. This was instead of staying in a hotel. With a toddler, a cat and a dog this seemed to be the easiest way. Not only that but being the only family to love in Quebec with my uncle and a short drive away it only seemed fair to spend some quality time with him and his husband before we headed back home to Nova Scotia.

July 5th was when our things were to be packed. That went great also. It took maybe 4 or so hours and the house was packed. Now, only after our effects were boxes and taped did we find out that we may not have a load day the following day. My boyfriend was then expected to go to our home, well old home, and wait to see if anyone shows up. This was Tuesday. Wednesday we still hear nothing so he stayed at my Uncles with me and we waited to hear. Finally the Thursday, July 8th was when we given a “load” date which was only when our boxes were packed up into a storage place to wait for an actual load to bring it to Nova Scotia. At this point we had seen online that the moves federally have been a nightmare. For more people than not.

We still arrived in Nova Scotia on July 10th. Thankfully my dad had his truck broken. So he was able to drop off different things like pots and pans and a few camping chairs, some utensils and dishware, food and an air mattress and sheets too. Since we were required to isolate for 2 weeks upon arrival based on Nova Scotia’s covid phases and protocols. We essentially were camping in our home. And for the record, yes we could have stayed in a hotel, however just purchasing a home we felt it was best if we were to stay there, have paint dropped off social distanced of course, and we just paint paint paint. Which we did. We got probably 85% of our painting done which was great.

Fast forward 2 weeks this brings us to about the 24th. And look here. We do not have any of our things STILL. We still have no idea what we are even doing but at least isolation is done and that is a huge help because we are able to get things like grocery’s that we need and do not have to rely on people as much. At one point we also had to purchase a double high mattress because the one my dad lent us was nearly 20 years old with a slow leak. He left the air compressor but my pregnant butt was getting stiff from waking up on the floor in the middle of the night.

Fast forward to this camping lifestyle in our own home. We did not end up getting our things til 29 days later. I believe Tuesday August 3rd was when our unload day was. Mind you we basically had to fight the previous week to even find out when and where our things were. And we never were told “It was arriving” It was more or less a maybe it might show up. Only the day of when my BF went to work (Life didn’t stop just because our things were not here) did he get a phone call saying “By the way your things will be at your home in 20 minutes) I then had to run around prepping everything for my son and the dog and cat in their respected rooms so that we were able to actually have the house able to have things put in.

After that the rest was basically history. We just were happy that our things had finally arrived and we could sleep in our own beds and our son had his crib also too. The unboxing was happening and returning to life in our new home. It was a surprise all of our things were even there due to the weird circumstances surrounding the move. The whole thing COULD have been avoided if only the movers that we had and federal company whom my spouse works for had said we will push your move for a few weeks because at this point they were already backlogged in moves with people already waiting. However they just kept piling on and piling on moved with no truck drivers or loaders available to take furniture and boxes for families.

As I write this for the update in September, things are slowly coming together. Streams are back in action. Painting needs to be done but there is heat waves and not worth the heat to struggle and paint. We should finish before September I hope! I also need to paint details on my Son’s wall for his “Space” theme bedroom. And on top of it eventually paint the new babies bedroom also too. I think we will be doing a woodland/forest theme as well. And we purchased our flooring which my dad will eventually help us update because the shag carpet has got to go. And yes, I have done before and during photos so once they are done I will update those on here also in updates the differences!

Have you moved before?

Did everything run smoothly?

Or was there some hiccups as well for you?

Let me know in the comments below! I would love to hear them!

-Stacey

3 TV Shows That We Let My Toddler Watch

Letting your baby or toddler have any screen time can be controversial for a topic by itself. Apparently it has been said children under 2 should not be watching anything on TV. I am in the mind set that as I was the oldest of 3 children, and if I watched TV my younger siblings may have also watched and they turned out just fine. That being said, there are only a few shows we allow my son to watch right now. Let’s chat about which ones they are and why. Before I begin though, remember there is no “right or wrong” way to divide up or limit your child from watching TV. This is a personal parenting choice. However I think it may be debatable if you choose to be a parent to put the TV on with their favorite shows from dawn til dusk to essentially be a babysitter for you.

Number one, and current favorite show for my son is Blue’s Clues as well as Blue’s Clues and You. We put this show on when he was having trouble drinking his bottle at night because he wanted to look or focus on something. I actually used to watch the original series when I was a child. For it to come out and be remade is great. I think my son personally enjoys watching this television show due to the colors that are in the show, the songs and the fact that the host essentially talks to the audience. As he grows he will learn to pick up more and more from it too. Currently he has a peek-a-boo blue which he loves and knew who she was when he was just 10 months old and got her for Christmas. He also is beginning to clap, and laugh at particular parts of the show also. And if they show a part with dancing he will start to dance along too. As annoying as it is for parents to watch the same handful of shows for long periods of times, I would gladly watch Blue’s Clues as apposed to other shows out there.

Next we started to watch the show Bubble Guppies with my son. I remember my sister putting this show on for my niece and nephew. It teaches things and again every episode has some sort of songs. It is repetitive but there is so many episodes that repeating them often would be a challenge. My son again is getting to the age where he starts to dance at songs sometimes also. He is not as interested in this show as he has been on Blue’s Clues but it is probably his second favorite though. Easily. We also put it on simply to change it up when we are all Blue’s Clues out. Since the songs are different and the whole theme is not the same it really helps to break up the repetition especially since each show tends to focus on different things. Though, if it is the same subject matters they always have a different take on approaching it for many ways to learn. The fact that songs mostly change each episode also helps in a big way since we all know as parents how repeating songs can have on us! Sometimes if our son is not enjoying Blue’s Clues we put this on and he tends to enjoy it!

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And lastly, this more so I put on for him which is Octonauts. This is a show similar to Bubble Guppies with different animals rescuing others. It teaches about different sea animals and creatures that need helping from various reasons. Again as many kids shows it has special songs for different events that happen in the show. This show only ever gets put on occasionally because the 1st two mentioned are the major favorites but if this one does end up on he does enjoy it also too.

Then you have little shows we put on from Netflix like Pocoyo, or Masha and the Bear. This is quick shows that we start the day with only when I have to get his bottle ready, use the washroom myself, and take the dog out to do his business too! It is not full episodes by any means and just enough for him to be in his play pen while I run outside with the dog and know that the dog will be safe in the process too. They also can help keep him busy if I have to do some house work, quick cooking, or flip laundry since it is on a different level than the one we play on.

Preventing your child may seem easy but it really isn’t. Not to mention when you decide to have more children if the older ones are watching TV are you going to prevent them from doing so? Or are you going to just limit technology and not let it become an obsession. The total time daily my son in particular watches TV or some type of show would be a maximum of an hour and 15 minutes per day. Sometimes the max would be two hours but only due to the fact that I may have a few extra things to do around the house that this keeps him busy. Mind you, out TV is on all the time but as long as it does not have a cartoon type show on the TV it really is not a big deal as my son has no interest in those right now. When it is on he will typically play with his toys on the floor independently.

What do you think about letting your toddler watch some TV during the day.

Is there any shows that you dont allow your little one to watch? (Read the shows that I dont put on here)

Let me know your thoughts on this controversial subject below! I love to hear different parenting styles!

Overcoming a Crummy Relationship

Overcoming a crummy relationship can really be subjective in the sense what one person may find what someone else does may be something totally different. As usual, these are things that I have found to help or even friends have found to have helped them when they are finding themselves in the middle of a break up.

To be fair, I have only ever had one break up in the romantic sense. For me, I was ready for it to be over so that made things easier. However this was when I was 18 til just turning 20 years old. He was abusive and we had broke up once before. However I was blind and thought I would go back for a second year like that was a good idea. These are some things that I did to help time pass and move on with the fact I was again single!

I focused a lot on friendships. In my situation I was almost isolated from my friends. When we had broken up I found support in friends whom I had disconnected with before. We did a bunch of things like going for drives, or even partying downtown. For the first few years I was legal to drink in Nova Scotia I never did. As I said I was isolated from things. I felt the need to just let things happen and experience the night life that everyone my age was wanting to experience. I feel like I really caught up to a bunch of friends who had been veterans to the bar scene. Getting to spend time and catch up with them was great for me. Some people I had seen across social medias but never had the time or opportunity to really catch up and see what was happening. Focusing on this also helped me to see what healthy relationships they were in, if they were, and kind of remind myself that the relationship I was in was toxic and not healthy.

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Another thing is time. There is no amount of time that you can take to get over a relationship, whether it ended mutually, whether it ended on good or bad terms. You have to be the one to decide whether or not it is time to move on. Sometimes people can move on from a relationship super quickly, other times they can take a long time to move on from a relationship. It really just depends on each individual person. And each relationship can also be different too. Maybe your first one you got over it super easy and the second one took a long longer. There is no right or wrong way to deal with a relationship and how much you need or how little you need to move on.

Another thing I did to try and get over the one relationship that I had that really impacted me was going back to things that I loved. Not just spending time with friends but I mean activities that I also loved. I liked to play games, and I liked to do art. I tried to do these things more often because I never had the chance to before. I put myself into working a bit more due to the fact I was spending most of my money on my ex, I was working a bit more to spend it on myself, finally. Even just chatting on the phone or updating socials and spending time outside can be huge. Sometimes in relationships that might not be great we end up losing a bit of ourselves and pushing aside things that you might regularly love, only to find yourself revisiting that when you are in a healthy and happy mindset.

One thing that I really wanted to do when I felt like looking up towards a relationship again was take my time. My current boyfriend of nearly 11 years understood that when I explained it to him. I wanted to really get to know him before we started to get serious. Just spend a lot of time together before hand and understand what we both wanted in life and with each other. My previous relationship I barely knew the guy and felt like I became trapped. This time it was super weird and I was happy that my current partner and I were able to build that strong foundation to be where we are today. It honestly still feels like a dream and I feel very fortunate to be able to call him my life mate.

Regardless of how long you have been with someone, or how it ended, remember, no one can dictate how you feel or how you are supposed to overcome any relationship, especially crummy ones. Sometimes being along and binge watching a comfort show on Netflix is the way to go. For me, I wanted to reconnect with people and just enjoy all of the things that I was held back from for so long. Including the bar scene, and other things like hanging with friends, going for drives for junk food and listening to old school music. I also wanted to just enjoy the freedom of being able to do whatever I wanted without restrictions and someone telling me what I could or couldnt do. That was huge for me especially with being stuck with the dumb ex for the previous 2 years. I am glad when I was transitioning to this relationship that I am currently in that I was able to really find who I was again, and not rush into another one. I feel like the break for me was completely necessary! And for some, maybe the break is not necessary at all either! Every person is different.

Have you ever had to overcome a crummy relationship in the past?
If so, Was there anything that you remember doing, that you are glad you did to help you move past this difficult time?

Let me know in the comments below! Some other readers might also be looking for some new tips and tricks too!

Getting Through The 1st Trimester

Finding out that you are pregnant can be a very exciting time in anyone’s life! I know when we first found out we were pregnant with my first child, and now our second one we were excited! However I feel like my first pregnancy I was a bit lucky because I barely had any symptoms except for being tried. When I was tired I would just sleep But now having a toddler and being pregnant for the second time things are way more challenging. Here are my tips to help me get through the first trimester (With or without a toddler!).

SLEEP! In the first trimester you are probably losing a lot of sleep. Not only that but suddenly your bladder seems to be super small and you are running to the bathroom nearly every 3 hours especially in the middle of the night even if you did not do that to begin with before. Thought I was really lucky that my partner was home often I was able to sleep when I felt like it because he would watch our son. However, if he was working late I would still try to nap when my toddler did. It can be hard though because some days I would be super tired and go to sleep and would have one of those days where my son nearly never slept his nap time. However a lot of times it works really well to be able to nap when he does. It may not seem like a lot but it really is a decent amount of time to be able to sleep and not over sleep. Though be warned that sometimes I tend to find myself more tired after this. But catching up on sleep is really important if you are able to sleep during the day. I will say, going into the second trimester there is some relief in terms of when you need to run to the bathroom from your sleepy slumber but in terms of the increased bathroom visits. They will still be a lot due to the fact your body is housing a baby! Try to also drink water early in the day (Something that I do not do) And limit it late at night so that you find yourself hopefully nearly empty when it comes to having to get up to relieve yourself!

Prepping for morning sickness or food aversions was something I did with my first pregnancy and now this one even though I did not think I needed it much. I had certain staples in my kitchen such as ginger ale, little sour candies that would help with morning sickness. I also had carnation instant breakfast’s as well. They really helped in the morning when I was not interested in eating breakfast a lot and still filled me up though to be able to function at some point. I still have been pretty lucky even with this pregnancy in terms of morning sickness. Even when I did have it it was mainly after supper and by that point my boyfriend was already home and was able to take the the lead when it came to putting my son to bed and getting him ready for his sleep. Having things like this was a huge help especially the ginger cookies which I would have a few snacks on in the mornings when my stomach was just a bit more upset though.

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Make it fun and have an app or two! When I was pregnant with my son I used two in particular, they were Ovia Pregnancy and then What to Expect. These are super fun to use because you are able to pick a subject to compare the size of your baby! When I was pregnant with my son I used the “fruits and Veggies” theme for both. Every week was a milestone and it would compare the growing baby inside to whatever fruit it was comparable to! This time around I have chosen to do one for 80’s and 90s nostalgic items, and then another one in the “Fun and Games” category. This is a great way to compare the size of your baby to things you know the size of already. With baby number three I assume knowing myself I would be picking a different category to compare the size of the baby to! Another thing that is huge when it comes to these apps is every day or so it will post little tips and tricks about what is happening with the growth of your baby. From things developing and changing. Sure you may have multiple children but still is exciting to see how things develop since you may not remember when things happen as they happen.

Regardless about what you try to do when it comes to surviving the first trimester, there is really multiple things you can do to make it through. Another positive thing to remember is that even if the first trimester is rough, chances are things will slowly level out towards the 2nd trimester. I have been lucky and have found that whatever symptoms I have been feeling does normally seem to disappear a bit. However on rare occasions there are people out there who have to deal with major symptoms in the second trimester also. However, there are also medical interventions that you are perhaps able to take for things such as morning sickness if you talk to your doctor about how you are feeling.

Lastly, remember that there is also so many reasons to sick it out because at the end of everything no matter how sick you get you will have your little bundle of joy to be thankful for! When you see your child you suddenly forget all of the heartaches and sickness you may have felt as it just melts away!

Is there anything that you did when you were feeling a bit wonky in the first trimester?
Do you follow any of the tips and tricks that were mentioned above too?


Let me know as I am sure a lot of other readers would love to read about it also!

What is the “Nesting” Phase Really Like in Pregnancy

You might be new to pregnancy, or you might be someone who knows all about it. For me, I have only ever experiences “Nesting” once. while I am currently waiting to find out if I do the same things for the second time also. Since every pregnancy is different I will be curious to see if there is anything majorly different between the two of them!

What people think nesting is, is a period of time before a baby is born where you are doing the weirdest, and over the top things. Typically people claim this is the time you scrub everything so that it is in tip top shape for when the baby arrives. This includes when you are prepping the room, hospital bag, cleaning and washing cupboards and dishes and walls. You are making sure that everything that can be is ready for when the baby is born. You are probably making sure you have more than enough clothes and then you are washing them also so they are nice and fresh for the new baby too. A lot of people would consider nesting the period in which you get that little boost of energy for a small period of time before you give birth to your child. I would say I agree with this however I dont know if at the time I knew what I was doing was nesting or if I just took advantage of the new found energy!

What I thought about for nesting and what actually happened I think are two different things. I did not think I would really have a big nesting period when it came to having a baby. Looking back now I would say that my nesting period was about the last few weeks of my pregnancy. I started with trying to get everything in place for the baby’s room. Washing clothes, decorating everything also. We did the Harry Potter theme for my son and that was something I worked on a bit as things went but I really tied it all together when the time came. We also did really good on trying to get everything prepped and ordered in terms of tools and trinkets we needed too. Lotions, body washes, socks, diapers, wipes everything in between we would try to get ready. After that I wanted to focus on our basement. Since moving it the place was a mes and since my Uncle was off work we really tried to get it some what organized before Vincent was born. We went through boxes and labeled things and got things ready to be thrown away. Everyone knows when you have a child you have a lot of things that you acquire as the time passes and it is important to really make space for that or you can be overwhelmed.

Aside from these two major things I cant really think of a whole lot that we really did before the baby came in terms of nesting. I think I did this stuff also around 35 weeks so that I was ready and able to spring into action if something happened. I wouldn’t say I really did anything outside of the box in terms of cleaning. Our home was not really bad in terms of clean. However maybe if we were stuck waiting and were over due with the pregnancy I would have done a lot more in terms of trying to get the action moving!

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Now, I am pregnant for a second time! Currently at the time of writing this I am about 18 weeks, still a long way to go! And by the time this is released and you are able to read it I will be in the middle of a move across provinces in Canada! I think if I was to predict the future I will be doing things to be able to prep for the baby by getting their room ready, we are not trying to do anything too serious or big until we know the gender. I have a few ideas on how to do the room however other than that we are just waiting to see. Another thing would be if we are having another boy I will have to re-wash some of the things that we used for my son and prepping those to get ready for the newest addition! I would like to think at the time we will be doing things to get the house up to our standards by painting, organizing and things like that. Nesting for this pregnancy also might be a lot of prepping my son for the arrival for his new sibling! Being an only child and suddenly having to share his parents might be an adjustment for him. Especially with Covid and not really socializing with people much either. Another reason why it might be a bit different is that we will be close to my family and the opportunity for them to help us might also make nesting a bit easier or look different than with our first since we were basically here alone.

There really is no right or wrong way to nest. Maybe you wont even find yourself nesting at all! For me I didn’t really think about it at the time that I was nesting until it actually was done and over with and even a few friends pointed it out! Whenever you do, if you do notice you have this little burst of energy I would for sure use this moment to the full potential for things you might have put off til closer to the birth! I know that is what I will be doing, and Ill be updating you all on if or when I notice my second pregnancy nesting and what I have done if anything differently than my first!

Did you know when you were in the nesting period?
Did your spouse notice that this was what was happening to you as it was happening?
What kind of things did you do when you were nesting?


Let me know in the comments below! Maybe we had somethings in common!